AIBU to be angry at DH over DS 8 on water slide?

[Fleetwoodmax]

On holiday with DH and DS 8. I had to come back from pool early as had to have a chat with someone re a job interview. DH supervising DS at pool on small water slide and water play area. They come home saying they had a brilliant time but DS hurt his head. Why? I asked. “Well, when I was coming out of the waterslide backwards, I fell and hit my head of bottom of pool” ( not deep! And a shortish slide) At this I was horrified. A) why was he going down a water slide on his back headfirst… ? Totally not allowed. Apparently I’m ‘boring’ for suggesting he should only go feet first and DH deserves a medal for all the supervision he’s done. FYI I am significantly bigger breadwinner and job interview important. AIBU?

Sensible like a grown ass adult?

Are my expectations of a father too high?

Yes it is a huge risk on two counts.

The first risk factor is the shallow water.
The second is going head first into that water.

The proof of the risk is the fact that the child hit the bottom of the pool with his head.

The husband here is a first class moron.

Not much can be done right now. Talk to your husband and remind him you want a safe summer for your child

OP, it's MN so of course there will be the unpleasant element that love to be as belittling as possible to OPs.

You are not wrong to be very upset.
Thank god it is ONLY a sore neck.

He's an idiot and if he is throwing childcare in your face ....a nasty idiot.
Life changing accidents can happen in a split second, it is why children need us to parent as best we can.

What he allowed isn't fun, it's really fxxking stupid.
Necks get be snapped in a second and to carry the weight of that as a parent, must be absolutely horrendous.

I wouldn't ruin the holiday for you all, but I wouldn't be happy at all.
He needs to take safety seriously and if he doesn't then he is absolutely useless to you and your son.

So he had a great time and fell and hit his head....

Alls well!

And your salary is irrelevant

Crikey! It's so very clear that OP only mentioned that she's the higher earner as a bit or context as to why she had to leave to take the call as it was important. Probably so that not everyone jumped on her to tell her that she shouldn't of taken a call whilst on holiday. Anyway, OP your not wrong to be annoyed but I have 2 boys and I am mum, the sensible one who does EVERYTHING for them, DP is the 'fun one' who does all the silly stuff with them. As long as your ds is okay then chalk it up to experience and move on. Your ds might not do it again, but he might, he's 8.

I just don't get MN sometimes, going down on your back head first, is completely unsafe!! How on earth would the back of your head not be the first thing to hit the pool floor, when you go down that way!

🙄 at the 'i am the breadwinner and my job is important'

I suspect you did not supervise your ds when he went down the slide, so is using attack is the beat form of defence now that it happened. These kind of things can have lifelong consequences if they go wrong.

You did not help yourself mentioning about the main earner etc but I can understand why you are upset that it happened.

I think the stupidity or otherwise of DH depends if he has told DS not to go down the slide that way again. There is obviously written warning that it is dangerous. He sustained a bump to the head, another time he may not be so lucky.