to tell you we just had sex for the first time in 4 years

[cupsofteaandcoffee]

NC

He has ED and is obviously extremely self conscious about it. He wasn't very hard, but that was fine. It was just fantastic to be so close to each other after so long.

I can be susceptible to UTIs. I didn't use the toilet before sex, and we had it in the morning so I had a full bladder, but I did wash (shower) after. No condom.

I'm now paranoid that I'm going to get a UTI. What are the chances ?

Ugh. Why did I open this thread while having my breakfast?! 🤢

You’ve just had your first shag in four years and you’re stressing about a UTI you haven’t got?

It sounds like there’s a lot more going on here psychologically than your partner’s ED, if anxiety about a non-existent UTI is what’s on your mind after one sexual encounter

Then why open it?!

Contraceptives?

there is a Sex forum on Mumsnet. this is not an AIBU post, maybe that is the issue?

UTI isn't even that gross you're such a delicate daisy!

Can't believe you went 4 years without sex

Whoa there… I mean, the chap has ED - the OP has been open enough to explain this.

What happens if our partners have a physical issue with sex.. is there a statute of limitations that means if we pass X date on the calendar, we can’t “go without?”

Good on the OP for working with him and waiting until it happens

Yes this was my first thought as well!

I don't think it's that rare

It’s probably more the image of a squidgy penis and a full bladder tbh. Sorry but post a weird thread, get weird answers 😄 a sign of too much MN really - OP for running to MN after first sex in 4 years; and me for reading and posting!

Congrats I guess😄

I don't think anybody can guess how likely it is you'll have a UTI. I used to get them often afterwards but that was a few years ago. My body seems to be able to deal with it now, but I do make sure I go for a wee straight after.

Ha ha.
Summed up very well. 😬

Strange post, and weirdly descriptive.

@cupsofteaandcoffee main thing is to pee after.

The main thing is to pee after. I’m prone to UTIs and I take D mannose and female specific probiotics daily, and these really help. Might be worth getting your hands on some?

I agree!

Have you looked into getting some therapy with your issues?
As it does sound like he has physical issues but you definitely have some psychological issues going on too.

You had sex!

Blimey, is he really into politics?

Honestly it’s a bit stressy and not very fun sounding !!!

Unsure why people are being mean. The word sez is literally in the title, people shouldn't have clicked it if they were going to be a twat about it.

Really pleased for you, OP.

Try not to stress too much, chances are you'll be fine.

You could get some cranberry juice, cranberry tablets or some cystitis sachets from the supermarket/pharmacy for prevention.

As someone who used to suffer horrendously with cystitis, and still would if I didn't drink 5 pints if water a day (1 "dry" morning and I'm in pain), I totally understand your obsession OP. Just drink a few pints of water straight off and hopefully you'll be OK. Hope things continue to improve for you both.

High five?!

You should pee AFTER sex to avoid UTIs.