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Lucy Letby ( To understand)

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PassingStranger · 02/07/2024 20:11

What made her kill these babies. Been in the news again today.

It's hard to understand?
Presume as she is in prison and not a hospital, she is not mentally ill?

Will anyone try to find out, I guess if people don't admit they are guilty it's hard too.

Instead of people saying give me 5 mins in a cell with her, surely it's better to stop this happening or maybe it's not possible?
Why does she want to be one of the most hated women in the universe and not give a shit about the babies families and even her own parents?

So much better to be known for doing something nice and have people like you?
AIBU to wonder why she took this road in life?

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GotAnyGrapeswaddlewaddl · 02/07/2024 21:28

@Conniebygaslight I cannot get this,My feeling is something later on will come out &they got it wrong 🤷🏼‍♀️

Domoda · 02/07/2024 21:29

TheYearOfSmallThings · 02/07/2024 21:15

I think she was addicted to the affirmation and attention and praise she received in the role of caring super-nurse, because it made her feel special. The more vulnerable the patient, the more admiration she got, so she had no interest in patients who couldn't deliver that. Eventually she started creating situations in which she could be seen to advantage, by herself and others, because without that affirmation she felt empty.

I would also guess that other people exist mainly as an audience for her, which is the only way I can interpret descriptions of her being overly chatty and smiley when showing parents memory boxes of their children. Their pain was not real to her, they were just props meeting her need.

Yes, this.

SerafinasGoose · 02/07/2024 21:29

It's a question to which there'll never be an answer because psychopathic serial killers never admit what they did or why they did it. It's the last vestige of power they can hold on to when it's all up and they know they will never again taste what freedom is like beyond the confines of prison. Normal empathetic human beings can never understand, because thankfully it's beyond most of our comprehension.

There's a playbook and these types seem to follow it to the letter. But the evidence that they enjoy inflicting gratuitous suffering is a little more marked in this case, with Letby's numerous Facebook searches of the grieving parents of babies she had killed.

She did it because she wanted to, because once she'd started she clearly found she enjoyed it, and because she could.

StMarieforme · 02/07/2024 21:29

Riversideandrelax · 02/07/2024 20:43

I'm never sure about the mental illness thing. Most people in prison have a mental illness, I've been told.

My DP was arrested and at the station they said he was completely fine. The next day he was sectioned as in full blown psychosis.

I mean to my way of thinking how can you be right in the head if you kill babies? And that's why we can't answer why she did it because mental illness is not rational.

I think people feel like saying 'mental illness' let's the person off and they understandably don't like that.

Well many people are mentally ill but not murderous or evil, so it's not a given is it?

I think she, like Beverly Allitt before her, enjoyed creating the drama. Didn't care at all who she hurt.

PTSDBarbiegirl · 02/07/2024 21:30

Psychopath who needs to weild power over the vulnerable.

Butchyrestingface · 02/07/2024 21:32

How do you propose people "try to find out", @PassingStranger ?

LL denies that she committed the crimes, period. She's not one of those serial killers who's happy to sit down with the psychiatrists and journos and explore the murky depths of her psyche.

That may change, given time. But for the moment, she is claiming innocence.

ByNavyOtter · 02/07/2024 21:34

sandrapinchedmysandwich · 02/07/2024 21:14

But she wasn't was she? She already had amounted to something. She had a very good responsible job. Her own home. Friends. A supportive family. That's not someone amounting to nothing.

Yet she still did this. We will never know why in all probability

I dunno I feel for someone like her perhaps she had delusions of grandeur where all those things you listed were normal and not amounting to the absolute centre of the universe she wanted to be. Also some people are just really really evil and really jealous so they can amount to what most of society strives for and this is nothing in their eyes.

Medicalabortionat6weeks24 · 02/07/2024 21:34

This is purely gossip so much so im using a username i used recently.
Some believe she had a miscarriage with married doctor which kicked started all this.

BloodandGlitter · 02/07/2024 21:36

I think it's interesting how sympathetic people are towards her compared to other murderers, the almost desperate need for it not to be her. Do you think it's just because she's a woman? There's certainly no sympathy to male murderers of children.

meimyself · 02/07/2024 21:36

BloodandGlitter · 02/07/2024 21:36

I think it's interesting how sympathetic people are towards her compared to other murderers, the almost desperate need for it not to be her. Do you think it's just because she's a woman? There's certainly no sympathy to male murderers of children.

It's because the case against her was weak

LuluBlakey1 · 02/07/2024 21:37

5128gap · 02/07/2024 20:34

She may not be hospitalised because she may not be thought to benefit from medical intervention, but I struggle to see how she could be judged to be of sound mind. Mentally and emotionally healthy people do not murder multiple babies for no apparant gain other than the pleasure of power or attention. I don't believe in 'pure evil'. It's a vague religious concept not a human condition. Human beings commit evil deeds. Where they do so for no apparant reason, there is something broken and twisted in their minds.

But the world is full of people who commit evil deeds really carelessly- they are simply unconcerned about consequences for the person/animals they commit them against.
People who train and fight dogs.
People who hunt animals and watch them ripped apart terrified and in pain.
People who hurt animals- kick, hit, torture them, kill them.
Men who assault women- physically, sexually.
Men who assault children.
People who sell drugs.
People like Putin.
People who carry out violent acts- carry knives, guns, machetes.
People who torture other people.
Murderers.

They are not all mad- they may not have a conscience, or care about causing harm to others/animals.

Some are mad - unfit to plead because they act in a way out of their control because of a mental condition. I don't think those people should ever be released from secure hospital units if they have taken lives or caused life-changing injury. That they are, if assessed as having made enough progress, released into the community is disgraceful. Most remain likely to relapse and re-offend and the victims are usually women or vulnerable people.

Lucy Letby has been assessed as sane/fit to plead and is in a prison. She made a choice - for whatever reason. I don't think that it was babies is significant- it's about why does she choose to take lives. There is something in it for her that mattered more to her at the time than any pain or suffering she caused. The notes/writings found show she knew what she was doing and was scared of being found out- presumably she didn't want to face any consequences. Like last time she showed no emotions apart from some irritation at points during the court case. She is not accepting of her guilt which suggests she is either deluded (unlikely) or a narcissist and feels misunderstood and unfairly treated- which would be my guess. Her relationship with her parents seems to support this- adored child who could do no wrong in their eyes.

We allow many people to commit cruel, evil acts every day and don't condemn them as mad.

WayOutOfLine · 02/07/2024 21:37

I don't think you can prevent Lucy Letbys existing, she claims she is innocent and we don't know what would motivate her.

I do think that the unit was very poorly managed, that there were lots of deficiencies in terms of infrastructure, and that death rates were high elsewhere as well, all of which meant that when the alarm was raised, it wasn't acted on and other babies died. I suggested once on here that they should have installed CCTV on the wards at that point and was shouted down, because of course you would prefer to have privacy on these wards, but by then they thought there was a high death rate and had already suspected her. I think not proceeding with better safeguards at that point was probably negligent.

wibblywobblywoo · 02/07/2024 21:39

Pigeonqueen · 02/07/2024 20:50

Perhaps. But then listening to a doctor talking on the news tonight who was a witness he says he came in to the room to find no alarms going off. No alerts. Just LL standing quietly by the side of the cot. Watching, not attempting to alert anyone (ie not trying to be the first on the scene etc). It’s all very odd.

I think that ties in with the 'playing God' scenario - watching life hang in the balance and then sounding the alarm when it's just too late to be effective. Creepy af.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 02/07/2024 21:40

meimyself · 02/07/2024 21:10

I thought her writing was deranged but she could be innocent

I would urge you to listen the trial of LL, she's not innocent.

BloodandGlitter · 02/07/2024 21:42

meimyself · 02/07/2024 21:36

It's because the case against her was weak

You can't possibly say this unless you were on the jury and had access to all the evidence they were shown.
The Doctor speaking on radio about finding her standing so calmly without sounding the alarm certainly sounds quite compelling too.

meimyself · 02/07/2024 21:42

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 02/07/2024 21:40

I would urge you to listen the trial of LL, she's not innocent.

I followed the whole thing. The whole case was just like well it had to be someone's fault

TomatoSandwiches · 02/07/2024 21:42

The evidence certainly seems circumstantial, I'm not entirely convinced she is guilty, but I also think it could be some form of unconscious bias, not sure, it all feels a bit off to me.

SerafinasGoose · 02/07/2024 21:44

EnjoythemoneyJane · 02/07/2024 21:03

Nobody is born evil. It’s ridiculous nonsense - evil is an entirely religious construct, as per @5128gap upthread. By blaming the amorphous concept of ‘evil’ for the horrific things people do, you effectively throw up your hands and believe bad acts are inevitable and outside of our control or understanding - ‘aah, what could anyone do though? That baby was was always going to be an evil one regardless’.

’Evil’ is borne out of any number of physiological, mental, emotional, environmental and accidental factors which, when brought to bear on certain individuals in certain catastrophic combinations, result in terrible things.

Lucy Letby is no exception. ‘Monsters’ aren’t monsters. They’re just people. Fucking awful people, but people nonetheless. To believe anything else is literally medieval logic - you might as well bring out the pitchforks and ducking stools.

Agreed. According to Hannah Arendt's 'Origins of Totalitarianism' the very face of the human constract that is 'evil' is banality. Rudolph Hoess, the first commandant of Auschwitz who divised the gas chambers as an effective method of mass killing, was certainly not 'acting on orders'. He was not only an active participant in that process, he engineered it, spearheaded it and brought the act of mass murder to maximum brutal efficiency.

According to those who knew him he was a boring man who was often described as being like a grocer. How familiar this is to the new (yet not-so-new) rhetoric of the Vanilla Killer.

We call people monsters because we want to otherise their behaviour; to differentiate between ourselves and them. In fact, their actions are entirely human. As a species we do horrible, horrible things to each other.

Viviennemary · 02/07/2024 21:45

Said on the news she loved the drama of it all. Monster.

IonaFiona · 02/07/2024 21:45

TheaBrandt · 02/07/2024 20:30

I thought she did it because she fancied the doctor that came to rescue and she enjoyed the buzz, drama and attention. Sort of like munchausen by proxy.

This is exactly what I think too.

It gave her a 'tie' to the doctor she had her sights set on

buttnut · 02/07/2024 21:47

BloodandGlitter · 02/07/2024 21:36

I think it's interesting how sympathetic people are towards her compared to other murderers, the almost desperate need for it not to be her. Do you think it's just because she's a woman? There's certainly no sympathy to male murderers of children.

I think, maybe because she appears so normal, some people really struggle to accept the evil things she did? Maybe they find it deeply unsettling that this ‘nice’, trustworthy, professional woman who could easily have been one of their friends is actually a murderer, like it throws all their judgement and perceptions into question.

flamesdancing · 02/07/2024 21:48

She didn’t even meet the doctor until the killings had already started so impressing him can’t be her motive (or at least not her initial one).

I feel the same as you OP, I just don’t understand how or why anyone could do this.

PrinnyPree · 02/07/2024 21:48

I do wonder if she didn't do it for attention or sympathy, maybe she did it just to see what would happen and followed it up to see how the parents reacted. Just sociopathic.

I imagine she doesn't see herself as a murderer either she probably justifies to herself those babies were going to die so her accelerating the process was a mercy in some twisted way. I don't think she'll ever admit it and we'll never really know.

My heart absolutley breaks, those little souls deserved a chance. I would struggle being one of the mothers affected. 😞 xx

Hohofortherobbers · 02/07/2024 21:49

meimyself · 02/07/2024 21:42

I followed the whole thing. The whole case was just like well it had to be someone's fault

I followed it all too, I'm not convinced she's guilty beyond reasonable doubt. I don't have an explanation for the tragic deaths but I didn't hear concrete evidence against her.

HRTQueen · 02/07/2024 21:50

I do not think they will ever be able to know why and possibly the reasons why changed in time

but she made those choices again there isn’t always a reasoning why
sometimes it’s because they could

LL isn’t evil that lets her off gives her an excuse her actions are (if you want to use that word)

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