Friend thinks I've been "sneaky " am I wrong?

[redredridingout]

It's my best friends 30th birthday
She is having afternoon tea on Saturday for her close friends and then a party on the night.
She invited my friend (who comes on nights out with us ) to the party on the night.
She doesn't meet my friend alone only with me.
My friend lives 45 mins away from us and 1 hour from party venue and also doesn't know anybody but me and my best friend at this party.
So I said she could stay at my house to save taxi fare and I would drop her off next day.

I've decided I'm just going to go to the afternoon tea and skip the night party - so text friend saying I wasn't going now.
Friend is annoyed saying she can't go without me going as she knows nobody and it's too far for her to get home /has bought friend gift and bought an outfit.
Surely that's not my problem?
And should be up to me if I don't go
Aibu ?

YABU
You've let two friends down

Are you sure it's your BEST friend's party? If so why would you not go... even if you don't fancy it.
You are letting your other friend down.

Just waiting for the OP to come back (if she actually does) with the faux innocence of "What's a reverse?"

Firstly why aren't you going to your "best friends" party? Secondly why are you letting a friend down after making plans with her and saying she could stay in your home.

Both are shitty things to do. Not things a good friend would do

A 'reverse' post appears to be from Person A when in reality they are Person B in the story. So, the OP might actually be the person who has been let down by a friend withdrawing from an offer of accommodation and company at an event at 4 days notice. They reveal in their OP that they are self-centred, inconsiderate and a really rubbish friend. The sympathy for the abandoned friend is greater than if she had posted complaining.

Gotcha thank you x

Of course its your problem, you sound an arse

FFS 😂

Where did she say her bf "expected" her to drive for hours??? She could have turned down the offer of a night in the hotel, but said "we" decided to stay. Some women do have minds of their own you know.

But is she still able to stay with you? Couldnt she get a taxi from your house to the party and back again, you did tell her she could stay!

YABU. Just stick to the original plan.

Yabu- flaky and awkward IMO. Why would you invite someone to stay so you can both attend a party and then pull out of the party?

Don't know whether it's a reverse, but it's a shit thing to do to a friend. There is nothing "sneaky" about it, it's blatant selfishness and inconsideration. It would probably end the friendship for me.

I would post the present to the bride and tell her that I was looking forward to coming but "friend" let me down.

Fairly new to MN. What’s a reverse?

Yep, you're the asshole.