To feel like Travis Kelce has shown me the way a genuinely interested man acts.

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I am done with the low effort, the excuses, the inconsistency. I am actually disgusted at myself for the total BS I have put up with from men.
Yes I know I'm not a gorgeous billionaire superstar like Taylor Swift but seeing how devoted Travis Kelce is to her has just made a light bulb go off in my head. He is so in love with her that he went to a wedding on Saturday night in LA and then flew to Ireland the next day so that he could surprise her at her concert on Sunday night.
And here I am, taking scraps and actually entertaining this pathetic lukewarm behaviour.
Wtf is wrong with me. Well thank you Travis, you have shown me how a man acts when he is crazy about you. I'm sure Taylor Swift isn't wondering if he will call, or if he will reply to her text or cancel a date or if she's just another one on his roster.
If he wanted to he would springs to mind. I have now entered a new phase and I will now be asking, Would Travis do this with Taylor? Yeah probably not.
Disclaimer. I'm a massive Taylor Swift fan and am over the moon for her and how happy they both are together. I guess I just wish I met men that behaved like Travis.

He has the money and freedom to do big showy declarations of affection though- it’s not totally real life, yes he’d be tired or hungover but he’d have people clearing the way for him, giving him whatever he needs to make it all a bit easier

Hmm. I think it would all be a bit different if they were both stony broke

also, I would prefer a man who was a bit more mindful of his carbon footprint

You have no idea what he’s like behind closed doors. Don’t base your bar for what is acceptable on a stranger, choose for yourself

Girl, set those standards high. You are too damn precious to settle for anyone.

He has no upper hand in this relationship. He knows he's got it good.

in my experience big grand gestures don't really signify love. especially in this case as these people are ridiculously privileged

love is commitment and the daily small sacrifices and kindnesses that makes the other person's life just a little bit easier. it's sticking with the person through tough times and the mundane daily grind. showy bullshit never lasts. chasing after Hollywood romance only leads to sadness because it doesn't exist.

You and me both. I want someone to look at me the way he does her. He truly loves her you can see it.

But does he GENUINELY adore her? Or could he be swept up by the fact that she's a superstar who could have her pick of men, but she's 'chosen him' at the moment?

You need to help yourself by raising the bar & drawing boundaries in future relationships. Why do you accept the scraps from the table? Is your self esteem so low that you'll accept attenttion from any man rather than the right man?

Do the online freedom programme so that you learn how to implement boundaries. Far more healthier than basing relationship expectations on fake celeb relationships.

https://www.freedomprogramme.co.uk/

Travis Kelce has gone from virtually unheard of outside the USA to making headlines around the world by turning up (including on stage!) to Taylor's shows.

If he was just there to support her and spend time with her he could easily do that without appearing in public. Call me cynical but his 'devotion' to Taylor is doing wonders for his public profile. Now maybe it's Taylor who's driving this - she also gets publicity after all, is nothing if not publicity driven, and certainly has form for ridiculously public 'relationships' (Hiddleswift anyone?), but either way I wouldn't be using their relationship as any kind of barometer of real love any time soon. You might as well say Tom Cruise jumping on a couch to declare his love for Katie Holmes showed you what love looks like.

That being said you absolutely should have high standards for yourself in a relationship. But grand public gestures is not what high standards looks like.

If you want to take an example from the music biz, take a look at Dolly Parton and her husband Carl Dean.

Yeah, I'm not sure Travis Kelce should be your gold standard. He's shown some real toxic behavior on the football field and I'm not convinced he wouldn't behave like that behind closed doors....

I don't get great vibes from him but I think I'm just biased as I don't find him the least bit attractive but good luck to TS as she obviously does!

@Equivo such a good point about Tom Cruise. He was so attentive to Katie and such a devoted dad and look how that turned out 😬

Be careful. Any man can make grand romantic gestures (especially if they have money to help them) but treating someone well includes being consistently attentive, compassionate and considerate over time.

Some men love-bomb with showy gestures, then become cold and manipulative when they feel you are under their spell.

Celeb relationships are about publicity and image as much as any real affection. If you want role models why not think of real life couples who are still together after 20 years and behave in loving, thoughtful ways to each other?

I don't get good vibes off him at alllll, i think hes riding on her coat tails

Exactly, and all the money in the world doesn’t buy that. Forget about the surprises, big gestures as yes money does make that a whole lot easier. But the way he was looking when he was watching her perform on stage, that’s something money can’t buy. I don’t know a whole lot about Taylor Swift but do like some of her music. But I have heard how she makes a big donation to the city’s food banks where she performs, sounds like she’s a kind person, and gives a lot back, so good on her she’s found a man who adores her as I’m sure lots of others people adore her too

Another good example of a couple madly in love still is Piers Brosnon and his wife Keeley. Really sweet together, clearly still head over heels in love.

I get what you're saying. It's not about the scale of the gesture, it's about putting in an effort. Doing things that make your partner happy.

My DH hates white chocolate. He never touches it. But there is always at least one bar of my favorite white chocolate in the house because he knows I love it but never remember to buy it. So whenever he does a shop, he restocks it for me if I'm getting low. I don't have to ask; he checks on my supply before he goes and then there's magically more chocolate the next time I'm craving it.

That's just one small example, but you get the point. Making mental.space for a partner's happiness is incredibly important.

😂you have truly fallen for their PR relationship then, as that is exactly the reaction and feelings they want from people.

Do not look to celebrities for what your standards should be in a relationship

If this was merely an act of love why would we need to know about it? Why wouldn’t be surprise her in private after the show?
It’s all a performance, whether he loves her or not this is showmanship from him and not genuine.

Set your own bar higher but Taylor swift’s love life is irrelevant.

Yes, nothing says I love you more than flying aacross the world for a shag.
Perfect.
Fuck the planet, make a grand gesture

I know next to nothing about TS and TK, but he's punching and he knows it.

How can he be better than all the others? How can he stand out? Make a real impression? Aaah.. 💡

Hardly. Travis was already a highly respected, well-known, popular athlete, and Instagram star, way before his thing with Taylor started. He's arguably the #1 Tight End in the NFL. Travis and his older brother, Jason, host a number 1 podcast, New Heights. He's also been an actor for years, and has several upcoming projects.

For the record I think TnT are the real deal- they're adorable.

Ugh no definitely don't base your expectations on celebrities. TK and TS may or may not be in love and I don't wish them ill at all but it is all sickeningly public, Dd is 13 and a TS fan I don't want her to think the speed of their relationship is normal tbh.it isn't. All the family involvement and him being on stage and the public PDAs? It's not natural.