Husband threw something at my head

[WhatToDo123abc]

My husband just threw a toy at my face while I was holding our toddler. Should I call the police?

Back up the photos in case he takes your phone.

It is swallon small bmp on lip - like bust or anything. Hard to tell on the phone when i take a picture.

Definitely take pictures OP and call family see if you can stay there he's obviously not safe to be around. Has anything like this happened before xxx

Of course you must call the police.

then call a member of your family or a friend to wait with you.

The first time my husband did this it was a towel (as I was holding our baby) then it was a coat with a zip (as I was feeding the toddler) and then the third time slapped me. It always escalates.

Has anything like this happened before no, so im still quite shocked

my family live 60 miles away

Yes.
Call the police.
This isn’t minor.
You’ve got all the ingredients for escalation. You don’t have to have a history of physical abuse for this to turn incredibly dangerous.

Has he tried to
Talk to you de escalate and apologise or is he hiding upstairs? X

No apology, acting like nothing happened

Statistically this is not a one off, it won't be the last time. It always escalates.

Would your DH throw something at his boss in a temper? At the cashier in Sainsbury's? At a neighbour? Of course not. He has abused you.

Call the Police. Get him removed form the house. Does he have family nearby he can go to. If not don't worry not your problem. 999 now.

If he gets away with it this time, then he'll feel more confident about doing it again. Children pick up on this too.
I know that you're worried about the future, but show him your boundary and call the police x

The first time is always the first time. There will be more.

Agree. Please. You can stay on here and we will support you as best we can.

The lack of apology, the acting like nothing happened is- without him even consciously realising this- subconscious, tacit permission to utilise this new behaviour pattern again. He’s already normalised it.

i feel really overwhelmed and confused at the moment, I have started filling in the online police form. Or will that do nothing

It won't do nothing, keep going. We are all here to support you.

You’re married so his money is also your money. The house is half hours even if only in his name.
Any savings, investments and pensions which he thinks are his, are yours also.

Take a pic of your lip.Log it with 101.
Don't worry if Social services get involved. They will want to make sure your dc are ok and they might get him removed from your home.

Go with family tonight.

Your son will be better off away from abuse, in a calm environment. If this is not a one-off from your dh and he’s a bully / controlling , you and your dc’s will be better off away from him.

I can only echo the other respondents - phone the police as long as you are safe to do so. There will also be domestic abuse helplines for where you live, look online. He has physically abused you , but I also wonder about other abuse - the house is in his name and he holds the money - why ? As you are married you will have some protection financially but are you excluded by your husband from finances? Also you are at home and a cared and a long way from family - do you have friends ? If not why not - has your husband isolated you at all ? He was clearly angry and could not control it even in the presence of his small child - this is alarming and you must take steps to protect yourself and your child .I hope you are ok

I'd have to take the kids with me and leave the house. And him. All the best OP.

Do you feel safe at the minute. Is he upstairs and you are down stairs with the little one?

Log it.
Do not wait or let it go in case of any other assaults in the future.

Especially with your child so closeby.
( A record is helpful should he become volatile in the future)
Make sure you tell someone in your family as you need emotional support.
Seek out someone you can talk to in real life as asap.
Your husband needs to sort himself out and vent in a no violent way, whatever the outcome.
Safeguard yourself and your children.
I would be calling someone to be arriving to be with you

If you ring 101 they'll probably ask what you want to happen. They will be busy with it being a Friday night.
If you ring 999 they should come out and arrest him.
No idea on the police form but would imagine it gets read by someone at the call centre (101) in slow time.

WhatToDo123abc · Today 20:53
Has anything like this happened before no, so im still quite shocked

my family live 60 miles away”

Then yes you must call the police. I was your baby and it got worse and worse over the years.

MrsSkylerWhite · Today 21:08
WhatToDo123abc · Today 20:53
Has anything like this happened before no, so im still quite shocked
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my family live 60 miles away”

Then yes you must call the police. I was your baby and it got worse and worse over the years