Why does his Google history show he was at an industrial estate at night

[Nachosanddips]

Last night I was on Dh’s phone-not snooping…initially at least. I was turning lullaby music off that he and our dc had fallen asleep to.
It showed the travel history of where he’d been/been driving etc. I just thought it was quite interesting at first, don’t think I have it on my phone or if I do, no idea how to access it! I started looking and it was all pretty boring-travel to work, certain shops, cafes etc, a friends house. One entry from last Sunday shows him going out in the evening driving for 30 minutes, it says here no location/location not shown. Then from around 10.30-11.30 pm, it shows a location and when I looked at it, it’s an industrial estate. This is really strange isn’t it?! Making me so paranoid, what would you make of it?

I always go and buy my tyres at 11pm on a Sunday night too. Totally innocent.

I think this is just odd for the UK. It gets dark early, kids go to bed at 7 and that's pretty much the end of the day.

This would be quite normal where I'm from though so don't get too hung up on it since you said you're not in the UK.

Oh ffs really? You think he drives to a remote place to have a wank?

Possibly meeting someone for sex. Maybe when he tells you he is visiting friends he is actually doing this. I would try catch him out.

I know everyone else is jumping to the worst conclusions, just wanted to nip in to offer it doesn’t HAVE to be nefarious or anything at all.

When my kids were very small, and things got tense (the way that things often do when no one is sleeping and everything is chaos) there were probably 3 google maps histories over two years that would have shown me in an empty car park at a weird hour.

It was just to be able to sit in silence and know that no one was going to need something or get at me for an hour so I could scrape together the bits of my shattered nerves and sellotape them back together.

I wouldn't let on I know, I don't think I'd go there either. But I might say "you know that industrial.estate x? I saw on the local news its a popular dogging site! Who'd have thought?!" Then watch his face.

@Nachosanddips yes I can understand why you don’t feel that comfortable about what he’s possibly doing there late at night.

@Crumpleton Yes, it had the whole history, so the time he leaves the house, journey to work, times of places stopped etc, quite interesting really

@notenoughteaintheworld But this guy gets plenty of time to himself - he goes out a couple of times a week without his family.

Type the location name in to Reddit and see if it brings up any chats about dogging etc

Could he have been the on a call to someone for an hour. Did he stop off and collect someone and they sat for an hour together .
Did he park the car there and sit in one of the cafes with someone .

It does seem much to go out loads of nights a week , Just because your other half is putting child to bed. .
its not a hobby that’s understandable , but def not at 10.30 at night .

I think you have to prepare for the worst .
i think you are going to find out the worst. .
He has seen you as too trusting and taken advantage.

Is he in to cars? If it was my DH chances are he'd be doing something weird with the car like remapping the engine doing some bizarre combination of stuff while driving - so an industrial estate at night would fit. Or testing the brakes.

Have you tried entering the name of the location and "dogging" into Google?

🤣🤣🤣

Bless you, my sweet innocent child.

So, you want to carry on snooping and driving yourself insane with wondering what he is up to?

Drugs? A handover?

🤢 … 🤮

You said he smokes weed maybe he just went for a smoke and got engrossed into some reels or something like that. If he’s given no reason to not trust him I wouldn’t be immediately suspicious.

I think that, if it has even occurred to you to have a look through, and it’s not the first time, then your subconscious could well be picking up on something that you can’t quite put your finger on, but which you know isn’t quite right. And yes, it’s perfectly possible that he is the biggest shitbag going.

But it’s also equally as possible that there’s an innocent explanation for him being there, and for anything else your subconscious has noticed. Or even that he wasn’t there at all, and that if you looked again tonight, it would show him sitting on top of Mount Everest. Just start with all of the small, innocent explanations first and only start worrying about brothels and drug dens when you’ve ruled those out.

And then, if it does turn out to be something completely innocent, maybe have a think about whether you might have some trust issues that DH doesn’t deserve to be the target of, and that you could maybe work on.

@Nachosanddips If you have access to a spare mobile, buy a sim and install Life 360 on it and on your phone. Hide the spare mobile in the car (on silent, without vibratation) and wait and see. You can track his whereabouts discreetly. This saves you having to look at his phone, especially when google maps doesn't appear to be very accurate or states 'can't find location'.

Are you abroad in a country that any kind of anti social behaviour such as soliciting prostitutes, dogging or drug buying/ dealing could land your husband in very serious trouble?

@Nachosanddips could he be buying something from Facebook market place? I asked DH what he would think if it was me that he had discovered going to this location and this is what he said first (I have form for buying stuff off Facebook and sending him on goose chases to pick it up, once it was after hours to get some crates from a unit on such an estate).

It's incredibly popular in our local area for friends to meet up in the late evening, once the normal daily working hours are over and do all things car related as their bosses let them use the garage equipment after hours.

My husband will be 50 this year and is always on pokemon go

My Google timeline for this week has me half a mile out at sea for a good hour in the middle of the night.

I don't own a boat.

Google maps history isn't perfect, sometimes it's triangulation goes awry and it shows you nowhere near where you really are.

As a one off @Nachosanddips , it's highly unlikely that he's doing anything wrong. However, by snooping on his phone, you very definitely are.