To ask if you have found your soulmate?

[CobaltQueen]

And at what age/where did you meet them ?
I'm starting to see that being single isn't making me happy. I think being in a relationship makes life much easier. More money, instant social life and holidays as well as people accepting you more. There's more opportunities if you are in a couple as well I find. I am 39 now and not the most attractive by a long shot as well as being pretty shy and awkward. Just wondered if any of you had met your partner later in life and did it make your life nicer or easier ?

I don't believe in soulmates. I met my husband when I was 29, got married 3 years later. Have been happily married for 20 years.

I met my now husband at 30 after 2 children and 2 failed relationships. I had fled a violent relationship and spent a year saying that was it, i was done and alone until my kids had grown.

Id had him for a few years on my social media, we met through a friend but barely interacted. Next thing I knew we were agreeing to meet up for a date. 5 years on we are married and have 2 more children. And i dont socialise much more than before but i am happier, safer, looked after.

But the point is, i had given up and sometimes we have to not look and let what will find us, find us lovely. Even unexpectedly. And after we have accepted and found ourselves. But i believe he is my soulmate. He gets me like no other. And we knew after our first few dates that this was something not to lose.

I met my soulmate at 18. Sadly we're no longer together but I think about him every day. It doesn't mean much to be honest. You just need to pick a cookie and take a bite. You can find someone you match well enough with to be happier together than single at any age. Many people remarry in their 60s! More men marry in their 60s than their early twenties.

Get off Mumsnet and date date date!

It's fairly new, but I think I may have. I'm also in my late 30s. It's new so nothing has changed with finances or holidays but I have someone to try new restaurants/activities with (most of my friends have children so some plans can be quite difficult) so I suppose my social life has changed to some extent.

No such thing as soulmates- there isn’t one perfect person for you. I say that as someone who has happily been with the same person for 30 years!

My precious darling.

Soul mates don't exist. It's a made up phrase those romantics like to bandy about. Same as "twin flame". Utter rubbish I'm afraid.

That's not to say you can't & won't have an amazing "connection" with someone.

I don't believe in soulmates but I did actually find mine at 42.

I think if you're looking for the "perfect" soulmate, you'll be disappointed.

Find someone that you get along with, fancy, and have similar life plans and see where it goes, the whole soulmate thing might be where you're going wrong...

I met mine a while ago. We both agreed we had never felt a connection like it. But circumstances meant we couldn't be togethee. Neither of us were married but we lived in different countries and were at different life stages.

I don't believe he was it for me though. I believe there are lots of soul mates out there for us and sometimes they appear totally unexpectedly

We met at 19, we’ve been together 50+ years, and he’s still the only person who can always make me smile, no matter how miserable I feel. I don’t know if you’d call us soulmates but it’s not a kick in the pants off it.

Most people I know have met their soulmates, many without even doing much to actually meet them. I just want what they do.

I feel your pain. It's tough to be single not through choice

I met my DP aged 38. All good, definitely worth waiting for

Stay hopeful. Good luck x

What's a soul mate..

I always seem to develop feelings for people where a relationship would be a disaster. While people I feel nothing for are stupid enough to apparently like me.

Can't find a soul mate in that kinda twisted set up. Maybe he's somewhere hanging outwith my self worth and boundaries. He'll have a long wait for me to find him..😳😂

I have a DH who suits me down to the ground. Met at 29 and 27 at work, friends for 2 years before dating but in same big friendship group. Got engaged after 12 weeks from first real date. I had lost a political bet with him so paid for first, married for 25 years.

I met him at 38. I was happily single and not looking, for 9 years after leaving my children's abusive father. I met him completely by chance and I didn't see it coming. He has the most beautiful heart and he makes me happy every day.

I met the man I will spend my life with when I was 29… not sure about “soul mate” stuff but he really is the perfect man for me.

Yes and it was me all along :)

I met someone young and thought we were soulmates. I was in a horrific coercive relationship from 16-26 and needed a year of therapy to recover.

At 27 I started casually using dating apps, didn’t really go anywhere, definitely wasn’t looking for a life partner but had a couple of nice meals out etc! One Saturday I was out with a married friend and she asked me if she could vicariously swipe for me - first guy she swiped on is now my husband! We moved in together after a whirlwind three months and he proposed after six months. We got married when I was 31 and we are blissfully happy almost five years later, despite redundancy, a blended family and needing IVF, probably because I now know that relationships are work and compromise and joy and laughter and sadness and everything mixed in, not a soulmate movie love story.

TLDR - get a friend to set you up, they do a better job! 😅

I met my husband when he was 17 and I was 19. We married after a year and we are still together 34 years later. I don’t like the word soulmate either - but my husband is my everything - my best friend and we love each other deeply - despite life being very hard at first with no money, a grotty rented flat and a baby. Everyone we knew told me that it wouldn’t last a year - well - I’ve made them eat their words. We adore each other and life is now very comfortable in every way. I believe you can find the right person for you at any age. I guess I was just lucky to have found mine so young.

I met my husband when I was 18. We'd both signed up to a dating app where we were matched based on our extremely similar personalities. This isn't always a good thing as we have the same weaknesses as well as strengths. I'm very happy with him but I think I could have also been happy with someone else. I don't really believe in soulmates.

Met my soulmate at age 22 through voluntary work, and still together 38 years later. We were friends at first but that developed into a proper relationship a year or two after we met.

@CobaltQueen Your perception of an ideal partner changes over time as we grow. I met my partner at an older age than you are now, on a dating app, and we have been together for seven years.

We are a yin/yang match. We balance each other's personalities perfectly while retaining joint core values and slightly separate interests. Yet, he is someone I wouldn't have given a second of my time 25 years ago as I favoured the good-looking 'bad' boys who kept you hanging or those with night jobs like DJs or music producers while I was a city girl forging a career that needed my focus 8-6 M-F.

Make life easier? Yes and no. We both have mid teens (now) in tow ahe logistics have been a balancing act at times, not between the children but his DDs behaviour. However, we prioritise each other and make it work and make time for us because we know how we want our future to look (together)

good luck with your search

I met my soulmate when I was 39, in the middle of a divorce with two children.
We are now married and he really is everything I ever wanted. I feel incredibly lucky everyday that I met him and got to experience a love like this, he was worth waiting for.
I hope you get to find your soulmate OP.

I absolutely don’t believe in soul mates. Load of twaddle.

Why do you need a partner to go on holidays? Don’t you have friends or family to go with? Or travel alone? I go abroad alone in different groups and on my own every year. Lots of benefits to being single.

It’s unfortunate, but the more desperate you are for a bloke, the less likely you are to attract one.