To think a lot of men aren't that bothered about women being ultra slim?

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From what I've seen around me, men seem to be happiest with average-sized/curvier women.

A colleague of mine is a football player and very into fitness and his girlfriend is quite overweight, they've been together 6 years.

A man I liked who is quite thin, he wasn't interested. His ex is at our workplace and is significantly overweight.

I know this sounds nasty and rude, it probably is. However I feel like on the whole men aren't that bothered about women having figures like Victoria's Secret models, and personality is more important.

Pre diabetic lol

Personally I am only attracted to slim women.

"It's reducing women's attractiveness to their size and making gross remarks about their physicality- haven't men done enough of that for literally decades?"

Yes, and so have women when commenting about men but you don't mention that. Why not?

The vast majority of us are baffled by it, trust me!

That's not average. The average UK woman is a size 16. But separately men aren't homogeneous - I say this with regards to features (e.g. dark hair/Mediterranean looking vs Scandi blonde as well).

Oh FFS

Men like boobs and bottoms. They like most women. Most aren’t that fussy.
I find that it’s women who have a lot to say about other women and their size. Not men.
Mwn are attracted to lots of women daily and like attention.from lots of women.

I like slim, geeky men. My sister's ideal is Chris Hemsworth. Women like different things, I don't see why men's tastes would be any less diverse. Some will fancy bigger women, some smaller, some won't mind. Takes all sorts to make a world!

You can still be slim and have curves, it's largely to do with how the body is proportioned. Most women have curves that's a female characteristic. Most men would prefer a slimmer women over an obese one, same the other way around. I'm not saying skinny like a runway model but a size 8-12 for example.

Such a sad thread. We all know our country has a weight problem and it is the biggest elephant in the room (pun not intended). Men can’t be honest or have much of a choice because they are surrounded by bigger women, there are so many. That’s not to say bigger isn’t attractive but given a choice most men would love a sim, toned (not thin) woman but in all honesty there are many, many more bigger women than slim these days so they really don’t have much choice.

Won’t someone think of all the poor men! Who all deserve thin toned women! they don’t have to be ripped themselves mind. It’s just the women who are denying them the privilege.

Won’t someone think of all the poor men! Who all deserve thin toned women! they don’t have to be ripped themselves mind. It’s just the women who are denying them the privilege

Yep, the amount of men who look like a sack of potatoes thinking they are entitled to a supermodel blows my mind. Never ceases to astound me!

I think what men find attractive in pictures or on the street isn't the same as what they want in a partner.

I think most men do tend to prefer slightly curvier women, and they're less bothered about size than women think they will be.
Also a lot of the time don't notice much difference between sizes .... I remember my dad once saying that my mum (uk12), SIL (uk 14) and me (uk 8) were "all about the same size" lol

Now it’s “pro anorexia” to say it isn’t good to be overweight. 😂

@Bellsandthistle

Now it’s “pro anorexia” to say it isn’t good to be overweight. 😂

No it isn’t and I didn’t say it was. But mocking women who are overweight for “eating all the pies” and having “chubby boobs” points to someone who is at best judgemental about people who are overweight. And quite likely has fairly toxic views on the topic of weight.

I think attraction changes as a relationship goes on. In my early twenties when I met my husband I was initially attracted to his looks. Slim, good looking with a full head of hair! After a while I realised he was a really lovely person too. Now he’s 30 years older and mostly bald and I still fancy the pants off him . He says the same that he first noticed me because of my legs! These days they’re twice the size they were, my whole body is twice the size it was. I’ve been every size over the years but we both still find each other attractive.

I think you are right. Although there are a lot of men out there who wouldn't be seen dead with any woman bigger than a size 12, equally there are lots of men who aren't bothered,and who like/prefer bigger women. I've varied in size over the years between a size 10 and a size 24 (I'm now a 16) and I can honestly say that I had as many men interested in me at a size 24 as I did as a size 10!

I'm knocking 40 and haven't given any thought for a long time about whether or not men find me attractive. I met dh at 17 so its been a very long time since I tried to 'attract' a man.

When it comes to my body I literally only care about how I feel about it. For the first time probably ever I'm really happy with my body, I can run really far and do advanced yoga moves and it makes me feel so bloody good. I really don't care if men prefer 'something to grab on to' or a 'soft body', I've actually never asked dh if he prefers me now or when my body was squidgier and I don't care, if he doesn't like it he knows where the door is 🤷🏻‍♀️

I don't know why overweight women always claim curves attract men, overweight women don't have curves outside of clothes compared to a gym fit slim hourglass woman, they have lumps and lots of creasing and folds. Curves are chest to waist to hips ratio and most overweight women will collect weight in their midsection which doesn't create a sleek curvy figure once the bra is off. Perhaps the bigger reason alot of men prefer overweight women is they're easier to approach.

Perhaps the bigger reason alot of men prefer overweight women is they're easier to approach.

Or they’re overweight themselves? (60%).

I dont get this either- surely "curves" means that your body goes in and out- which indicates an hourglass shape. If you are quite overweight you dont have those curves because extra weight means there is no contrast between your body going in and then out again.

I am not being rude because I used to be overweight myself but now I have lost the weight, I DO actually have curves. When I was overweight, I didnt because it used to all go on my mid section so there werent any visible curves!!

Yep - I’m a size 8 and have a great waist/hip ratio - much better than having a massive gut and trying to pass it off as ‘curves’. I won’t be the one with diabetes & heart trouble.

The problem is that 'curvy' has become a euphemism for 'fat'. Because 'fat' has become such an emotive word.

Which is why you get very overweight women describing themselves as 'curvy' and people questioning how someone who is a size 6/8 can possibly be 'curvy' because if you're a 6/8, you're slim.

I did online dating 10/12 years ago when it asked you to state your body type - athletic average curvy bbw were pretty much the options I think. I said I was curvy because I am (boobs, waist, bum) and was a 12 at the time. I was also not athletic (fit with defined muscles) nor average (size 16). It took me ages to realise that people were reading 'curvy' as meaning I was bigger than a 16 and athletic probably just meant slim.

Obfuscation of the language in this way is partly what causes the problems.

@Thepeopleversuswork As I said, I take back the immature comment, but this thread has mocked and denigrated slimmer women, and I don’t see you complaining about that.

Far more toxic to applaud unhealthiness - and on the basis that men find it attractive, of all reasons!

I stand by my original comment that attraction is complex and not purely physical. I regret that the thread has turned women against each other and shouldn’t have retaliated, but perhaps people shouldn’t dish it out if they can’t take it.