"Your boobs are lovely!"

[TittyMcDroopy]

Getting changed this morning in bathroom and looked in the mirror (big mistake)

Am approaching 40 and have had 3 large babies. Breastfed 3. Gained 100lbs.

Lost 84 lbs.

My belly I can handle, just about. It's so saggy but I'm really not that fussed

But my boobs :(

My previously E cup boob's have withered away. They're just like socks. My nipples face down and the stretch marks on them are insane. Deflated. Pale and stretched to buggery.

I felt upset, all the work to lose the weight and I feel I look worse now than before.

At least I had a good set of tits to focus on beforehand

I vented this to DH and he said 'your boobs are lovely'

And quite unreasonably it made me pissed off. No. They aren't lovely. They just aren't. By any standard.

I know he was trying to make me feel better but if he told me his receding hairline was bothering him I wouldn't insist he had lovely thick locks.

I'm not mad at him for saying it. I'm mad at myself for spending the last 10 years fucking my body up so badly.

I could get implants. But I would need a lift and the thought of my nipples being cut off makes me gag.

Plus there's the whole GA thing and also the fact I would need to get them replaced at some point.

At 40 is it even worth it?

I just feel so down, frumpy and horrible :(

Get some therapy for a few months and then see how you feel.

You’re underestimating how much men love boobs. Not perfect boobs. Boobs.

If you can afford it then have a boob job.

no it’s shouldn’t matter to you, but it does.

At 40 you are too young to feel so down about your body

Get a boob job if you want one. It might make you feel better temporarily but frankly if you're prone to self hatred it won't for long.

I'm sure your husband means it when he says your boobs are lovely. Posting a photo of another woman's boobs for everyone to say how horrid they are is not lovely though, even if you don't know who she is.

I wasn't posting for everyone to say how horrthey are. I was posting them to show what mine are like. And that woman chose to put her breasts on the Internet to show what breasts after alot of weight loss can look like.

I don’t think that was the OP’s intention. She was posting to show the thread what hers look like.

I’m not sure ‘prone to self-hatred’ is fair either. No women wants saggy tits. They might come to terms with them, decide they are not bothered by them, but be honest, no-one would be thrilled with them.

You and the rest of us. I'm not saying this to minimise you, but I just want you to feel less alone.

The help is not always there even if you haven't actively sought it, so it's easy to eat your feelings.

Regardless your body has nourished you, and 3 beautiful children.

If the surgery would help you love yourself then I think it's a worthwhile cost, however I think you also need to start thanking your body for the lives it has sustained and how absolutely wonderful and miraculous that is that you have achieved all of that all on your own. It's OK to make changes and I also know the unhappiness of living in skin you don't love but this is your body and it had achieved so much.

Marie Kondo it.

I had a reduction which involved my boobs being lifted - best decision I ever made. They are lovely and perky and the nips work fine for fun.

@MartyFunkhouser yep I'd be happy with ' saggy tits'. Mine were chopped off, cancer invaded then, nipples and all!

OP, not that you need surgery but incase this is of any help to you; mine were the same and the surgery I had did not involve cutting my nipples off. They basically detach them from the surrounding tissue, lift the breast and remove excess tissue from the bottom and then make a new hole through which to reattach the nipple.

I would do it. I did do it. No regrets, best thing I ever spent my money on. Although I was very careful about the surgeon I used. And my goodness, after losing so much weight you deserve to feel good about yourself.

But... 100lbs is a lot of weight to gain and lose and it makes me feel that you have deeper issues. Perky boobs won't sort deeper issues. Good luck either way, you've done brilliantly to get your body back to a healthy weight so be proud.

I've kept the weight off for 4 years now, no regain.
Ive changed my lifestyle completely.

I was in your shoes last year and had a surgery. They look better than ever. If it bothers you so much you may consider to see a surgeon, weight the risks and costs. It's expensive and you would have to look after yourself for at least 3-6 weeks. Not allowed to lift anything more than 5lbs. I feel great about my body now but also realised that I am aging fast and I need to mentally prepare myself for this coming change . My plan now is to invest my time into loving myself and accept the aging. Your husband loves you so he loves everything about you and that is not a lie. It's more about how you feel about yourself.

I have a flat saggy bum, saggy thighs, saggy belly, non of that bothers me, just my boobs

Once/if you fix your boobs...you might find they do start to bother you.

You don't like your boobs, but your husband doesn't have to not like them as well.

I got a boob reduction/lift and don't regret it for a minute. Best money I ever spent

I’m going to treat myself to a boob lift once I’ve had all my children.

And maybe a tummy tuck.

Purely for myself.

Cant wait. Only thing stopping me now is that I might have another baby.

At least with those areas you can actually do something yourself without having to resort to surgery, breasts never recover

Get them done if you want and can afford it!

Hi there!
i completely understand how u feel. I was quite overweight as a teenager then managed to somehow lose it all and my boobs were literally empty saggy bags if that makes sense. I tried and tried to accept it but I couldn’t so I had a reduction and uplift with implants before I had my baby girl. Obviously breastfeeding affected them but I genuinely dread to think what they would be like if I didn’t do the surgery 😂 probably could have breastfed standing up. The nipples weren’t cut off and honestly it was minimal pain (genuinely). I know people say to love yourself etc but if it makes you feel so down then I would honestly look at getting them done. It literally made a world of difference for me however I now have a few scars which I don’t love but for me overall it was a great decision for my self confidence and they do look natural now. Also don’t write yourself off in your 40s! I think you deserve to feel happy especially after having 3 babies. Your husband was trying to support u and boost ur confidence as he does think u look great but u need to feel it for yourself xx

You're allowed to feel how you feel about your body, it's your body. Equally he loves you, and gave you an honest answer to a question you asked him. He sounds like he really truly loves you and still finds you sexually attractive.

Before embarking on surgery maybe have a bit of therapy while you wait for your appointments to go through and see if it helps with your mindset. You have been through a lot with the emotions, the hormones and the fluctuating weight it's no wonder you're feeling a bit wobbly about things.

If they bother you so much then get a boob job! You are still young. You don't have to be unhappy for the rest of your life.

Exactly. Resistance training and Pilates using body weight will work wonders for your bum, thighs etc, but I don’t think it will sort your boobs out much.

I'd invest in some therapy to feel more comfortable and happy in the body that you have rather than pay someone to cut up your breasts.