Is this supposed to happen this often at nursery?!

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I admit I am a bit of a clean freak. If Dd ever soils her vests I throw them out rather than wash them. She is now 20 months and ar nursery the last 6 months. Once or twice a week without fail I am given a plastic bag with her vest and trousers in, which have got a tinge of poo on the seams or at the back of the nappy. When I’m with her I change her as soon as possible/immediately and I wonder if they are not changing her frequently or something? Is this just normal nursery stuff?

Yes it happens all the time. Can't get my head around throwing them out, do you throw out every garment that gets dirty? As pp said, nursery will be probably be less reactive to changing than you are because they have loads of other kids to look after. Providing your dc isn't sore or upset it's par for the course.

@BloodyAdultDC surely not once a week at 20 months?!

We provide the nappies for them so it’s not an issue with nappy size

My DD is 18 months and at a childminder that I consider quite good. This has never ever happened.

I wouldn't consider it normal

I think they're not changing her enough

@Bemusedandconfusedagain what do you mean? I do worry about cleanliness but assume when she is out of nappies I will teach her how to clean up properly at the same time

She has four charges a day (it says in the diary). Arrives at 9am and leaves at 5pm

I think a lot of it's luck. I had long skinny baby and nappies just... weren't great for him until he got a bit bigger! We tried all sorts of brands. Some worse than others but none perfect. Wasn't anything anyone did wrong.

Aw op bless you. Of course you will but she won't do it like you do it because she'll be 2 or 3 years old!!

Yeah but I think the fact it never happens with OP means it's not the nappy fit

It happened only very rarely when I worked in a nursery.

I'm a nanny now and it may happen semi-regularly when they're in the poonami stage, but never (or hardly ever) at 20 months.

The key thing is, it certainly doesn't happen any more frequently when they're in my care than when they're with their parents.

You are really in for a big surprise when it comes to potty training if you think your dc will be able to "clean up properly" straightaway!

I would say because you are OCD with her, at home as soon as you see her pulling ‘the face’, you are hovering ready to change her. That isn’t the reality at nursery, they won’t be standing over her sniffing her every five mins.

i think you need to work on your own OCD. Throwing out vests is pretty extreme, just wash them. My SiL was like this wither her kids and I hate to say it but it made her kids stressed and upset every time they got anything on their hands or clothes. Don’t pass on your insecurity.

My ds regularly got nappy rash after half a day at nursery, so either they weren't changing him as often as needed or he was sensitive to the wipes they used. Probably both tbh.

Well, by the sounds of it, your child has barely finished a poo before you're whipping off their nappy to change it.

Nursery staff aren't changing them as quickly as you would, so there's time for movement and staining.

Also, you can't admit on a public forum that you're so wasteful as to throw out a soiled vest and not be pulled up on it, it's wasteful! Just wash them on 60⁰ or higher and they'll be fine to use again.

Several things here
Firstly are you at home with her one on one? If so much easier to catch and do a nappy change, in childcare will have up to several babies to be minding at once so wont always get to one if they are feeding or changing others.
It could be a case of she has only been changed and they are working through the other children then she is at the back of the queue to be changed again.The nappies could be of different quality if they supply them or it could simply be she is more active than she was when she was at home with you.
Leaks happen yes, and yep they hand back the soiled stuff in a bag for you to wash. Maybe chat to them, make sure they do have enough nappies if you supply them and mention to them that she is leaking through more than normal and could they keep an eye on that.

She won't be getting one-to-one care (or anything like it) at nursery. You must realise that?

Please don’t say OCD! Do you get intrusive thoughts /obsessions/compulsive thoughts.
If you just like things being clean and tidy just say that.

You do know kids arms aren’t actually long enough to wipe properly until they are about 4.

The other thing to remember is that when you were looking after her she would have been much less mobile than she is now. Now she will be running, jumping, climbing, etc. All of that makes it far more likely that the nappy will get slightly dislodged from the perfect position even before she poos, as well as after, so there is more likely to be a bit of leakage.

Girls may be better than boys, but in my experience and those of my friends, boys tend to leave streaks of poo on their underpants fairly frequently until they are at least 8 or 9 years old!!!

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My dd 4 knows to wipe her bum, she knows how to wipe her bum but it doesn't mean she doesn't come home from nursery with skid marks in her knickers like a formula one track!

You do know kids arms aren’t actually long enough to wipe properly until they are about 4.

Exactly this. My DD was potty trained by 2.5, which was well before she had the dexterity and arm length to clean herself properly front to back.

She is very small for her age so she started school still not 100% reliable at it. And obviously at that point, we weren't there to help her.

Are you really throwing out "vest and trousers in, which have got a tinge of poo on the seams or at the back of the nappy"? That's disgraceful 🫣

I don't think the child is living at nursery! The OP is still looking after her!

Probably not, but they're not going to get changed as promptly as someone looking after only one child at a time, and who really cares deeply about both the child and not staining the clothes.