AIBU to be angry at DH over DS 8 on water slide?

[Fleetwoodmax]

On holiday with DH and DS 8. I had to come back from pool early as had to have a chat with someone re a job interview. DH supervising DS at pool on small water slide and water play area. They come home saying they had a brilliant time but DS hurt his head. Why? I asked. “Well, when I was coming out of the waterslide backwards, I fell and hit my head of bottom of pool” ( not deep! And a shortish slide) At this I was horrified. A) why was he going down a water slide on his back headfirst… ? Totally not allowed. Apparently I’m ‘boring’ for suggesting he should only go feet first and DH deserves a medal for all the supervision he’s done. FYI I am significantly bigger breadwinner and job interview important. AIBU?

What a fool you dh sounds.

So why I mentioned my breadwinner is because it was important I take teh call. We couldn’t survive on my DH salary. It’s low because he has the flexibility to do childcare whilst I work he does pick up and drop off at school/sports clubs etc. He threw this back in my face that I shouldn’t have taken the call. My issue is he clearly thought it was okay for my DS to take a huge risk and I’m boring for not thinking it’s okay!!! And yes I did choose him to be the father but we didn’t discuss water slide etiquette for 8yo at conception!!?!

@ChubSeedsYorkie because dad of the year moaned about being left in charge of his 8yo and OP was explaining why

@TwattyMcFuckFace

you are living up to your user name on this thread.

yes, accidents happen, but this wasn't an accident, it was a very shallow pool, it was a dangerous thing to do. Full stop. Might as well let him jump off the roof

Doesn't matter if she's taking a call or taking a shit

This 👆 the fact she earns more is irrelevant to the context of the AIBU.

This.

It's only ok because he "got away with it'. The outcome here could have been drastically and life changingly different.

@Wolfpa

No she wasn't! But actually it is.

shes the main earner, the NEED her income, to keep a roof over their heads!!

@saoirse31

Not into a very shallow pool if a parent is watching them & that parent has half a brain cell!

So DH is loving off your decent career and is so resentful you expected him to do some childcare, he neglected your son and allowed him to get hurt?

Or, Dad is more lax, thought it would be a laugh, lesson learnt.

YANBU, child could sustain
a broken neck

She wouldn't be able to earn so much if it wasn't for his unpaid labour looking after their kid.

To paraphase many a mumsnet post.

Unpaid labour?? He’s the parent!!?)

@TwattyMcFuckFace

No, but this is the fucking bear pit MN has turned into, that she felt the need to try & justify leaving her incompetent husband to watch his own child, which he moaned about.

There are accidents that happen in the ordinary course of life and then accidents that happen because people are doing dumb shit like going backwards on a slide into shallow water. I think it’s perfectly fine for adults to take risks as they see fit but deplorable when adults take these risks on behalf of their 8 year old children, presumably against the written guidance by the slide in question.

You are being unreasonable because you prioritised a work call over your family when you're on holiday.

Kids bounce, your boy will be fine.

You're probably pissed off because you couldn't micromanage your husband whilst you were taking your apparently soooo important phone call.

FFS, YANBU at all. You shouldn’t have to parent the other parent. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Your DH is a monumental idiot for not realising how stupid that move was. DS could easily have broken his neck. Did he really say it was fine or was he not paying any attention?

It’s depressing how many posters have no problem giving the dad a free pass to fuck up on the grounds that he’s the fun parent. 😢

FYI I am significantly bigger breadwinner and job interview important

What has that got to do with water safety?

@VeterinaryCareAssistant maybe dad could have done some adequate parenting and not moan about it

I hear you, OP.
I never left my idiot (ex) husband alone with the kids anywhere near water. Just couldn't trust him to look after them properly.
You are justified in being annoyed.

He was at a water park with an 8 year old boy.

How sensible do you expect them to be? Kids mess about all the time and was fine.

maybe dad could have done some adequate parenting and not moan about it

Maybe Dad was doing adequate parenting.
None of us have seen the slide.
Potentially Dad did his own risk assessment and thought it was a reasonable risk.
We don't know the Dad and we don't know the OP - it is perfectly feasible the Dad wasn't supervising but equally it is perfectly feasible the OP is risk averse and wraps her ds up in cotton wool. I don't know, and nor do you.
Most likely, the Dad wasn't at the top of the slide as the ds got on the slide, so didn't either "give permission" or not anyway - it was the child's own decision.

FYI I am significantly bigger breadwinner and job interview important.

I have put YABU for your comment above which shows that you are so far up your own arse.

That's because you were meant to be on holiday, not working.
Your DH was an idiot but hopefully your DS is fine and really really hopefully both your DH and DS have learned their lesson.

@VeterinaryCareAssistant I would expect him to parent and know that going head first into a shallow pool is beyond stupid

YABU