Why does his Google history show he was at an industrial estate at night

[Nachosanddips]

Last night I was on Dh’s phone-not snooping…initially at least. I was turning lullaby music off that he and our dc had fallen asleep to.
It showed the travel history of where he’d been/been driving etc. I just thought it was quite interesting at first, don’t think I have it on my phone or if I do, no idea how to access it! I started looking and it was all pretty boring-travel to work, certain shops, cafes etc, a friends house. One entry from last Sunday shows him going out in the evening driving for 30 minutes, it says here no location/location not shown. Then from around 10.30-11.30 pm, it shows a location and when I looked at it, it’s an industrial estate. This is really strange isn’t it?! Making me so paranoid, what would you make of it?

Good on you for letting us know! I’m glad it’s an anticlimactic ending to this mystery.

If you dont care, that says everything you need to know.

You have already emotionally removed yourself from this relationship. So I would strongly suggest you physically remove yourself too. This will not improve, he will carry on but your whole dynamic is now you as Mother and him as Child. He will live as a teenager with you (his new Mummy) doing his washing, the cooking etc. And that will be set in stone no matter how much you earn or how often you are at work.

He will not want to split, as they never want to lose their new Mummy That They Can Shag, but I think that you must.

@ThePearlSloth They don’t smoke the whole lot in one go

Crikey?! Why go to an industrial estate to smoke weed? There must be somewhere more salubrious. Lol
I guess I smoke it at home, but don't have kids. I'm glad it wasn't anything horrible!

@Nachosanddips he shouldn't be driving at all if he's smoked weed. Drug tests that the police carry out can detect if you've smoked it within the last 3 days. It's illegal to drive under the influence of drugs (at least in the UK).

Apparently just being in a room with me would likely cause you to implode with embarrassment as I'm 45, play Pokémon Go and occasionally smoke weed.

You're entitled to your own opinion obviously. And weed is illegal in this country so there is a risk of legal consequences but you sound very contemptuous of preferences and decisions that don't match your own preferences and that seems a potentially corrosive thing for your relationship.

Honestly I'd prefer my partner to be having an affair than smoking weed in an industrial estate car park at night.

Especially as he wouldn't risk killing someone driving home.

Smoking weed in an industrial estate, so driving under the influence and much more likely to be caught due to furtive night time movements. Just smoke it at home when not going to risk killing someone whilst driving.

Kindly, I think your head is very deep in your work…!
I’m also experienced in this field and although people trafficking is more prevalent than people acknowledge (nail bars and car washes anyone…?), it isn’t a daily event for people to ‘deal’ in trafficked people in industrial estates. Likewise, keep them captive in said containers, thankfully.
I’m not sure why you think the suggestion of stealing catalytic converters or metal are odd, when they are extremely common crimes, both especially so on industrial estates, unlike your assumption of people trafficking which seems like a bit more of a reach…!

Classic how there's still LTB die hards even though the only thing that was going on was two middle aged men smoking a spliff!

Well I think quite a few people are rather sceptical about the explanation OP has been given.

Fight club?

You'll never get him to admit it though, because of the first two rules.

What are LTBs?

Hmm, sure...."smoking weed"

leave the bastard

Yes, it regularly tells me my phone is in Belper - which is miles away and I’ve never been there.

Well if you're not going to smoke in the house and you have to go elsewhere it probably will be a random car park. They're not going to go looking for a National Trust beauty spot or something are they?

Feels like an acceptable lie.
Did you smell weed on him, his clothes, his car? It lingers for days.

What, contemptuous of illegality?!

Are you really going to try to get down on her for that?

Well this was quite a reach, twist and stretch to deploy the LTB advice regardless.

Food and then got chatting or sat in his car and played on his phone or checked his emails, looked at property etc.

My initial thought wouldn't be prostitutes and dogging or drugs.

What is sad is that you can't talk to him about it so that already indicates a relationship that isn't doing well.

They don’t smoke it in the house because of kids, but do smoke outside in the garden. They were going to pick it up and had some. I believe it and am not against smoking weed (he barely drinks or goes out in big lad groups drinking) this is his relaxation I guess, I just find it a bit grim & dodgy

Ah ok sorry - I misunderstood from you saying ‘they smoked it there and then’ - so he had some left? I still think it’s highly unlikely he was sat in a car smoking weed if you didn’t smell it when he came back. Maybe he just needed some ‘me’ time on his own. Who knows…

edit: just seen your last post. Fair play. It is a bit grim and dodgy.

😂

Don’t say anything yet. It might be completely innocent but it might not. It’s weird it’s only there once. It’s weird it’s an hour. It’s weird to sit in an industrial estate at that time of night alone. However, maybe he was parked there for peace and quiet to scroll on his phone or read. Or listen to music uninterrupted. You don’t want to wrongly accuse him of anything. I would def drive there at the same time myself. You don’t need to stop but just take a drive around the estate and see what’s happening there. Maybe check his phone to see if there’s any weird activity on there. Check the bank to see if he took any cash out before going there. You’d have to pay a prostitute in cash.