Parents new “friend”

[Itllbealrightonthenight]

I feel uncomfortable about my parents new friend, let’s call her Tracey.
My parents are in their early 60’s, both retired and have plenty of friends and family around them. Almost overnight this Tracey has become part of their everyday lives. Tracey is 26 and according to her, has crappy parents which is why my parents have taken her under their wing. She drives to their house for dinner several nights a week, goes shopping with them, goes to the gym with Dad 3 times a week. I met Tracey for the first time recently and she was pleasant enough but dismissive of me and made no effort to get to know me. I made a conscious effort to get to know her and make her feel welcome - because my parents have grown close to her. But she wasn’t interested and actually made me feel like the stranger in the situation. To my shock she repeatedly called my parents Mum and Dad. That made me feel really uncomfortable around her and I’m suspicious of how quickly she has formed this deep bond with my parents. I can’t help but question her motives. My parents have accepted her life story as she tells it- a neglected child. But the reality is she’s 26, an adult and my parents don’t actually know her yet. She lives with her Dad who she says isn’t supportive. Her mother is elsewhere and she too doesn’t have a good relationship with her. Apparently.
Im suspicious about her intentions and also peed off that she and my parents have totally disrespected me by allowing her to call them Mum and Dad. They’ve known eachother for 6 months!
Thoughts?

Be very very careful. My ex husband who is 70 recently told my DS that he's made a new will and is leaving half his house to a friends daughter now aged 20 because she helped him through a dark time of his own making I might add. He's a fool. This girl was a baby when he had this hard time caused by his own stupidity. He liked to babysit for her because apparently he wanted a daughter not a son. They are not even in contact now. Dont let this girl worm her way in.
Luckily my DS doesnt need his money but he was still very hurt by this.

Scammer

What does your sibling and other close family members think? Are they closer to the situation and know things you don't?

@Cesarina - absolutely right!

Who the hell lets a man going through a dark time babysit their baby daughter. 🤯 So sorry for your DS, and slightly concerned for the 20 year old he feels he needs to add to his will as she helped him through his dark time as a child.

I do think that's a different situation though as the baby didn't instigate getting into your exH's life and pushing out your son and she's no longer in contact. That's just more your exH being and absolute bastard and trying to hurt your son by "letting him know"

So blood weird! I would be worried too

Do you think this thread is fiction? If it is, then it is not funny. When I think about it, why would a youngish granddad discuss his Will with his granddaughter?

This happed to my sister in law, her great uncle got taken in by a friendly lady, 30 years his junior, she empty his bank account over some time, there wasn't even enough money left to burie him when he died. My sister in law go to the police, but the lady said he said she could spend the money, so there is no evidence of theft.

I'd be making sure I saw them a great deal. I suspect the more you push against her, the more defensive your parents will get. Let her be wrong-footed and I'm sure she'll slip up. She is being deliberately provocative to drive a wedge between you and your family so don't react to that. And try to do some internet digging about her.

Just tell your parents to stop all contact with this woman.It seems like she is controlling them. It is plainly obvious.

I would be very wary of her if she was just happy to be a part of there lives you are the last person she should make feel awkward. She could be jealous of you calling them mum and dad is ridiculous. You should talk to your parents about her behaviour and that it is odd. I would be doing some digging online see if any info comes up.

Definitely do a bit of digging around on her social media and internet in general

this is just me but I would either find out where she works, lives etc or get a PI

If there are any friends of your parents at the party try raising it with them. They’re more likely to listen to a peer than their child - no matter how old you are.

Talk to the police about your concerns.

They're better than any private dic and work for free. Chances are she's done this before and has a record. Conmen are good but have to start out bad as we all do. She'd have been done by now.

IF he gave it to her, then she's innocent of theft. That's what makes it all the worse.

OP's parents are not vulnerable, apart from human vulnerability. I think that they like having a daughter figure on tap. If only she was a nice daughter.

Please find out as much as you can about this person. It sounds very suspicious as if she is working her way into your parents' lives. Please make sure that she is aware of your presence and, if possible, go at unexpected times to make sure they are alright. Believe me, I have seen to much of this kind of 'grooming' and vulnerable elderly people being taken in for a lot of grief to follow. Please act now.

Not odd at all. My mum became a grandmother at 38 & a great grandmother at 54!

I would definitely being having a harsh word with your parents, and your extended family. Hopefully, she'll get the hint!

On MN, every over 60 has incipient dementia and needs to be " told what to do" by their know-it-all offspring.
Fortunately, my children know better than to instruct me. They'd end up with some pretty fruity instruction themselves...

It's really patronising, Lorraine Kelly is in her 60s and is not a doddery old woman, I'm sure she can look after herself!

I would be hugely alarmed if anyone started calling my parents Mum and Dad. Doubly so if they had only known her 6 months. Triply so if they had changed their will in that time.
Sounds like a con artist you would read about in Take A Break type magazine.

Behave yourself

So would DH. He and his sisters have always called theirs "Marion and John". Not their rl but not dissimilar

I wouldn't go as far as that but it's not very nice is it.