Husband threw something at my head

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My husband just threw a toy at my face while I was holding our toddler. Should I call the police?

Sleep in with the children tonight if you can OP

I would call the police but make sure I have a friend ir family member with me in case things escalate. The police should arrest him and offer you the chance to make a statement about what happened. He may be released with bail conditions which may involve him not approaching you or your home for some weeks. He may need to attend court.

Be aware that if you don't report his behaviour, his violence may escalate. I would be worried about your safety and that of your children.

Please do contact the national domestic violence helpline or women's aid. They are brilliant and will advise you step by step.

This is really difficult for you because you want to have a normal Friday night, chill out, baby down go to bed but that has changed honey. Get him removed or go somewhere safe until he is removed. As another poster said the fact it was a toy as nothing to do with it. It is the fact he threw an object at you. It really does not matter what it was. It is a symbol of the way he feels if you argue back and holding his child..... . That means you do not argue back with me . I am right and you do as you are told. If it had hit the baby?

As children were in the home at the time of the domestic, the police have a duty to inform safeguarding.

If it was an emergency call and they had arrived on scene they would likely take the details of the children and forward onto social services who would then contact you to ensure the safety of your children.

The health visiting or school nursing team will now be informed and they should then liaise with the relevant school and community services to ensure your children get the therapy or services they require.

Theory doesn't always get put into practice though. Now you can put the relevant provisions (staying in alternative accommodation with children) in place in preparation for any calls received.

As @azafata2 says. It doesn't matter what the object is.
It's the way abusers put fear into you. Make me angry or upset or not doing as I say? This is what will happen.
I could harm you or the child.
He had no regard for your child when he did that.
It's a method to keep you in your place.
He wouldn't do the same to someone on the street, or his work colleagues would he?

Despite filling in the form you can still call 999 or 101. He threw something not caring if he injured your child.

Well done for submitting the form whilst you are in shock
He assaulted you tonight, it doesn't matter what with
He sounds very angry, so if you feel the slightest bit unsafe tonight call 999.

Just remind yourself it's "the first time he threw something at you". THe first time. Meaning now that he's done it, he's likely to do it again unless there are serious consequences.

I'm glad you've submitted the form.

That could easily have hit your child, you and your children are not safe, ring the police and get him out!

I totally agree. I would leave my house immediately to go to my child in these circumstances and drive any distance.

Look after yourself OP. I hope the police arrest him and remove him from the home. If you feel even slightly threatened, call 999 and get yourself and the kids out. Go to a neighbour if you have to.

Are you Ok? Maybe overwhelmed? It's Ok to feel that.

Call the police, don’t call the police, it’s up to you, I don’t know what they would do.

But that man would be dead to me. No one throws something at me. While I am holding a child? Absolute double down on dead to me. I could never look at them the same way. Completely inhumane behaviour. Who throws objects at another persons head? Even worse, while they are holding a small child?!?

That ‘person’ has left my circle of trusted people and gone into unpredictable possibly violent people. Get the fuck away from me and my children, would be my main thought.

Please either leave the house and go somewhere safe or have someone with you when he finds out you've contacted the police.

Take photos of your lip and write down what happened including the conversation while fresh in your mind.

I've thrown soft toys before, but in jest not in anger, and obviously very gently. But if course if it actually hit and hurt someone I'd be utterly mortified. His reaction is telling.

Not when he was holding a baby though. Although no-one should be throwing anything at anyone. But any woman who admitted to throwing a bin/toy at another adult holding a baby would be ripped to pieces on here and you know it.

What did he throw? Not that anything is ok, but tossing a blueberry at your face is different to throwing a glass at your head.

I am judging by the thread though it was serious and he was aiming for your head instead of throwing something in the air. It sounds like assault, and you need to protect your children.

Call the Police

Lots of "throwing things at my partner's head" related threads about lately.

Oh my god

I’m so sorry this has happened. Hopefully the police will contact you very soon.

He is a danger to your child who he could easily have hit instead of you. Make sure the police know this. This sounds like a beginning of a series of abusive acts - nip it in the bud now. Hope you're ok

Stay safe and keep your phone charged.

If you have a landline tell the bigger child to dial 999 and drop the phone if daddy acts up. Abandoned calls are answered on two wheels.

Fingers crossed and for fucks sake, get out asap.

And (edit)

You can email 101.

And dial 999 if he acts up during the night and slide your phone to the side. They'll have him on tape. Just mention your address so they can attend.

I'd tell him in the morning, I want you to leave and I'm going to call the police if you don't. X

This is backwards

You call the police first.... because then there are services who can assist with enforcing it and keep op safe