AIBU to hope for a positive thread on lovely husbands?

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My first husband was okay on the surface, but little did I know that he was cheating for the whole of our 20 year relationship. There was some violence also.

My second DH is so amazing. I’m so in love with him 16 years in. He’s twice the size of my first husband and has never laid a hand on me. So loving and funny.

what are your positive stories ?

Not my husband but my best friends husband has been an absolute angel. She went from an abusive monster to the most gentle soul ever and seeing her nurtured and loved the way she should be always makes me so happy.

He is her biggest cheerleader, supports her in absolutely everything and is always there for her and their children. He’s a very hands on Dad but never forgets that she’s not just ‘mum’ and makes sure she knows how loved she is 🥰

DP is definitely not without his flaws! But after 18 years & 2 primary aged DC, he can still surprise me & continues to make me laugh. Oh & he's a damn good cook! He's a brilliant father & I genuinely don't know what I'd do without him.
All this doesn't stop me wishing he'd put his dirty pants in the basket as opposed to leaving them on the floor 🤬🙄 but hey 🤷🏼‍♀️ he's very good at DIY, fixing the cars, will wash up, vacuum, empty bins etc without complaining etc. So I guess we can't have everything 🤷🏼‍♀️😂

Been together 20 years, he truly is my best friend and an amazing man but watching him become a daddy this year is a whole new level. He is amazing with our daughter and seeing that has made me love him even more.

I wouldn’t patronise his role as a father by saying he lets me have lay ins as he gets up with her, he’s her father and equally responsible for her care so he wants to do this rather than feels he’s doing a nice thing by doing it and that there is the big difference for me.

Really am excited at what the next 20 years brings!

We’ve been away for a week attending one of DH’s lovely friend’s wedding and visiting in laws who also live in that part of the country. I’m autistic and massively struggle with the huge amount of socialising required on these trips but it’s the only way DH can see his family and friends.

Some building work that has destroyed my peace at home means and his Mum dropping a huge family gathering on us with very little notice means I’ve had far less battery than usual to cope with the socialising and have had 2 huge meltdowns this week. He’s looked after me, held our boundaries with his family and when it became clear I wasn’t getting any better offered to drive me home through the night to get me to my own bed and some rest before the builders come back on Monday. I know my condition means he has to compromise on his own stuff sometimes but he was still laughing and joking at 1am this morning in the car and telling me it was fine!

DH is everything I could have wished for. We just get each other, share similar values and can literally chat for hours after 34 years together.

His best pal said it best recently as we stood together watching DH do something fun, ridiculous and kind for someone “God, I love that man. He just lives everyday as his best day”. Never was a truer word said about anyone.

My DH stood in a field with me whilst we watched our DS ride a fairground ride today. And he just leaned in, gave me the biggest bear hug and said 'I love you so much.'.

We've been together 25 years, married for 19. He still makes me laugh more than anyone else on the planet.

Not all of them are bastards.

My DH is a really good man. A good dad, grandad, brother etc. I so admire his intelligence and his heart - I learn a lot from how he handles things and people. Has the patience of a saint, which is something I'm sorely lacking.

He's also a great cook and great kisser, both of which I'm extremely grateful for every day.

43 years and counting.

Mine can still make me laugh more than anyone else in the world. He drives me insane with his generosity as I hate a fuss but every birthday is a full celebration of the people he loves. I would never do it but if I asked him to drive me 2 hours to get something from a shop he would have those bloody crocs on and be in the car waiting to go.

Mine is amazing too! 🫶
14 years together, does most of the housework, at least half of the mental load and has supported me in my career so much that in the first ten years of being parents my earnings are now 5x what they were when we met. All while working full time himself and being romantic/a great lover. A proper legend. Appreciation to all the top notch Dads/husbands out there ❤️

Another lucky one here who loves and appreciates My husband! He’s kind, generous, protective, gentlemanly and a great dad to our kids.
love him to bits and love how much he does for us all

found him after growing up with an alcoholic father and a failed first marriage so had expected another shitty man in my life if I’m honest! Still blows my mind sometimes how he’s just so nice ❤️

there are some good men out there and it’s lovely to hear about them ❤️

My husband is genuinely the light of my life. He is so caring, reliable, intelligent, funny, silly and generous. He puts me first always and then other close people among our family and friends. I had a very dysfunctional family, a lot of mental illness, addiction, some violence and I'm just amazed at who I've ended up with. O told him recently not to sound like a sob story but I didn't have a father figure but our child will have the most amazing dad and I feel like that's the best gift I can give them.

Mine is so kind, patient, thoughtful and always puts me and the DC first. He is loyal, reliable and calm and manages to restore my sense of perspective when I get het up about things. He's also my best friend, does more than his fair share of stuff with the kids, housework and DIY. Definitely a keeper.

I cannot say enough good things about my husband. He is the kindest, gentlest, most loving soul; not a lazy, selfish or abusive bone in his body. He is an incredible father and treats me in the way every woman deserves to be treated by her partner.

My husband is wonderful.

I used to date him when we were 16, before he moved away with his parents.

We met up again in later life and have been married for 23 years, with one son. I have to remind myself that he's stepfather to my eldest two, because you'd just never know it and even they keep forgetting!

My dh of 38 years is my best friend. Doesn't do the big love stuff & I can't remember when he last said love you, but he's so kind & considerate. Makes me laugh and smile, we share hobbies sometimes or go separately, instinctively shields me from rain/yappy dogs/etc, he encourages me with my often whimsical thoughts, opens doors for me, knows if I'm uncertain or apprehensive and guides me along. His one fault - when he snores!! I leave for another room when that happens but always end up joining him again in the morning for a cuddle. I consider myself very fortunate and lucky to have met and connected with such a lovely man. Great dad to our 3 children - all adults now who still communicate with us and come visit. All in all, I can't fault him. Nice thread.

My husband of 29 years—together 33–is wonderful. I could fill a book.

My husband also my best friend. We're a team and i'd be lost without him.

Twenty-odd years in and he still has my back, this year has been the worst of my life and he's supported me, listened to me endlessly, raged on my behalf and never once made me feel like I was too much or leaning on him too heavily. He's not perfect (and thank god because neither am I!) but there's no one I would rather muddle through life with.

My dh is 52 and I am 51 Been together since I was 16 and have known each other since primary school. At 14 he told his best mate he’d marry me one day!

All I can say is that he’s my best mate. We have been through great times and currently going through a really shitty time but we are a team and push through.

I can’t imagine a life without him.

This is the most relatable thing I've ever read on Mumsnet. Just wanted to say that. I often feel like I'm the only autistic person living like this 😞

I will just say that whenever I am in a group of friends and complaints about husbands starts I cannot join in. Apart from procrastinating when there are DIY jobs to be done ( he does them eventually) there is nothing negative that I can think of. Such a refreshing change from my first husband who was a controlling bastard.

Mine drives me nuts 99% of the time, however what I can give him absolute credit for is what an amazing stepdad he is to DS1.

He stepped up with DS1 was 2, rescued us both from a really really shitty time with my ex, is Uber supportive of DS (and very proud) yet has always managed to do it without overstepping the mark with DS's Dad - which is a miracle as he's crap, but he's always been very respectful of his role in DS's life.

I do pinch myself sometimes, and wonder where we'd be if he hadn't have appeared when he did

My husband is my best friend. He's seen me through my dark days especially over the last year. I lost my dad in August, four days after the birth of our son. He kept me going and now and I'm finally back to enjoying the little things in life.

I've never had to worry about him being unfaithful, or violent and he is a brilliant dad to our three kids! X

Loving, physically and verbally affectionate, attentive, supportive, funny, good looking, incredible body😁, intelligent, hard working, far more domesticated than me, an equal parent and absolutely besotted with our daughter.

I lucked out.

1st H drank too much & there was DV. I eventually left with our 3 kids. 2nd H left for another woman when our daughter was 7. He was extremely lazy & selfish.

3rd DH is absolutely amazing. He will do anything to help me, & all of my kids & grandkids. He also helped my parents lots (before we lost dad, & mam had to go into a home). We are a team & best friends. I feel so loved & cherished. I have cancer & he does all the shopping & cooking, even though he works full time & I had to take ill health retirement. When I'm gone he will be bringing up my DD,15, cos she doesn't want to live with her dad.

He makes me laugh every day. And he recently spent a lot of time building & decorating the doll's house he & DD bought me for my birthday.

He is a wonderful man & I'm so lucky to have him.