Is this supposed to happen this often at nursery?!

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I admit I am a bit of a clean freak. If Dd ever soils her vests I throw them out rather than wash them. She is now 20 months and ar nursery the last 6 months. Once or twice a week without fail I am given a plastic bag with her vest and trousers in, which have got a tinge of poo on the seams or at the back of the nappy. When I’m with her I change her as soon as possible/immediately and I wonder if they are not changing her frequently or something? Is this just normal nursery stuff?

Christ, 3 out of 4 days this week my daughter has had an outfit change at nursery (due to food and other mess this time but has been poo in past) I cannot imagine throwing clothes out because of this.

Nurseries try their best with nappy changes. If the know a child has pooped they will change as soon as they can, but sometimes they don’t realise it’s happened and they only realise at the next scheduled nappy change. This happens at home, very occasionally I’ll miss the poo and I won’t realise until I next change it or it’s leaking. It will happen a higher proportion of the time at nursery because they have more than one child to look after.

You need to stop being so afraid of poop 💩 once you start potty training this attitude won’t be helpful and can really cause issues.

It really isn't.

Food and poo both contain bacteria, which are killed by heat, or soap.

Do you not worry about the impact this level of cleanliness will have on your child? The subtle messaging they will already be getting about things that are "dirty".

Not really, wash on 60 degrees or higher and the bacteria will be killed off. Use the dettol laundry stuff and you'll be fine.

It's not. But I doubt anyone will convince you otherwise.

Stop putting them in the bin. Easily washed and depending what you use will come out the washer brand new.

We had this afew times at nursery, they don't always catch them having a poo until they see their nappy being big, smell etc.

We can change at home straight away as there's not 20 other kids in the room.

Sweet Jesus are you made of money? STOP throwing clothes away. buy a basin bio powder and some vanish soak them and put in washing machine. if your thar worried about dirt now god you are in fir a shock as they got older plus make your children anxious 🙈

Do the nappies definitely fit her correctly? This very rarely happened with my child, maybe once or twice if they had a blowout but the nappy should usually keep everything in

I was going to say this has never happened at my son's nursery then realised I wouldn't know because I don't even look at the clothes sent home as dirty, I chuck them straight in the washing machine as I don't care why they've been changed, staff clearly thought they needed it so fine.
I provide a wet bag of the type used for cloth nappies (which we use at home) so that nursery don't use a single use plastic bag for every dirty item of clothing. And OP is THROWING AWAY not just a plastic bag but the whole vest?! Dear Lord, what hope for the planet our children will inherit.

You are going to have to find a way round this because I've never known a single 4 or 5 year old who wiped correctly and perfectly every time. They just don't. They don't have the reach, the dexterity or the interest.

Kid at school = inadequate wiping on a very regular basis

Too, once you're potty training, accidents 100% will happen and binning her favourite pants, knickers, dress, top, pj's or whatever instead of washing is a sure route to major issues.

Apply stain remover, add dettol or napisan, wash at 60 if you must but there’s really no need to throw away.

Wasteful AND ignorant about a mental health condition. Oh dear OP, I suggest you educate yourself.

What about Terry nappies and reusable cloth nappies, people just wash them!
In fact my DM used old cloth Terry nappies for years after as hand towel!
They were very hot washed and very white. She use to use something called napisan to wash and it cleaned them brilliantly.

I suggest you urgently educate yourself on both the impact of wasting clothes and the reality of ocd.
Ocd is a complex neurological disorder and shouldn't be used as a flippant excuse for throwing away clothes that could easily be washed and reused.

And what exactly do you think a clean poo stain is going to do to your child? Jump up into their mouth?!

If OP is binning clothes rather than wash them, it's more than possible that she does have OCD. In which case dogpiling her is unlikely to be helpful.

Yes wash them, but is your nearly two year old still having very liquid bowel movements for there to be leaks? Is that usual for her? We didn't really get this with DS, his poo was pretty solid by that age, he's five now and we don't get marks in underwear either, and I'm certain it's not because he has exceptional cleanliness standards he's a grotbag

If Dd ever soils her vests I throw them out rather than wash them.

And this is why I don't bend over backwards making sure I recycle every little thing. It's all useless when idiots like this exist.

What?! Of course a dirty nappy should be changed immediately!

I've thrown many vests away...after washing on a hot wash, multiple times, with stain remover, pre soaking first in soda crystals etc etc.....sometimes the poo stains just do not shift.

Let’s hope you also throw your own clothes away after sitting on chairs in cafes, restaurants, public places and public transport - god forbid the nasties that will be on your clothes 🤢

I'd only be concerned about how often they are changing her nappy if she had regular nappy rash. The nappy leaking could be for many reasons and I'd expect it they were leaving it on for a considerable length of time then it would be more than a tinge.

Once it’s washed it doesn’t matter what the stain was. No point wasting them. Why don’t you use the stained ones specifically for nursery?

Also yes this is normal, happens at least once a week for us. It sometimes depends on the position my DC is in so if they poo sat up it sometimes leaks straight away.

Also no matter how good the nursery they may not notice your child has done a poo straight away where as if they are with you you would.

Yeah, let's deliberately torture someone with contamination anxiety/possible OCD. Brilliant.

Move away from vests that do up under crotch. It’s around tge right age for that. Don’t throw soiled stuff away, once potty training starts you will get used to a bag of clothes that are soiled most days

If she was heavily OCD she would be throwing all clothes away and probably wouldn’t be sending her child to nursery. Might as well chuck all the clothes, not just the ones with visible poo stains. Always sad little martyr out there 😢

This.
OCD is a crippling mental health condition, not an adjective.