AIBU to be angry at DH over DS 8 on water slide?

[Fleetwoodmax]

On holiday with DH and DS 8. I had to come back from pool early as had to have a chat with someone re a job interview. DH supervising DS at pool on small water slide and water play area. They come home saying they had a brilliant time but DS hurt his head. Why? I asked. “Well, when I was coming out of the waterslide backwards, I fell and hit my head of bottom of pool” ( not deep! And a shortish slide) At this I was horrified. A) why was he going down a water slide on his back headfirst… ? Totally not allowed. Apparently I’m ‘boring’ for suggesting he should only go feet first and DH deserves a medal for all the supervision he’s done. FYI I am significantly bigger breadwinner and job interview important. AIBU?

What would the consequences be if the father agreed it or allowed it?

Eh, sometimes kids get hurt.

And going down a waterslide backwards is something everyone has to do at least once. It's a right of passage.

I fully understand the breadwinner and interview reference - it’s to stop the inevitable comments that the OP clearly doesn’t love her child enough to have stuck around and supervised her DH watching their child.

Some people of course only get to do it the once.

This still has nothing to do with your take home wage.

@SummerSummeySun

no it's not, she was merely explaining why it was important she went.

FYI I am significantly bigger breadwinner and job interview important

Good for you??

Yes I thought it was clear what OP meant by that, in other words she didnt have a choice but to be away. Not that she shouldnt be able to have the father parent.

Some people only get to go down the correct way once and some people only get to go on airplane, or down a motorway once 🤷‍♀️

A life wrapped in cotton wool is no life at all.

@KatiesMumWoof OP didn’t have to explain why she wasn’t there. Saying it like she has is implying that the interview wouldn’t be important to someone who isn’t the main earner.

@AFmammaG

FGS she was explaining why she had to go do the call, that's all.

Are there 8 year olds who dont go down slides head first on occasion? Think you're overreacting tbh.

Yep, such is life (and death)

It's a series of judgement calls. Sometimes you make the wrong one, very occasionally it goes horribly wrong, most of the time it doesn't.

No parent has to explain why they decided to leave a bit of parenting to the child's other parent.

Doesn't matter if she's taking a call or taking a shit.

I wouldn't be happy with my kids doing it because of the risk to the neck, but at the same time I wouldn't be going mad at DH I'd just ask him to stop it in future

As someone else said, it's often the dads taking the risks and the mums being cautious (certainly that way in my house!) and I think both sides are important for them learning risk assessment.

No, she is saying it to explain that no call = no job and that would seriously affect the family because she is the breadwinner

So call needed to be taken, thats all

No she didn’t to mention that she earns ‘significantly more’.

She could have just said ‘it was an important interview.

I am the main earner in this house. I think adding that it’s important because she earns ‘significantly more’ is odd.

@OhshutupRoger

yes how dreadful of her to spend some time doing something that keeps a roof over her families head.

if it had been a bloke you'd all be telling him how fucking fantastic he is & yet she couldn't even be trusted to mind their kid safely for half an hour.

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That doesn’t make it ok. It’s like ‘boys will be boys’ instead of accepting it’s not ok

@Fleetwoodmax

Does he also 'get annoyed' at your monthly salary going into the bank??

what an utter arse, is he often like this??

Is he not an equal parent? (I mean clearly he's NOT, but in his eyes, is he not DS's Dad??

@Schoolhols
It's also majority the dad's who fuck off whilst their (ex) wife is left caring for their disabled child.

OMG!!!!!! Why is everything a woman’s fault?!

I'd probably have to see the water slide and pool to judge how unhappy I'd be with the decision. Sometimes 8 year olds are going to do things that aren't super safe and sometimes bumped heads happen, but there are levels of risk.

I'm unclear how the discussion played out, but my comment to my DC in the moment would likely have been "Ouch! I'm glad it's only a little bump." Any other conversation would happen between my DH and me in private.

@Bobbotgegrinch sure, of course, but not exiting in a pool that's very shallow.

“FYI I am significantly bigger breadwinner”

how is this relevant? 😂