Schoolgirls spiked my daughter’s drink with laxatives.

[Halfordscarpark]

This is more of a WWYD I guess.

My daughter has been bullied recently at school, some physical, some verbal and this week the bullies poured laxatives into her water bottle at lunchtime and I had to leave work to collect her.

I’ve not heard anything more from the school or the parents and the children are still in school.

I’m interested to hear what you think and what you would do in this situation as this is not acceptable.

I'd go ballistic

I'd contact the police

The school

Their parents

The school have had their chance, report this to the police now. Tbh I'd have reported it to them anyway, the school can do their own investigation and take whatever action they want but these little shits and their parents need to be dealing with the police and charges regardless

@Halfordscarpark

This is beyond horrific behaviour. Your poor daughter. I would be seething.

You should DEFINITELY report to the Police as a matter of urgency & go full steam for the school - being fobbed off with a 'we'll get back to you' approach is disgusting.

You need to formally raise an allegation of physical & emotional abuse, copy in the Governors, LEA, etc. DO NOT let it go. Ask for a copy of their bullying & safeguarding policies. Document every single interaction. Get a crime number from the Police.

Do it all NOW before school breaks up for the Summer, which will make things more difficult.

Police of course as everyone said and also a stiff letter to the Governers these children could do worse next time

I don’t want to cause a scene but at the same time I can’t afford to let these kids get away with such harmful behaviour.

Cause a scene!

Cause the biggest bloody scene you can and make sure that the SLT of this school wake up and start dealing with the bullying.

As part of the scene, contact Ofsted and tell them that the safeguarding in the school is inadequate.

Those pupils committed a serious crime and it needs to be addressed without any further delay.

I say this as a headteacher.

OP, if you leave it up to the school, things will get worse.

My parents didn't want to cause a fuss when I was bullied. The result was that I spent two years in abject fear and misery. The only thing that kept me going was that I was determined to get good exam results. Nevertheless, the effects of the bullying have stayed with me for life.

You need more information before you talk to the police. How do you know what happened? The police will certainly ask.

The OP has explained in her updates.

OP if it were my child I would be causing the biggest scene the school had ever seen. You can’t let the school get away with such a disgustingly apathetic response. Where is the safeguarding?! They won’t keep your child safe.
Absolutely file a police report for assault causing actual bodily harm. Those kids need to be told in no uncertain terms their behaviour is obscene and will not be tolerated.
Don't send your DD back to school if you can help it.

Your poor daughter. I can't believe you are dithering about contacting the police, you need to have her back since clearly the school doesn't.

I keep coming back to thread for an update.
I hope your daughter is ok, OP. I would be changing schools/ registering to home school as a matter of priority.

Exactly this. How on earth can you “not want to create a scene” when that was done to your daughter? Cause a scene!!

I’m an “address it in a calm and level way, don’t go in all guns blazing” kind of person.

And I’d be going absolutely fucking nuclear on this.

Your poor, poor daughter. Under no circumstances would she be returning while
the bullies were still there. Even if the bullies get expelled, I’m not sure I’d have the confidence in the school’s management for her to continue going there. I wouldn’t just quietly move her though, I’d be dragging the school through every official channel I could, to hold them and the girls to account.

Exactly what happened to my 13 year old, except he was in Asia on a schooltrip and felt ill plus really embarrassed and uncomfortable talking to teachers. Whole experience was awful. School swept it under the carpet. Looking back I wished I'd gone harder and demanded far greater consequences than a little rap over the knuckles.

I would right a letter to the chairperson of the governors and cc in the local authority giving them 7 days to respond before you file a police report for assault. The school presumably knows the offenders so a minimum response would be to inform the parents and place the culprits on detention or ban from any end of year trips or celebrations

Permanent exclusion is appropriate for the perpetrators here, providing there is evidence.

OP, I’ve just come back and read your following posts.
In the nicest way possible, where the fuck is your rage? The anger you need to harness and fire at EVERY single person playing a role in this needs to be nuclear. You HAVE to cause a scene.

Secondary Teacher here. Firstly: who informed you of the incident? You must surely at least have had a conversation with the Head of Year? Have the facts of the matter been established? Secondly, if it has been agreed that this is what happened, I would not be letting that lie for even 1 day, let alone the rest of the week! Be proactive! You need to phone the HOY and insist on a meeting. This is a serious incident of bullying that has gone into a potential poisoning/physical assault. Administering a noxious substance or medicine in this way is a criminal offence, you need to tell the school that. Find out exactly how they have dealt with it in school - at the very least it should be a fixed term exclusion for the culprits. But there is a more serious bullying issue which is presumably making your child’s life a misery. You need to demand some action and not sit around waiting for the school to contact you!

This ^ for sure. I hope your daughter is doing OK. 💐

How awful. I would be writing some letters that you send via recorded delivery. First to the head regarding what has happened and their lack of progress in resolving this issue. I would be informing them that you have also written to the local education authority, as well as ofsted and you are reporting the incident to the police and you expect them to fully support the police and your DD through the investigation. I would also be forwarding the exact same letter to the chair of governors. That should put a rocket up their arse to sort this out.

Yes as previously said I would push the school to contact the police. If the offence occurred on their premises I should imagine they would be liable or at least have a safeguarding responsibility.

Police as it could have been dangerous. Contact the school and find out where the little fuckers live and berate the parents for dragging the little bastards up

To be fair if they hadn't got a history of being a idiot with medication, and hadn't got a much reduced mental age, it wouldn't have occurred to me that a medical cabinet should be locked because of having a 13 year old in the house. I can't imagine that they said "mummy I need some laxative to take to school" they probably just got it themselves. Given the outcome the parents are clearly wrong, but I don't blame them for their decision unless the kid has a history of doing this sort of stuff.

Shocking. Police for the spiking and school head teacher and/or local authority for the bullying.

I’m a teacher and sadly, have encountered a similar event. As a parent, I would definitely involve the police. I would contact the police first and I anticipate you will then hear from the school. For your daughter’s well-being going forward, it would be reasonable for all the children responsible to be permanently excluded from school and have to go to another school. The school will do their utmost to avoid bad publicity. You may not be satisfied with the outcome; at this point, it is not unusual for parents to engage a solicitor. Good luck; I hope your daughter is well supported by the school, to deal with this.