Inheritance question- AIBU

[PrincessCalley]

Hi all, just looking for some opinions on something. Don't want to go into too many specifics but there is only myself and my brother in family. Over the last couple of years it has become obvious that my brother is going to inherite all my parents assets when they pass (actually he might have gotten most of it already) In total it is worth about 2.5million.

Down through the years I have received cash presents totalling approx 100k from my parents which have been used to pay down debt. We still have a mortgage and car loans etc so still have the usual expenses. My brother owns his own home outright has a good job and doesnt depend on parents assest to make a living. The money has been very much appreciated but now I'm beginning to think it's been given to me to keep me quiet.

People (relatives) have started passing comments in jest along the lines of "you've no need to worry about money as you'll be getting half" etc etc and I've brushed them off with "ha ha who knows/I wouldn't bet on it" knowing I'm actually getting nothing. And I'm actually starting to resent saying this rather than telling the truth as people would be shocked.

Question is AIBU to feel resentful or am I being ungrateful?? Or am I within my rights to feel a little bit hard done by?

Op you are dreaming if you think your brother will happily take the whole farm and assets and then give some to your children down the line, dreaming.
Farmers are such arseholes (they all did the same in my family too) so some siblings living hand to mouth, some living like kings (often selling the farm or redeveloping the land).
I know it's petty but I'm always secretly pleased when I hear how things like Brexit has been disastrous for Uk farmers, especially they voted for it!

Oh I don't think my brother will give anything to my children. But I would hope (I know noone knows what will happen) that if they did want to build a house near us in years to come he'd give them a site. But myself and my hubby won't be here either all going well so who knows what will happen. I will be encouraging my kids to work hard and not depend on anyone.

I have read all your posts and appreciate the feedback. I'm glad to see for the most part people feel I'm not being unreasonable. And it does hurt because effectively it does mean they place a higher value on my brother than me.

I did speak to my father about it over the last couple of days and he did seem happy for me to inherite our home house (it's not part of the farm) but he seems to have rowed back on that now and seems to be happy to leave no will which means on the death of one my parents it would be a 2/3 and 1/3 split, which again means my brother gets a share. So I sort of give up now.

To be honest I feel that he's trying to control how I live my life and wants to dictate things after he dies (there are conditions attached to everything) so I'm just going to enjoy my life and forget about it all. I won't be stumping up for care fees in the future if the need arises as that's my brothers baby now.

And I know I'll never treat my own children like this. Thankfully we have enough and will be able to provide for our kids and if I am in a position to give them anything in the future it will be without stings and conditions.