Husband threw something at my head

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My husband just threw a toy at my face while I was holding our toddler. Should I call the police?

Absolutely this. Sorry OP, you are probably reeling. In my experience, this behaviour escalates rather than disappears. You do not want escalation.

Call 999 now and show him you are serious. Call a family member and tell them what happened. If you call 999 are you worried he might get more aggressive? Don't tell him. Try and be calm (not easy I know) but get protected now. Please.

OP I know this feels really overwhelming, just one step at a time for now.

If he is in the house with you do you feel safe calling 999? Can you text a friend or relative to call on your behalf?

This isn't how it works. Just so we aren't giving OP misinformation.

If a crime has been committed (which it has), it will be dealt with the same way no matter which method of contact OP uses. 999 doesn't automatically mean arrest. It will just get her someone to speak to sooner.

101 is non emergency, so meant for crimes not in progress. This is in progress tbh, as he's still in the house. That's why 101 is a bit slower.

Online contact forms are the same as 101, meant for non-emergency so a bit slower.

However logs come into the police, whether 999, 101 or online, they will be graded. People can call 999 for non urgent stuff just like others will be too scared to call 999 and use 101 instead. They are all looked at and assess the same and graded in priority for response.

But OP whatever contact you can make with the police will be helpful, do whatever you are comfortable with.

Can you reach out to your family and ask them to come over for a while and/or collect you and the children so you're safe for a few nights while you work through your next steps? Whatever you do please do not keep quiet about this.

I would drive 600 miles if my DD needed my help, 60 miles is nothing.

In that case I’d always ask what would happen next time ☹️

Why don't you ring 999 and tell them what he's done. You don't know that any of you are safe, but you can be. And your kids are so little they'll remember very little.

Unlike if you stay until they are old enough to know what's happening. Don't do that.

OP please follow the wise people on here

I have been through this

The good people I confided in on here helped me get out

This is so so bad

Sending you lots of good wishes

in the form can i use the word assault? it was a toy he threw at my face

If leaving with your kids isn't an option, get him removed. Honestly this will not be a one off - it will only get worse. Is this something you want your kids to see? Especially your SEN son. Sending you so much love and strength honey, you got this ❤️

@WhatToDo123abc The form won't do anything as posters have said before? call the Police..

Use whatever words you like. Just say what happened, he threw a toy at your face and caused an injury to your lip. While you were holding your child.
They know it's an assault.

Sorry but it all starts somewhere next time it might be a fist

Yes it will. They are reviewed within a few hours at most and if this is all OP feels confident to do RN let's not discourage her.

Sorry I’ve not read the thread but if they arrest him - even if you don’t immediately choose to make a statement - it’ll probably be a condition of his bail that he can’t contact you. So if you stay in the house, for the time being anyway, he wouldn’t be able to come back.

Report him to the police if it is currently safe to do so. Photograph the injury. I am so sorry this has happened to you.

Hi Honey again. Are you afraid of calling the Police directly. The 101 form will not really help you. What do you feel right now? Can he come downstairs and speak to you or are you scared? In that case 999 and have him removed.

He's in the house with her, she might not feel comfortable or safe enough as presumably he will hear her. It's also gone 9pm so not many good excuses to just 'pop out' with young children to make the call.

OP if you're worried about him hearing can you message a friend/family member and ask them to call for you?

Show him your boundary. Exactly. Take care, OP.

It depends on what he threw. If he threw a fluffy teddy bear, I wouldn't call the Police.

But if he threw a metallic toy gun weighing 20 kgs, I would.

You can also try calling a domestic violence helpline/charity and they can give you advice with what to do to escape your situation.

From the description it sounds likely the abuse will escalate. They always start small, often times not physical. It could be financial control, isolating you from your support network etc.

First and foremost, ensure you and your kids are in a safe place. Are you able to call friend or family for help? Have important documentations ready to go. If you can get some cash. Make sure you don't have any apps open where he can track you through your phone.

Just thinking ahead if reporting him escalates the situation, best be in a safe spot to report. Take photo evidence if you can.

Things will work out. You can be allocated a safehouse until you can get on your feet. He will have to share his assets with you for child support. There are gov support. Do it for your kids.

Good luck.

If you are scared in anyway call 999 now. Have him removed. Let someone know what has happened (very important) , family, friend about how vulnerable you feel right now.

It was a telly tubby toy - and it was the hard plastic bit of the toy not the soft part that hit my lip

This is awful, he busted your lip and hasn't even apologised! Either way id be calling the police and leaving if my man purposely threw something at me because of an argument.

It doesn't matter what he threw! Adults should not be throwing stuff at each other as part of an argument while holding children!

He also smashed a glass on the floor!