well, you COULD just ask him, but it sounds like you wouldn’t necessarily believe his answer anyway. And I know cheaters will be inclined to lie and then just try harder to cover it better next time, and then your future is just being terrified even if you check again and see nothing.
personally for me I’d find it a bit odd that my partner just went off out at 10 at night without so much as a “Just popping to get a burger/see Ted/catch a rare pikachu” (like had you eaten dinner already? Is going out late to get a whole other food likely?) but others here seem to think just buggering off randomly that late is fine so what do I know.
did you take a photo of this Google history thing on your own phone so he can’t delete it and say you’re crazy?
did you cross reference the timeline with his call log/texts/whatsapp/google searches? If not, can you at some point?
any other new strange, unlike him behaviour that has raised unease and suspicion? I’m just wondering bc often we don’t snoop or happen upon our spouses locations and map history unless something else tweaks our spidey senses.
I’d do what I suggested above and then keep an eye on if it happens again, if it’s the same place or other odd locations where he stops for an hour or so.
it might seem paranoid and I’m sure it’ll get some snide incredulous “if you have to act like this/can’t just ask then just leave, it’s over already” but in the real world with small children and entangled lives it’s not that simple at all and most women need actual proof before they decimate their and their kid’s whole lives.
an extra source ie an AirTag or a
second phone may seem
ectreme but it’s either that or just never bring it up again and hope it was just the phone being wierd (which as proven with PP on here, does happen frequently! And will that help you to not worry ever again, if your paranoia has been piqued, or is it gonna still drive you crazy.
Or you ask him and he says he was doing nothing or went to smoke a joint etc, sth innocent, but again will you really believe that enough to put your mind at rest?
I’ve seen it many many times on here when a woman has been labelled “batshit”, mental, over paranoid but many of us had a wierd gut feeling something is wrong, way before it comes out that there’s an affair or sex workers or etc. It’s the dissonance between not wanting to/being able to believe they’re capable of something like this, but also just knowing something isn’t right, most cheaters aren’t going to crack and confess after being asked, which is why so many of the cheating stories on here end with the truth being outed after a lot of hoping, then snooping, then more intense digging. If all these women had just swept the niggling feelings and little disparities in behaviour under the rug, the majority of cheats wouldn’t have been found out. It’s something you only really know if you’ve been there yourself or seen it in real time.