Hi everyone.
Apologies if this is in the wrong section, I really wasn't sure where to put it.
For many many reasons, my marriage has been struggling for a while and my husband has become more and more emotionally abusive and shady and just horrible.
He recently took my bank card from me (I use his account normally as I am a sahm) and told me he'd transfer me £500 for the month. He said he wanted to save.
In March my dad kindly offered to lend us money to buy a car as ours had been written off. The agreement was once we received the settlement from the insurance company we would pay him that amount back, then the rest over time in installments. My husband agreed to this.
We received the money from the insurance whilst he was away with work. He said he'd pay it back once he was home in about a month.
when he returned he told me I'd spent half the money (I knew I hadnt) so only transferred half to my dad. He was adamant it was me.
I haven't looked through the online baking before, I'm ashamed to say but I just thought I'd have a look.
He has been transferring hundreds of pounds to a separate account which I have no access to. He's been doing this for months but suddenly upped the amount when we had the money from the car in there.
I can't believe he did it. I can't believe he had the audacity to do it in secret, lie and blame me for it.
I'm a fool for not checking the account sooner but I just trusted him and didn't think to.
I want to leave. This is one step too far and I am done 100%.
What do I do from here?
I don't suppose I have any rights to that money now he's sneaked it off. My poor dad now is out of pocket because of this ass.