To go into the office everyday?

[GiveMeAFriggingBreak]

My H is now off work for 2 months (teacher).

We have DC6 (who will go to summer clubs) and DC3 (no clubs available for their age).

People think I'm barmy for paying for clubs when I have an H at home all summer.

My DC3 and H are at home every day for the next 2 months. H does look after DC, but often PJs all day, he watches loads of telly, often is in garden by himself, they don't DO anything. Maybe H will do one load of washing and then say "I would take DC out but so much to do round house". H spends a lot of time on his phone on the sofa. DC is actually quite self-contained, loves building, colouring, but he's left to own devices or telly watching really.

I work in a shed in the garden but v close to house and can see all this from my window

I find it v frustrating and upsetting to watch sometimes. I've been dreading summer hoidays for weeks.

Is it unreasonable for me to start going to the office full time? I feel bad as I'm abandoning my 3 year old and i worry perhaps if will be even worse if i'm not here - i give him loads of cuddles and play with him on my breaks.

But also it's not working on me or H to have me here - H feels 'watched' and judged, I feel so frustrated that our 3 year old is going to spend nearly 2 months in PJs watching telly.

AIBU just to leave them to it? Or should I stay and help out - not for sake of H of course, but for my DC?

Ffs, he is a lazy, entitled disgrace.

1. go into the office
2. as you leave, change the password on the router at home, he won’t be able to use the internet and hopefully he’ll run out of mobile data, then he’ll have to DO something around the house
3. leave a list of things that need to be done before you get home to that end
4. If he doesn’t agree to marriage counselling and a massive change of behaviour, you’ll need to start considering an exit plan. He’s basically a cocklodger.

good luck, this is horrible for you but he’s a waste of oxygen right now and if he doesn’t change, well, then it’s up to you to change things for yourself and children.

I know this is an old thread but @GiveMeAFriggingBreak how did your summer pan out and what happened when schools started again?

It's half term here next week .... How will you manage or do you have time off?

Yes, I was wondering how it's panned out. I feel for you op.

Thanks @LemongrassLollipop @Tiddlywinkly for checking in

Still unhappy. H hasn't been falling asleep on the sofa as much though. He'd taking the kids to his parents again this half term. They are old and chronically unwell and he just turns up to their house without warning and they don't say anything but I know they find it exhausting. I just think he's v thoughtless.

I'm not going to change him though. So this is it for us. I'm so scared for the DC if we split so it doesn't feel like option

It's hard isn't it but you have to do what you think is best even if it's staying with him for now. As your kids grow, things change so hopefully they change for the better for you.