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Too similar sibling names

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MyBluntSloth · 20/07/2024 04:50

My daughter is Charlotte and i am expecting my second, another girl, due in October. Charlotte's middle name is Pearl and the new baby's would be Opal. I really like the name Colette and I think it goes really well with Charlotte with the similar structure but different soundings. I also like the names Chloe and Nicole but I would still strongly prefer Colette over them. Is it too similar?

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MyBluntSloth · 20/07/2024 11:57

I think Caroline is a great idea thank you! Caroline Opal sounds nice too

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RoseMarigoldViolet · 20/07/2024 12:00

I think that it may be other people who mix them up rather than you. Your friends, neighbours and people in the school community. In my experience, it works better for siblings to have names that are reasonably distinct so other people remember them better.

RoseMarigoldViolet · 20/07/2024 12:01

Caroline is lovely, and more distinct! Hopefully your husband likes it.

PinkArt · 20/07/2024 12:07

MyBluntSloth · 20/07/2024 07:53

We live in an area where mail has your full name in it so its not a problem for us! My main concern is for them to have separate identities but I really love both names! If sound-wise it isnt too similar then ill go for colette.

This doesn't tally with you wanting first names that not only start with the same letter, but that scan very similarly and on top of that have matching middle names. It sounds like you want a branded pair of kids rather than thinking of them as individual people.
The differences are the kind made in celebrity authors books so they can legally say of it's not about X, but the reader clearly knows exactly who that character is based on because the changes are so small.

willWillSmithsmith · 20/07/2024 12:07

ebadame · 20/07/2024 09:59

Cute! I might take that idea

It was really useful. They knew when it rang it was time to come down and eat. I’d ring it then hear the stomping of feet down the stairs. I pinched the idea off a friend who was doing it 😁

(sorry off topic).

Davros · 20/07/2024 12:09

Claire again doesn't go with Charlotte in terms of history, tradition, cultural perception etc

willWillSmithsmith · 20/07/2024 12:10

protectoroftherealm · 20/07/2024 10:07

I actually think they sound lovely together!

True story - My nanna was called Hannah, she had a younger sister called, erm Hannah!

How weird 😁

willWillSmithsmith · 20/07/2024 12:13

BurntOrangeAutumn · 20/07/2024 10:09

Um no actually there are comments saying Colette will feel cheated if she has a sister named Charlotte & other comments putting that particular name down, not only because they think they sound very similar.
Read the comments before getting arsey who pissed in your cornflakes this morning 😂

Really? Collette was a name I would have called a girl if I’d had one. I love the name.

willWillSmithsmith · 20/07/2024 12:14

ToriMJ · 20/07/2024 10:11

Celeste?

Or Celine, that’s a nice name (or Selena).

MasterBeth · 20/07/2024 12:15

They look more similar than they sound.

Charlotte has the emphasis at the beginning, Colette at the end.

willWillSmithsmith · 20/07/2024 12:44

MyBluntSloth · 20/07/2024 10:16

Is Colette not too similar or should I go for Claire instead? Cara Rose sounds nice but again might be too different.

Why don’t you want them to be different?

time2changeCharlieBrown · 20/07/2024 13:26

No I don’t think they are similar
would you shorten them?
I think they are nice and go well together

time2changeCharlieBrown · 20/07/2024 13:28

willWillSmithsmith · 20/07/2024 12:10

How weird 😁

I heard of someone that had three George’s!!
dad son and daughter (georgie)!!

InternationalVelveteen · 20/07/2024 13:55

IMO they sound too similar, even though the emphasis in the names is different. I see now you are considering Claire, which I personally think is a nicer name than Colette. In general, I am not a fan of sibling names that match, including first initials. Though the pairing of Charlotte and Claire is less jarring since the initial sounds are different.

There is a young girl called Harlow who has a popular YouTube channel. If you have a horse-mad preteen girl, you'll know who I mean. Her little brother's name is Harlen. That is taking the matchy-matchy name thing too far.

NinaPersson · 20/07/2024 13:58

I think I would avoid Colette. It’s too similar to Charlotte but not as pretty sounding. There are so many lovely girls names, Colette is quite plain

Twodozenroses · 20/07/2024 14:04

MyBluntSloth · 20/07/2024 11:57

I think Caroline is a great idea thank you! Caroline Opal sounds nice too

I much prefer Caroline to Claire or Colette

Floatlikeafeather2 · 20/07/2024 14:10

MyBluntSloth · 20/07/2024 10:06

Sorry I didn't mean to offend anyone! What I meant was Coleen is more of a modern name while Colette is more traditional.

Coleen most definitely isn't a modern name. It's specifically an Irish name (often used to mean a beautiful young girl) just as Colette is specifically a French name. I also think you have to be aware that sisters do not always grow up as each others best friends, or even friends, and calling them similar names won't make that happen.

KintheCottage · 20/07/2024 14:23

Caroline’s the best of the lot, Colette and Charlotte are way too similar. I have the same initial as my sister and it never bothered us.

BurntOrangeAutumn · 20/07/2024 14:37

willWillSmithsmith · 20/07/2024 12:13

Really? Collette was a name I would have called a girl if I’d had one. I love the name.

I think its a lovely name too & not over used.

BurntOrangeAutumn · 20/07/2024 14:38

Supernova12345 · 20/07/2024 10:24

So it's alright to make sweeping statements is it? Ok then

Are you 12?

Longdarkcloud · 20/07/2024 14:39

I think Charlotte and Colette go really well together and are sufficiently different in meaning and sound. Charlotte is the fem. of Charles and Colette is the fem. of Nicolas (via Colin ).
Claire has a nice sound and is classic though shorter than Charlotte . It originally derives from the surname of the de Clair family . I have always loved Caroline but it, live Charlotte, is a feminine version of Charles. The name Carlotta is half way between the two. In fact, in German the ‘h’ in Charlotte is silent.
If you are calling their names surely the first syllable is the most important and no one could mistake CHAR. for COL.
[My friends from SE Asia like to use names beginning with the same initial and told me it was customary. In my family my siblings and I have the same initial letter and there’s never been a problem.]
May you have a good birth experience

Supernova12345 · 20/07/2024 16:24

BurntOrangeAutumn · 20/07/2024 14:38

Are you 12?

Is that the best you can do? You make a ridiculous post, someone disagrees with you and you resort to this silly and childish comment?

Don't bother replying, you're a waste of time responding to.

cadburyegg · 20/07/2024 16:38

I really don't like it when parents call their children names with the same first initial. Sorry.

Annette is lovely.

PleaseBePacific · 20/07/2024 16:57

MyBluntSloth · 20/07/2024 08:06

No sorry we want something classy and elegant!

Don't name your poor daughter Collette then, especially with a sister called Charlotte, which is classy and elegant. And yes, they are way too similar.

Just my opinion fwiw, your child, your choice.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 20/07/2024 17:11

PleaseBePacific · 20/07/2024 16:57

Don't name your poor daughter Collette then, especially with a sister called Charlotte, which is classy and elegant. And yes, they are way too similar.

Just my opinion fwiw, your child, your choice.

I agree with this.

Charlotte is a timeless classic.

Colette is the French equivalent of Sheila or Barbara (briefly very popular in the 1930s, practically unheard of today).

They're not the same vibe at all.