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Friends accident & mini break

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Margo2023 · 01/07/2024 23:20

Me and my friend have a 3 night mini break away in a couple of weeks, not far, just a couple of hours each way by public transport. Both already booked our own transport. She picked, booked and paid up front for the hotel at 250 each. Fast forward to today, she has sprained her wrist after a night out and now is unsure if she will be able to travel. I would normally claim on travel insurance, if we can't move it which I don't think we can due to the hotel availability (being Summer). She says she doesn't bother with travel insurance. I am now wondering if I am obliged to lay her my share of the hotel? I can't find anyone else to come along

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IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 02/07/2024 07:32

Waiting for the drip feed that it's a kayaking trip...

Easipeelerie · 02/07/2024 07:33

Don’t book holidays with people who have form for being flakey.

Maraa · 02/07/2024 07:36

Whenever me and friends book a weekend away, we always have one firm rule, even if you drop out you must pay as it isn’t fair for everyone else. She needs to pay her share. If she does, I’d go and enjoy a weekend of peace x

rookiemere · 02/07/2024 07:38

Iliketulips · 02/07/2024 07:29

Unless it's an activities break, there's no reason why she can't go - she can get a pull-along bag to make it easier with luggage.

I'd tell her you've both paid or are obliged to pay 50% and for that reason you're still going - up to her if she takes up her bed or not.

Actually that's a very good direct - but not rude - response.

This is one of the reasons we book separate hotel rooms on ladies trips now, just makes everything easier if you're only sorting yourself out.

RampantIvy · 02/07/2024 07:46

saraclara · 02/07/2024 01:32

Ah, maybe I misunderstood. You don't want to go if she doesn't?

Has she made a non-cancellable booking? If so, that's on her. These days there's almost always the option of paying a little extra to make a booking cancelable. And booking directly with the hotel is usually cancelable anyway.

I always pay extra for a cancellable booking. Unfortunately, I did have to cancel a booking recently, so I'm glad I took that option. We later booked the same hotel and managed to get there on our second attempt.

It's like paying for insurance, but cheaper.

lacefan · 02/07/2024 07:47

Iliketulips · 02/07/2024 07:29

Unless it's an activities break, there's no reason why she can't go - she can get a pull-along bag to make it easier with luggage.

I'd tell her you've both paid or are obliged to pay 50% and for that reason you're still going - up to her if she takes up her bed or not.

I agree with this. Its a ridiculous excuse (unless its kayaking or bungee jumping but I presume you would have mentioned that if so).

She needs to pay her half if she's going to be so pathetic.

I also wouldnt book anything with her in future as you've mentioned the word flaky. It's a pointless exercise booking trips with people who have a history of being flaky as it always ends in disappointment and cost. That doesnt mean she isnt a nice person but flakiness is a huge sign not to plan anything costly or that involves commitment as those people simply arent capable of it, its like expecting something of someone that they just cant deliver.

I have a couple of flaky friends and whilst I like them, I dont plan anything with them that I know wouldnt be a pain in the arse to me if they back out. I meet them in groups or spontaneously if I am already going to be in their area as then it doesnt matter if they flake out. Its a difficult lesson to learn if you enjoy their company but you have to protect yourself as its always the "reliable" person who ends up disappointed and out of pocket, sadly.

BileBeansSara · 02/07/2024 07:49

Are you sure she has actually sprained her wrist? It sounds like she wants out of the break and this is an excuse.

LookItsMeAgain · 02/07/2024 07:50

1 - A sprained wrist should not stop her from travelling. A broken one might make it more difficult for her but again, it too shouldn't stop her from travelling.
2 - She has already paid up front for her hotel and at the same time didn't think it wise to take out travel insurance if she was to have an accident which would prevent her from travelling. Again, this was her decision.
3 - there is no obligation for you to cover any of her costs that she has incurred due to the above point 2. If you have travel insurance and you can't travel and you claim, you're claiming for you only. Do not give her any money here.

If I were you, I'd still go and see a bit more of the world. You could contact the hotel to see if you can change the room from a double to a single as they may be able to sell the double again and might have a single that they might struggle to sell for the duration of the break away. You can mooch around and go at your own speed, if there is a spa treat yourself to a treatment or a swim in the pool. You could have a really lovely time.

I do think she is trying to back out but if she doesn't have insurance and you do and you still want to go, then just GO and have a good time!!!

UtterlyOtterly · 02/07/2024 07:52

It's not her wrist which is the problem, it's her integrity.

litlleseahorse · 02/07/2024 07:58

Easipeelerie · 02/07/2024 07:33

Don’t book holidays with people who have form for being flakey.

Yep- this. Been there, got the t shirt (she didnt because she didnt go 😂), been out of pocket due to flakey friends.

Never, ever book trips that cost money or use your annual leave with people who have form for being flakey.

It never ends well and you always end up pissed off and out of pocket. This sounds to me like a very obvious excuse and she doesnt want to go.

TheOccupier · 02/07/2024 08:00

This is your friend so assume the best of her and be kind - she's probably just panicking/catastrophising if nothing like this has happened to her before. Just say "I'm sure you'll feel better by the time we go and I can help you carry things" and make it clear you'll be going either way. I think it will all be fine.

Moonlitwalk · 02/07/2024 08:06

I would still go even if she didnt and probably enjoy it more if she's going to be flaky but I certainly wouldnt be covering any of her costs. It was HER choice not to get travel insurance so if she backs out and is out of pocket thats entirely on her I'm afraid.

crockofshite · 02/07/2024 08:10

were you planning to share a room?

If not, her room is her responsibility. You go ahead and enjoy your mini-break and she can come along or send someone else to use her separate room as she sees fit. It's not your responsibility to sort out her arrangements.

Don't pay for her share of her hotel room. the fact she doesn't have insurance isn't your problem / business / issue / responsibility.

The problem would be if you were planning on sharing a room and she wanted to sell her share to someone you don't know.

Amsx · 02/07/2024 08:15

No insurance will pay for that. What a baby.

Perplexed20 · 02/07/2024 08:33

I'm on holiday currently ...recovering from a fractured shoulder...

Bjorkdidit · 02/07/2024 08:34

Whether you go or not, she pays for her half of the hotel, no arguments.

No reasonable person would think you should pay for her half, or pick up the consequences of her not having travel insurance.

Plus unless it's an activity holiday, I don't see how a sprained wrist a few weeks before the trip would stop her from going.

Tbry24 · 02/07/2024 08:39

It’s not even her legs just her wrist and in a fortnights time! She can put a small backpack on with a couple of days T-shirts and shorts in it and she will be fine on a coach or train. I have a mobility type disability (leg related) I’ve still managed trains with a big suitcase, you can even book for assistance to help you get on or off the train.

And no don’t pay her for her share she either comes and enjoys her holiday or you just go alone (might be nicer for you). Enjoy your mini break regardless.

Isometimeswonder · 02/07/2024 08:43

Does she have a new boyfriend? Is she one of those type of friends?

MrsStottlemeyer · 02/07/2024 08:47

What? I fell off a cliff and died and still made it into work the next day!
🤣🤣

deplorabelle · 02/07/2024 08:48

Phone the hotel and ask to confirm they have a booking. I don't think she ever booked it. She's used your money on something else and can't pay it back

Nicelynicelyjohnson · 02/07/2024 08:51

She booked and paid for everything? Have you given her your half?
I'd suggest she tries to get a refund from the hotel - as it's summer and they can re-let the room they might refund her out of compassion.

You should not be out of pocket at all for this.
If she had a serious injury then maybe I would try to claim on my travel insurance, but no one is going to be interested in a sprained wrist (unless it's a cycling holiday).

liann34 · 02/07/2024 08:53

Sounds like she doesn't want to go.

EddieSweety · 02/07/2024 08:55

Ffs 😂 just when you think you’ve heard everything 😂😂

Optimist1 · 02/07/2024 09:01

deplorabelle · 02/07/2024 08:48

Phone the hotel and ask to confirm they have a booking. I don't think she ever booked it. She's used your money on something else and can't pay it back

This

Dartwarbler · 02/07/2024 09:04

happyhippo1 · 01/07/2024 23:21

She won’t be able to travel in a couple of weeks because of a sprained wrist? Give over. Tell her to put her big girl pants on and get on with it.

This. I travelled for work with both (at separate times) a broken elbow and broken foot

in fact with broken foot multiple journeys including long haul to brazil

she having you on.

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