To not want my children in wraparound care?

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There’s no way to avoid it of course unless I give up work until my youngest is leaving primary but does anyone else hate the thought of wraparound care? The school day is long enough for little ones and I feel guilty. I know I wouldn’t have liked it.

It's really not like work.

It's playing with their friends

Getting strong 'kids off for the holidays' with this trolling

Now you’re being stupid - children playing with friends is a positive and not something negative and uncaring. My DT’s are now in their early 20’s and have positive memories of the friends they made and games they played in after school club.

@ExecutionersBong come off it- now you’re just talking bollocks really. Have you actually asked a child whether they felt unloved for being in wrap-around? Or are you majorly projecting.

DD1 hated it, said it was boring - she's delighted to be moving up to Y7 and no more after school club. DD2 loves it because her best friend goes - it's luck of the draw to a certain extent.

OP this depends on the child’s personality. Our son is the biggest extrovert going and clearly absolutely LOVES attending his school’s ASC. However, the school isn’t round the corner (a drive away) and so a couple of days a week we have a nanny collect him and bring him home.

@ByCupidStunt
didn't want my kids in wraparound care either. I just became a SAHM and had less "stuff" until my kids could come home from school by themselves and wait for me.

My salary definitely covers a lot more than “stuff” (whatever that is). I also wouldn’t want the long break in my CV, which being a SAHM would bring about.

My DD loves it (gets annoyed if you pick her up from it early!), even when her friends aren’t going. She’ll talk the hind leg off anything that moves though so that didn’t bother her. You sound like you’re working yourself up, which is going to then impact the kids view of it etc.

Agree on personality type but not on friendship groups

None of DS1's close friends from class go to wraparound normally but he has really enjoyed playing with children in different years.

Which schools operate for 10 hours? Many of us either have parents still working themselves or as in our case, don’t live in the same country as us.

It depends on what they're used to, doesn't it? Mine had been in full time nursery from 6 months old and wraparound care at school wasn't a big deal. They were used to it, they had friends there and it was fun.

For a child who has always been at home before starting school, it could be very difficult.

My dd goes every day 7.30-5.30. She likes it. The staff are fab and she has a great breakfast there and filling snacks after school. They do all sorts of lovely activities. I don't feel even a bit guilty!

Big difference between going to school and breakfast and after school club. School is school whereas breakfast and after school clubs are additional play time with friends.

Jam sandwich is a bit crap, it's definitely not like that at my daughter's school club. There's not much I can do about the length of time, how else do people manage working full time without wrap around care ?

Yours sounds awful. Ours has fantastic food.

My eldest hated it and it was only twice a week till 5pm for a year.

When my next 2 was born I opted to be a sahm luckily I could .

Now back working but we now run our own company so I work what I want so thankfully don't need it.

I appreciate everyone is different, some need , want it etc. It just wasn't for us

Oh so you can't work full time then.

How very privileged to have grandparents AND great grandparents . We have neither !

Pretty sure the parents of the children in my classes would not be best pleased if I compressed my hours either 🤣

This is like the sahm Vs wohm threads last week = utter bollocks and sanctimonious posts.

There’s nothing off about providing your DC’s with high quality care so that you can work knowing that they are having a good time and enjoying themselves.

You don't have to back anyone up, since no one is making the op put her children in wraparound care. She can do whatever she likes with her own children.