What's your secret, selfish fantasy life?

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I preface this by saying I love my dh and my dc very much and I know I'm lucky to have them and a job and a roof over our heads etc etc etc.

However my entire life revolves around my obligations to everyone else. Work, clubs, housework, weekends taken up with kids parties or activities. No childcare so dh and I rarely get a break.

I would never wish their childhood away but sometimes (egged on by instagram probably) I think about a selfish, solitary life and what it would look like for me.

I've decided I'd love a very small cottage or flat. Our house is big but full of clutter and crap. I love the idea of having a tiny space where everything I own is either necessary or precious. I would live somewhere in the country, maybe a little market town where I could take myself out early for a lovely walk in nature with my dog. Then go to an independent cafe for a breakfast and coffee. I'd go home, light a fire, read and watch tv all day. Then I'd have a nice bath, get myself dolled up and go to a local pub to watch the football and have a meal.

In reality I'd probably enjoy this for a day or so before I'd miss my kids and my ridiculously busy routine. But it made me wonder what everyone else's dream, selfish, solo life would be.

Ohh my fantasy life would be become a woman who have a good career in fashion industry or magazine industry like anna wintour. I’m beautiful, slim and rich. I’m a public figure but i’m well known because of my work. I live somewhere in california with henry cavill as my husband 😂😂😂 oh dear dear dear..

I live in Scotland so it can’t get much worse 😂😂

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In my dream world, I am a lovely looking sex-mad assassin, going on spy
Missions and bumping off wrong 'uns. I also have loads of filthy, creative shenanigans with hot people.

I'm laughing here..i live beside the sea but we never go to the beach cos well small kids and sand dont mix well. And we live in Ireland so 90 percent of the team the weather is crap and when it is sunny, gangs oftens gather on the local beach, drink and eventually start fights that are bad enough to make the news. Oh and they destroy the beach with rubbish. Lovely.

Anyhoo, I would love to work on a ranch in Montana Horses and cowboys...the dream!

Such a perfect location for your dream + delicious market food at the Bowhouse regularly.

A flat in LA, with some lovely cats. I'm often reading and listening to music on the terrace. Got a couple of hot men who'll do anything for me and keep asking me out, I'm not bothered really but occasionally we have some dates nights.

I'm a music journalism and swan about going to gigs and write about them for good money 😂

I'd live in a small town in Provence or on the Cote d'Azur. I'd wake up late, buy a croissant and coffee and potter around town, then home, read in the sunshine and have a nap. Maybe a few evenings a week before I'd work in a sleepy little bar. No stress, lots of sunshine. Easy life.

In my fantasy I am a widow ( 😂😂😂 )
I live in a secluded area, mountains, hills, greenery, water, houses made of stone and wood.

I'd have a few dogs and cats, a mud room to wash the dogs and wellies off after long walks, a writing room to hole myself up in occasionally, a music room come library and a housekeeper.

My children would have their own rooms to use when they visit from travelling but mainly I'd have random guests that have gotten lost or broken down on their way to somewhere else and they'd tell me about their lives over good coffee or a hot meal in the winter / helping me pick vegetables from the garden for dinner later in the summer.

I'd taking flying lessons, I'd write, I'd paint, sculpt and try to live as stress free as possible.

I live in a flat in a small market town. It's full of clutter and crap 😂

I love Nature, I would happily swap city life with the country life....I love hikes and waterfalls...hills and mountains. I also love the coastline. I would love to see sunrise and sunsets from the sea. I would take my best friend with me and have adventures every day as she loves the Nature too ❤️

I would live alone in a lighthouse. One of the round rooms would be a library. Wood burning stove for sitting by and reading. Nearby tidal pool for swimming. Lobsters dropped off daily by local fisherman. A radio if I wanted to hear a human voice.

Peace.

Somebody has been watching Yellowstone
This is my dream too, me and Rip hundled up with a Whiskey

Would have a lovely little house but with enough rooms to allow me to have a sewing room, a studio and a quiet reading room (even though I don't read much). It'd have a balcony overlooking a beautiful view and a delightful wildflower meadow garden. It would have wide doors, plug sockets a-plenty and would be clean, tidy, clutter-free and in a good state of decor.

Mine is being transported to the 24th century, being a Starfleet officer and the love of JLP's life.

Or Q sends JLP back in time and we find each other. Spending all our time together.

That sounds ace! I love the fact you'd goto the pub and watch the football! I want to do that on Wednesday but can't find anyone to go with !!

Mine is kind of depressing because I moved a few years ago and my dream life would be to go back to my beautiful old city, I miss it so much.

Of course it the fantasy I'd have a nice town house in the centre instead of the little flat, the weather would be better, and I'd have more time to pursue all the creative hobbies fantasy me would have, and endless happy days with DC at the beach.

I'd love to have a sort of groundhog day at my favourite festival. Every morning, I wake up without a hangover regardless of how trashed I got the night before. I'm also in my body from my late twenties, before I got arthritis, so I've got loads of energy and I'm fit and strong. My tent is like a cupboard to Narnia and I've got a lovely bed, a full fridge, and a projector so some days I can just lie around watching films and listening to the rain. I've got mountains of cool clothes. I get to choose every morning which year and which day of the festival I'd like to visit. I can see my favourite bands or random bands from every angle I feel like and I can meet whoever I like, including friends and handsome strangers. I spend every day exploring, getting drunk, maybe high if I feel like it, and dancing into the night.

My fantasy is very specific, and I'm taking the "fantasy" part of your question seriously. I would be one of the witches from the Lancre coven in the Discworld (there are 4 of us, I'm not replacing anyone). I have a little cottage in the Ramtops and am a sort of scholarly witch. I read up on the latest magic but apply it to the local tasks. I have my DC with me, and they play out in the countryside and village.

I would spend the Summers either where I currently live, or in the Scottish Highlands where my DD lives though I'd downsize to a quaint little cottage, but the Winters would be spent in a traditional townhouse in Spain. Probably Seville. Though maybe Granada as it has the advantage of being near the Sierra Nevada so handy for skiing when I felt like it. (I can't actually ski...I've been in a dry ski slope once...but this being fantasy land I will be swishing down the slopes like an expert drawing admiring gasps from all who see me.) I will have a small staff in both my homes, ensuring that I never have to clean or do any ironing. I will spend a lot of time cycling, sailing or hiking, painting water colours and playing the piano.(I can neither paint nor play an instrument but that's just a technicality obviously) I will eat lots of cake and never gain any weight. I will have chickens and a very well behaved medium sized dog that doesn't chase the chickens, smell or shed hair anywhere and has ears that flap adorably in the breeze when it's in the passenger seat of my classic soft top sportscar. I'll also be about 6 inches taller than currently, but the same weight.

That sounds so exhausting!

I'm so surprised how many people's dream is to work in the service industry. Having worked in a cafe and a shop it would not be relaxing for me.

I'd keep the kids and my husband. We are happy where we live, but knowing my parents have good care, a bigger house and an increased libido would be my dream. (It's been a tricky year).

Exhausting referred to the festival goer!

I'd live in a small villa in Greece, (doable, I'm an EU citizen) with a small guesthouse to rent out for my meagre income. I'd invite the guests for meals and give them good holiday tips. Employ a cleaner to help when they've gone.

Practise yoga and dance each evening then see to my cats, before a large vino and plate of fish on the terrace before bed with the windows open, ready for a sea swim first thing and a breakfast of bougatsa

To live nearer to my daughter and grandchildren, for DH and me to be mortgage free and have retired/working part time - 5 year life plan!🤞