AIBU to hope for a positive thread on lovely husbands?

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My first husband was okay on the surface, but little did I know that he was cheating for the whole of our 20 year relationship. There was some violence also.

My second DH is so amazing. I’m so in love with him 16 years in. He’s twice the size of my first husband and has never laid a hand on me. So loving and funny.

what are your positive stories ?

OP, respectfully, your husband not laying a hand on you isn't a positive. That's just the barest of bare minimum.

My lovely husband of 35 yrs left me sleeping in our bed lastnight with my 3yr old grandson. He slept in the spare room without the fan😳

Mine is brilliant. He's a paramedic and all the patients love him, he gets gifts sometimes and emails from relatives of patients saying how kind he was etc. He has saved so many lives.

Today he got up with my nearly 6 year old at 5:30am so I could lie in. I then took both kids out for a couple of hours and when I got home found that he'd moved the sofa and hoovered underneath it and done many other really useful things, bins out you name it. He is so proactive and never complains. Loves family days out.

He does absolutely everything and anything for our children. He tells me I'm beautiful.

I am beyond lucky to be married to him.

OP, I was raised by a violent man, and made sure the man I married could he trusted not to lift his hands. PP said that’s the bare minimum, but that mattered to me. And anyway, that’s not all you said about him. Personally, I’d say my DH is not without his issues, suppose I’m not either, and we’re not blissfully happy, but he’s a good and honest man. I’d trust him in a roomful of naked supermodels, he’s a dedicated dad and he works hard. He is really funny. He has preternatural patience. He would also give anyone a lift anytime. And …he knows how to tile!

We've been together for over 50 years. He's a good man in so many ways. Our relationship has matured and developed over the years. We're still very happy together.

My DP (hopefully husband one day!) is so kind, gentle, funny and generous with his time and thoughtfulness. He’s incredibly knowledgeable and clever but doesn’t show off. He loves his family and friends dearly, and adores my young adult DB who has learning disabilities (who is totally besotted with him too).

He indulges my silliness and goes along with my mad ideas (which do benefit him too!) but brings calm to the chaos when it’s needed. I was not raised in a calm, stable atmosphere like him, he shows me how life can be on the other end of the spectrum. We split the mental and physical loads equally and he’s an honest, open communicator. He sticks to his word. He pushes me to take opportunities. Being with him has changed me for the better.

Mine is my biggest cheerleader. Always has been. Pushed me to do the things that scared me at first and has only ever found solutions not blame when there are issues. 18 years and never raised his voice to anyone. He is a big strong bloke with a huge intellect and no problem showing his vulnerability or emotion. Despite a (perceived) alpha dog job - 'kind and gentle' is what he values in others. He's made me a better person in every way. He snores like a snuffling truffle pig, loves shiny new toys and he can be a bit single minded, but hey, no-one is perfect.

You're having a laugh. They are all too busy convincing eachother their husbands are having affairs or abusing their own children.

Mine is by far the best friend I’ve ever had. He’s so loving and supportive. He works extremely hard, long hours in his job and still manages to prioritise me and our son over everything else. I was brought up by a man who couldn’t have been less interested in my life, so I’m very happy that my son has a dad that cares about him so much.

Mine is the best man I know. And not just to me - he is loved by his colleagues, my children idolise him, he treats my friends wonderfully.

I met him at 18, been together 20 years and hoping for many more dexades together. I genuinely love and fancy him more at 40 than I did when he was 20 (when i met him).

Mine deals with me so well despite the fact I know I'm so needy due to my upbringing. Trying to change that but I'll be so happy if our son turns out as lovely as him

50 years! That is soo beautiful and inspirational ❤️ this sounds like a blessed life to live with the one you love.

Mine is my best friend, and he always does anything he can to make sure I'm happy. He is an equal partner in every way. I try and make sure to be grateful for him every day and make sure he knows it! My friends complain about their husbands and always joke I have nothing to add, but I honestly never do.

Married the nicest person ever. Fun, kind, smart, sensible, silly, amazing parent, respectful, cheers my wins. I am honestly delighted by my good fortune 99.99% of the time.

Mine gave up work to be a SAHD when it became clear DS (SEN) couldn't cope with the school environment and needed lots of additional support (now home ed, predominantly with DH). Has committed to DS's hobbies to the extent that he's now an instructor for one of them. Does his fair share of housework, cooking, cleaning, actively encourages me to go out and spend time with friends or doing hobbies. Volunteers his time to friends and family (mine and his) to help with things, mentors others in things he's good at, cracking in bed, makes me laugh.

Yes he occasionally drives me nuts but after 20 years together I'm more than capable of driving him nuts as well (I've practiced 😁) and I still look forward to spending time with him.

My husband is my best friend. He knows exactly what I need and has so much wisdom to share. He’s the best.

Married 34 years, together 36.
We are very different in our interests..he is sporty , I love gardening and music. . But he has been my rock. We are easy together, we have never had a big row, we parented as a team and he is a fab dad and now grandad...watching him sweep our grandson into his arms makes me love him even more. He is kind and thoughtful and will help anyone. He takes an equal share in all the daily grind, and if my worst complaint is that he is glued to his Strava stats and likes to tell me about them... I reckon I've been very lucky.

I had an abusive father and I never knew what a good dad was like until we had our children and saw how wonderful he was.

Lovely thread OP, so nice to read positive stuff.
My DH drives me nuts sometimes as I'm sure I do him ! But nearly 35 years married and wouldn't be without each other.
Compromise and sense of humour vital.

My DP is absolutely the best of men. Kind, funny, interesting, clever. He understands me better than anyone else, and he’s incredibly supportive. I couldn’t ask for a better person to share my life with.

Mine is wonderful. He’s got a strong sense of duty and an amazingly generous spirit, pulls his weight at home and more, and despite quite a few health challenges does not have a dressing gown of doom. And a great sense of humour.

Mine is lovely. He bought me a terf t shirt and stickers before going to a pretty big festival, cos he knows it’s important to me. I was so so pleased. He’s a keeper.

Love this and hope for the same one day, hopefully not too far away as I am 53 🙏

My husband always wanted to have both a son and a daughter. We had two babies, who were both girls. Prior to having kids, we thought we wanted three children.

I had postpartum depression with each kid, and was hospitalized the second time around. Without even really discussing it, he accepted that he needed to have a vasectomy, because a third child was not a good idea for my health. I think part of why he wanted a son was because his own father was…not a good one, and he wanted to “fix” it by being a good dad to a little boy. (He’s a great father to our daughters.)

I have ADHD, and he helps me with the various issues that gives me. I also tend to fixate on books or movies for years or months at a time, and he listens to me talk about them without ever acting bored. A lot of them are love stories about gay or bisexual men, and he’s watched all the movies. He’s okay with my doll collection taking over the family room, because “a girl’s gotta have a hobby.” He remembers all the details of the books, movies, and TV shows that our kids like.

Lovely positive sweet thread 🥹

My 1st husband died when we had only been married for 13 years. Met someone 8 years later, took it slow, started as friends and we have been together nearly 12 years. He has took me and my two kids on and has shown us nothing but love, respect and understanding. He treats my two as his own, and would do anything for us.

I have struggled at times with the loss, grief and guilt of being happy and he has never wavered once with his support for me.

He is my best friend, my safe place and my everything and I thank my lucky stars that I met him.