Friend thinks I've been "sneaky " am I wrong?

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It's my best friends 30th birthday
She is having afternoon tea on Saturday for her close friends and then a party on the night.
She invited my friend (who comes on nights out with us ) to the party on the night.
She doesn't meet my friend alone only with me.
My friend lives 45 mins away from us and 1 hour from party venue and also doesn't know anybody but me and my best friend at this party.
So I said she could stay at my house to save taxi fare and I would drop her off next day.

I've decided I'm just going to go to the afternoon tea and skip the night party - so text friend saying I wasn't going now.
Friend is annoyed saying she can't go without me going as she knows nobody and it's too far for her to get home /has bought friend gift and bought an outfit.
Surely that's not my problem?
And should be up to me if I don't go
Aibu ?

If you had already had invited her to stay over and now rescinding your invitation then YABU

Crap friend.

You don't make arrangements then cancel unless it's an emergency

Yep, you’ve let down two friends! I hope you are awash with friends because you may be in the process of losing them.

Hope it is a reverse.

No OP good friends don't do what you did!

But why have you suddenly decided not to go to the party? Worried you’ll be full of cake from the afternoon tea?

Hope you gave your “friends” a proper reason for bailing on them.

Make it make sense.

It sounds like you offered for her to stay and the lift home on an impulse and now don't want to. I don't blame you, I wouldn't want to have someone stay AND then have to drive 1.5 hours round trip to get them home. However, you have offered so it's not fair to back out now.

Make an effort this time to do what you agreed and next time don't offer a stay at yours / a lift without thinking about it and being 100% sure you want to do it.

Is there resentment because you are the one always having her to stay / giving her lifts?

Please could someone explain the logic behind reverses?

I'm far too honest/lazy to even to be able wrap my brain why someone would bother, on a largely anon forum, to go to the trouble of writing the opposite of what their actual experience is??

there's nowt so queer as folk, @alwaysyoudoyou...

You already posted about this, but it was an evening invitation for a wedding and it was you, not your ‘friend’. Stop it.

Did your friend actually mean flakey rather than ‘sneaky’

edit - I see someone already said this. Doh. I do usually RTFT.

I always wonder that when I see people saying a post is a reverse. I just don't get it I thought it was just me being thick 😂 I'd like to know though what the point is.

Has to be a reverse. But yes of course it's shitty to mess a friend about like that. I'd be annoyed if someone did this to me

What wedding one? Need to read ;-)

I would be pissed off if someone did this to me after making plans

🥱 🥱 Reverse thread.

Thread title - Friend thinks I've been "sneaky " am I wrong?

Answer - yes. Very. You are also a selfish shit friend (if this is even real). And soon you won't have any friends and it will serve you right.

Yes, not only a reverse, but also a reverse of a current thread.

"So I said she could stay at my house to save taxi fare and I would drop her off next day.

I've decided I'm just going to go to the afternoon tea and skip the night party - so text friend saying I wasn't going now.
Friend is annoyed saying she can't go without me going as she knows nobody and it's too far for her to get home /has bought friend gift and bought an outfit.
Surely that's not my problem?"

It's your problem because you said she could stay with you and now you're uninviting her so she has nowhere to stay,
If it's not really a reverse, you're just a selfish cunt.

The point is to get support I suppose. If everyone replies to OP that they ABU the OP is proved right.

Ffs is it a reverse? I fucking hate reverses

You made a promise to a friend. Keep your promise!!!
I don't actually get why you are thinking it is acceptable to change your mind - it is not!

Oh no reply- what a shocker

YABU and a shitty friend.

This

This even 🤣