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First Labour f up

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G123456789 · 11/07/2024 19:36

The BBC are reporting that there are Labour mps calling for the new government to scrap the limit of 2 children on child benefit

I'm working class and have family members who have had, 7, 5 and several 4 kids. Neither parent worked and the fact that each child got benefit encouraged them to have more, even though they really could not afford it.

so Labour mps want to encourage people who struggle, and those who don't actually, to have more kids...with the impact on the state, housing in the future and the environment..discuss

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TheGreenKnight · 11/07/2024 22:07

I can’t imagine many people having extra children just to get the Child Benefit. The old rules clearly didn’t stop your relatives producing more than two children.

AbraAbraCadabra · 11/07/2024 22:08

It's not fuck up, it's an excellent decision (if they actually go ahead) that I'd be completely in support of. The 2 child limit harms children. And it doesn't stop people from having children. Just pushes children into poverty.

Namechange54354 · 11/07/2024 22:09

Collexifon · 11/07/2024 21:21

Noone has children just to get the 16 quid a week child benefit. Behave.

It's not child benefit. It's the additional hundreds of pounds a month from universal credit.

FFSWherearemyglasses · 11/07/2024 22:10

DanielGault · 11/07/2024 19:50

There's something particularly irritating about people who end a post with 'discuss'.

It’s right up there with asking for recommendations followed by …. “And go” 😵‍💫🤦🏼‍♀️

DanielGault · 11/07/2024 22:11

Mintypig · 11/07/2024 21:55

Of course not everyone is spending their money on drink and fags, but you can’t deny some people do not spend their money on the kids - I have seen this first hand - families with large disposable incomes and chronic addictions , so the kids get nothing. I am all for supporting families, but I honestly don’t know why this has to be done in cash. You can easily give families vouchers for food and clothing and this would help.
I don’t know why any help not given in cash is so frowned apon.

Because it makes people feel like shit. It grinds them down and singles them out. All because they happen to be poor at a particular time. It would not inspire people to 'do better', it would make them feel like lesser citizens that should disappear into the shadows with their vouchers and never be seen again. It's a crappy, demeaning system.

JudgeJ · 11/07/2024 22:11

Sirzy · 11/07/2024 19:54

A lot of people who work around child poverty have been calling for this to happen for a while though.

I can see both sides of the argument to a degree but overall don’t think a policy change to help prevent children from starving is a fuck up!

Loving the assumption that extra money will go toward the children!

Cyclebabble · 11/07/2024 22:11

Personally I did not have children until I could afford them and I am supportive of the current cap. As parents we need to take responsbility. Where one parent passes away I have more sympathy, but generally I am afraid I see some very irresponsible behaviour with the cost being moved to the tax payer.

MalvernHillbilly · 11/07/2024 22:11

Even if you don’t find it immoral that in a (relatively) wealthy country there are thousands of children living in poverty, financially penalising families for having more than two children fails to take into account that by doing so, you are simply increasing the costs further down the line. There’s plenty of research backing this up.

Katemax82 · 11/07/2024 22:12

Let's get rid of the high income child Benefit cap too. It would make my life easier (and my husband earns ok)

samarrange · 11/07/2024 22:12

LumiB · 11/07/2024 20:44

I'd say banning of new oil licenses before sorting out ensuring we can generate our own energy from cleaner sources is a big fuck up. Now we will be beholden to price increases again as we have to import. Like why couldn't you build your solar farms get it working and then ban ne wpil licences I mean ffs thats just common sense surely

Not to mention all the tax on selling that oil we will lose out on I hear it's something in the region of £10b

Edited

Except that new oil licences haven't been banned. The events took place entirely in the imagination of a Telegraph reporter. https://www.cityam.com/government-denies-ed-miliband-has-banned-new-north-sea-oil-licences/

Plus, almost all North Sea oil is exported, because it's a different (higher!) quality to many other forms of crude oil.

Plus, oil is almost completely fungible. The UK has never been self-sufficient. Extracting oil from the North Sea is essentially a source of revenue, not of energy.

Plus, even if they did ban new drilling licences, this would take time to work through the system.

Hopefully, one of the advantages of a large majority and a government led by adults, who are not afraid to listen to actual subject matter experts, will mean that we can get away from "bloke in the pub" politics, after 10 or more years of "how hard can it be?" being the extent of downside risk assessment.

'A complete fabrication': Government denies claims Ed Miliband has banned new North Sea oil licences

The government has denied claims that Ed Miliband has banned the North Sea oil regulator from issuing any outstanding drilling licences.

https://www.cityam.com/government-denies-ed-miliband-has-banned-new-north-sea-oil-licences

Cooper77 · 11/07/2024 22:15

No one hates benefit cheats more than people on low incomes. I lived next door to a girl who was just like Vicky Pollard. She had three kids and didn’t work. The kids were loud, rude, and totally out of control. They lived on benefits and just did whatever they liked. If they felt like playing music at 2 am, they played music at 2am, and we all tiptoed around them. Because that’s what happens with these ‘problem families’. They enjoy themselves and do whatever they like, and everybody else has to accommodate them. Her brother ended up living there and would wake us all up in his ‘boy racer’ car, with its screeching, crackling exhaust. Frankly, I think it amused them to upset people. And there I was, like a mug, getting up at six in the morning to work so I could fund their life!!

It’s perfectly reasonable to say to someone who doesn’t work but has raised two kids on benefits that if you have a third we, as a society, are not prepared to pay for it. And most people would definitely support cutting the benefits of those whose kids ruin the neighbourhood. In fact, some people should be discouraged from having kids full stop. It’s ridiculous that we allow violent, ignorant, abusive people, with no moral compass, to raise children. Society pays a terrible, terrible price. I have known two different people driven to suicide attempts by violent, feral neighbours.

Twodozenroses · 11/07/2024 22:15

DanielGault · 11/07/2024 19:50

There's something particularly irritating about people who end a post with 'discuss'.

Agree

retinolalcohol · 11/07/2024 22:15

People who are skint will continue to have multiple children, regardless of how benefits are calculated.

It's not some poor kid's fault that his parents had 5 kids before him and don't work. I will never take issue with my taxes being spent on keeping children out of poverty.

RationalityIsHard · 11/07/2024 22:18

If they are going to do this, they better fund it by taxing the 1%. Otherwise, if they just leave the very wealthy alone and tax the middle classes, it won't matter what size their majority was last time, they'll be a one-term government and then out of power for another couple of decades.

DanielGault · 11/07/2024 22:20

retinolalcohol · 11/07/2024 22:15

People who are skint will continue to have multiple children, regardless of how benefits are calculated.

It's not some poor kid's fault that his parents had 5 kids before him and don't work. I will never take issue with my taxes being spent on keeping children out of poverty.

Not to mention, in all likelihood those parents won't be the most educated and might just make bad decisions. It's the way it goes until education can permeate. It takes generations. Certainly not the children's fault.

DanielGault · 11/07/2024 22:24

FFSWherearemyglasses · 11/07/2024 22:10

It’s right up there with asking for recommendations followed by …. “And go” 😵‍💫🤦🏼‍♀️

I think that's actually slightly worse tbf.

absquatulize · 11/07/2024 22:26

Labour were indeed first up in many constituencies last week as they clearly had the most popular manifesto of all the UK political parties.

The will of the people is quite clear, and we should now all support them in implementing that.

FrangipaniBlue · 11/07/2024 22:35

I don't think removing the cap is a fuck yo because as posters have pointed out, people don't have babies "to make money".

But I also don't think it's the magical answer I ending child poverty that some posters seem to think it is.

There are children in poverty who have parents trying their best and working their hardest but due to circumstances (eg single mums, NMW being a bit shit ti name a few) they struggle to make ends meet, absolutely lifting the cap will help these parents and go a ways to raise those children out of poverty.

But there are also children in poverty because let's face it, their parents are scumbags and don't have their children's interests as priority. Giving those parents more money won't raise the children out of poverty because if you think feeding and clothing the children is what they'll spend it on then you're living in a fantasy land.

ruby1957 · 11/07/2024 22:37

As so many other posters have said - but for those who jump to the wrong conclusion - CHILD BENEFIT IS PAID FOR ALL CHILDREN UNLESS THE INCOME OF THE FAMILY IS TOO HIGH.
Going forward from 2018 - the extra money for children born after that year is subject to a cap but only for those on UC.

radio4everyday · 11/07/2024 22:40

Another one is Wes going back to Lord Darzi (known as Lord Khazi by all in the medical profession) who has a track record of failure with these big reports......

HonoraBridge · 11/07/2024 22:40

First of many.

HonoraBridge · 11/07/2024 22:42

Have you actually looked at the voting figures? “Will of the people”. 🤣

DanielGault · 11/07/2024 22:48

FrangipaniBlue · 11/07/2024 22:35

I don't think removing the cap is a fuck yo because as posters have pointed out, people don't have babies "to make money".

But I also don't think it's the magical answer I ending child poverty that some posters seem to think it is.

There are children in poverty who have parents trying their best and working their hardest but due to circumstances (eg single mums, NMW being a bit shit ti name a few) they struggle to make ends meet, absolutely lifting the cap will help these parents and go a ways to raise those children out of poverty.

But there are also children in poverty because let's face it, their parents are scumbags and don't have their children's interests as priority. Giving those parents more money won't raise the children out of poverty because if you think feeding and clothing the children is what they'll spend it on then you're living in a fantasy land.

There have been, and always will be, parents who are shit. I don't think there is a way of governmenting them out of it. Without years and years of education anyway. In the interim, the children should be lifted out of that trap, insofar as is possible. I don't know what the answer is.

Hazelville · 11/07/2024 22:50

fieldsofbutterflies · 11/07/2024 20:01

Why should children be forced to live in poverty because of the choices made by their parents?

This.

Opinionwontchangeluv · 11/07/2024 22:51

They want everyone to rely on the government like a slave

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