Is this supposed to happen this often at nursery?!

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I admit I am a bit of a clean freak. If Dd ever soils her vests I throw them out rather than wash them. She is now 20 months and ar nursery the last 6 months. Once or twice a week without fail I am given a plastic bag with her vest and trousers in, which have got a tinge of poo on the seams or at the back of the nappy. When I’m with her I change her as soon as possible/immediately and I wonder if they are not changing her frequently or something? Is this just normal nursery stuff?

Nappies get done at regular times yes but if a child soils in-between those then off course they are changed they would not be left for 2 hours in a soiled nappy that is neglect I work in a nursery!

I don't get what you want op do you want nursery to throw the vests away? Is nappy going to small so child is leaking out?

Of course, but that's quite different from suggesting that children are changed at 2 hour intervals regardless of whether they've pooed or not, meaning a child could potentially be sat in their own faeces for two hours. That's neglect, not normal practise in nurseries.

I think she wants them to change the nappy frequently and quickly enough that it doesn't leak onto her clothes. Like the OP does at home.

This is rubbish
Firstly a child in nursery full time spends more active hours a week at nursery than at home. So it's common things to happen at nursery that don't happen at home. Very rarely is not never.

Secondly OP sounds potentially (likely) that she is changing the child IMMEDIATELY and is probably incredibly thorough in doing so....that's great, but it's not really normal or realistic. Such minor leaks as OP describe can easily happen in a short space of time.

If every vest was soaked through I would agree, but a handful with some soiling round the edges is normal....it suggests the legs are perhaps gaping

What on earth are you basing this on??

Nurseries absolutely do not change nappies every 2 hours regardless of whether or not they have been soiled - what on earth are you talking about?

Nappies which have been pee'd in will be changed at regular intervals.

Nappies which have been poo'd in will be changed immediately.

And OP - there's no point trying to detract from the washing issue by saying everybody washes things differently- take on board what people are saying to you. Stop throwing out perfectly good clothes rather than washing them. It is disgustingly wasteful and you are being ridiculous. Get a grip.

I was thinking this it can often take until 5 /6 to manage. In fact dsc was probably 8 iirc.

Binning the clothes can you imagine when the dc starts school with the pen marks on the shirts / polo's. Or the stains from dinner in the hall ( pasta with the tomato sauce , dc always get down their polos)
If i binned them rather than stain remove if be buying probably 3 tops a week. And that just isn't gonna happen!

I really hope you don't work in a nursery if you think it's not normal or realistic to change a soiled child more or less immediately!

Good grief.

This happens more at home to me than it does at nursery. I assume it's because they are better at putting a nappy on than me (my third child but OMG she thrashes so much I'm lucky to get it on at all).

You are being completely unreasonable to throw away soiled clothes without even trying to wash them first. Clothes aren't disposable.

I can't speak for every nursery but I know in mine if it's obvious a child has soiled and usually it is then we check straight away to find out who it is and change them, we don't just leave them for 5/10 mins while we carry on doing an activity we do nappy then carry on whatever we where doing.

I know! This is very much the argument I've been making on this thread! It is absolutely normal in a nursery (or at least it should be) for kids to be changed more or less immediately. I cannot believe the number of posters telling the OP that it's normal for kids to be left sitting in poo! There is clearly a problem at the OP's nursery.

If my DC weren't covered in allsorts when picking them up from nursery I would've thought it strange! Sign of a fun day doing activities. Wash, dry, use again, use the clothes you're offended by to these activities with your DC as play clothes at home.

As for poo and wee, generally didn't happen but sometimes sometimes it would, especially during transition to potty training. Some do pull pull-up nappies down, some pull out the contents and chase other kids, some pull others down. This sort of things happens in a blink of am eye and not always to see when looking a room full of little ones. X

They're not going to change her as quickly as you do at home when they have so many children to look after. I can't believe you throw clothes away rather than washing them, there's enough crap in landfills without adding perfectly good clothing.

I work in a nursery and we don't leave them in a soiled nappy until change time. We do it as soon as possible but that's not always immediately because there needs to be a staff member to watch the other children while you are changing one or another child may have been sick or hurt themselves.
So yes it does happen frequently as children will be running around, then sit down before you realise they have pooed. Don't forget there can be a large number of children in a room and it may take a few minutes to find out which child has pooed, especially if there's more than one child who's pooed.

Op, even if you don't care about your wallet or the environment...

Your dc will quite soon start liking her clothes and showing preferences for certain favourite clothes.

You have got to stop throwing them away, otherwise she will become terrified of soiling or staining them, as she'll realise you'll bin them.

Do not be that parent, who makes her child restrict her fun for fear of messing her clothes. My cousins suffered from that, it was awful.

No as I said above they will change as soon as possible. 5-10 mins is reasonable. Minor leaks can happen in that time.

You're on a fast track to making your dc scared of the potty, as well as being scared of messy play, because she'll be so scared of your overreaction and binning her favourite clothes.

Having favourite clothes can start around the 2nd birthday if not before.

Please believe me, you will make your life such a misery. Imagine if she starts withholding her poo.

Could they perhaps be using the wrong size nappy on her, or a nappy of poor quality, or maybe one of the staff is not wiping effectively? It seems a bit odd but I wouldn't leap to kids being left for ages in dirty nappies. You'd see it in awful nappy rash.

Get yourself some laundry disinfectant. Soak in that and then wash.

That isn’t true at all!!
Nurseries will have standard nappy change times where every child is changed but they would absolutely still change children when needed. The problem is that when you have 20 1 year olds in a room you might not get to them as quickly as you would when it’s just you and them at home. I mean that as in they won’t realise your child has soiled. As soon as they do then they absolutely would change them.

You throw them away? Wow. A bit of strain remover and in the washing machines does the job just fine. Children can get filthy at nursery, you can't just keeping throwing away clothes 😵‍💫

You throw them away. That makes me sad for the planet and sad for the attitude your d will inherit.

Meant to add - ask them. Don't go in accusing them of not changing her but I think it's fine to ask why it might be happening. You're leaving a very young child in their care, it's ok to ask questions.

To be clear it’s only poo stains I worry about because of bacteria etc. Obviously mud and pens or chalk or food etc I would just wash

But washing cleans the poo and bacteria, it's only stained - same as if it was tomato sauce stain.

You can wash poo stains. Do you throw your arsehole down the plug or use soap like a normal human?

Dettol even do antibacterial laundry cleanser if you're that fussed.

? Obviously poo is very difficult to a food stain!