Heartbroken about DS's teacher

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DS is a great kid. He's smart, funny, musical and sporty. He is also incredibly polite and has a caring nature. He is always winning awards at school, and is liked by all. DS attends a lovely small school with only 2 year-groups.

His previous teachers were OK but in year 3, he's had the most wonderful teacher, Mr T. Mr T is DS's first male teacher and they also share a hobby. Mr T has really helped DS develop his confidence, pushing him more in academics. DS has had a great year.

DS is now moving to year 4. Mr T is also moving to year 4. But they won't be together. All the classes have been mixed to mix abilities, sexes and SEN.

One morning this week, I went to ask Mr T if this class allocation was final. The head came to join our conversation, and he said he will only move DS for an exceptional reason. The head added that the new teacher has made the best progress in her year group across the whole school. I really want DS to stay with Mr T.

Can anyone think of something?

So are the rest of class “bad” children then? I’m struggling to understand why you think your DS is being punished.

Hes not being punished for being good! What strange reasoning.

Honestly, you're being really unreasonable.

Not much I can do... I'll just have to find a great present for Mr T for now. Then, next year is another year with another teacher.

I feel your pain.

My son missed out on the brilliant male teacher at the end of primary school and got an NQT with a young baby who was, phoning it in IMO!

So heartbreaking - but thems the breaks unfortunately! I get it though.

It’s quite standard to have a change around of teachers. If not now, eventually your son will have to adapt. Help him adapt and help him learn to be resilient.

You never know, this new teacher may be way better than Mr T.

Give this new teacher a chance.

@Mostlyoblivious
The child might have developed a wonderful relationship with MrT, but MrT might be relieved to see the back of him, who knows!

I can appreciate how sad you feel, genuinely. I had 2 amazing teachers at 2 different years at primary school and was gutted when I moved up a year.... I also have send. But that's literally what every child and parents experience every year they move up.... Its what happens to everyone, everywhere

Thank you, I'm sure you understand how I feel.

So true. Are you going to spend the rest of your life rushing to intervene when things aren’t perfect for him? Take a step back and teach your son how to cope with a little bit of adversity.

OMG! This may be my life next year. 😭

Children becoming over reliant on one staff member in school isn’t good for anyone, they need to learn to work with and trust a variety of staff members.

The more you push that he needs to be with Mr T the more it highlights it’s right to introduce a new adult instead

Oh for Christ's sake, he isn't being punished, you loon!

He's having the entirely normal and natural experience of a different teacher each year, learning to adapt to different personalities and environments, experiencing different teaching styles. This is healthy.

Like others, I thought this was going to be about the tagic death of a teacher, not that your son will be in a different class for Y4.

It is wonderful that your son blossomed under his teacher. He will still see the teacher around at break and in the school.

Class allocation is a nightmare of juggling ages, abilities, additional needs, social situations etc etc. It didn't pan out the way you'd like, but that doesn't mean your son is punished.

Make yourself a brew, read the news, get a sense of perspective and move on with your weekend.

I feel your pain.

My son missed out on the only male (and also happened to be brilliant) teacher at the end of primary school and got an NQT with a young baby who was, phoning it in IMO!

So heartbreaking - but thems the breaks unfortunately! I get it though.

Same! I thought the teacher had come to grief!

Omg, saw the title and assumed something awful had happened to Mr T! Get a grip, don't the SEN kids and others deserve a good teacher?

I do understand why you’re a little sad that he won’t get his favourite teacher again next year.
But that’s life.
And will happen again and again.
You just need to give him a nice parting gift and look forward to what next year will bring.
There will be other special teachers. Next year might be even better.

The school has said there is no reason why your child needs another year with Mr T, wanting one doesn't count. Maybe some of the less gifted children would benefit from a year with a great teacher? Or do they not count?

I'm of the same view.

Just be glad your boy is doing so very well all round, has had a lovely teacher and is now moving on to having the experience of being taught by new teacher who sounds great. Honestly if I was you I'd feel so grateful, not worried.

He isn't being "punished".... the classes are just being swapped about. It'll be good for him to have a new teacher, like presumably many of his class mates.
My DS now in 6th form had the same (female) teacher in reception and Y1 who he didn't get on with at all. Then in Y2 and Y3 had the most amazing male teachers (different men)....them's the breaks. Your son will be fine.

i don’t understand you saying your son is being punished for being good….they aren’t moving kids based on them being good or bad, they are making sure the ability split across the classes is even. Your child isn’t the only one being moved so are all the kids being moved being punished?…..

yes it may be hard for your son, but he may absolutely thrive with this new teacher as well….teachers being changed at each year group is not a surprise and you need to learn to accept it.

Genuinely. This is why some teachers are pushed to the brink. And then they quit.

No your child will actually benefit more by having a new teacher & being treated like every other child

Please don't be overly dramatic with or in front of your child, it will compound his disappointment, no one is punishing your child fgs this is how school works, you might get two years with the same class but then its onwards & upwards, it's really not a big deal, within weeks he'll have settled in with his new teacher & all will be well

I've had pupils over the years who formed a bond with me for whatever reasons & cried at the end of term knowing I wouldn't be their teacher next term but guess what? In a matter of a few brief weeks I'd get a cheery "Hiya Miss" in the corridors or on yard & that's as it should be