To think she didn’t need to try and embarrass me?

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Today we had a meeting where we were given a starter and main:

Both lovely but I couldn’t each as much of the main as I was getting full.

The person cleared the plate and said loudly “oh didn’t you like it?” Like I’m not a child. Me liking or disliking it is irrelevant to the meeting.

I just hate it when people comment on your food.

Jesus Christ. I don’t have an eating disorder. 🤦‍♀️

I ate all the starter. I didn’t even leave a lot of the main, it was mainly broth, I didn’t particularly like it and it was on a hot day.

Someone had cooked these specially for us. There were no other options, and me liking or disliking the dish had no relevance to anything.

I felt it was rude, because it potentially embarrasses the chef and I’m not explaining myself to a room of people why I didn’t finish my lunch.

And the people ranting “oh you can’t say anything anymore!!! Wah wah wah”. I breeze through life without ever commenting negatively on people’s appearance, their personal choices - even food, I don’t even tend to stare at anyone plate because it’s of no interest to me.

Oh good! Glad to hear it, I just got worried :)
But I agree, under these conditions of having been given something to eat that you didn’t choose - then nobody can expect you to eat it all!
And yes, I can see how it would be rude to point it out loudly, any discreet waiter would know not to.

Again they weren’t a waiter. I was in a meeting room, they just decided to clear the bowls away.

Was you in a restaurant? And this was the waiting staff? Because if so they are told to ask as part of the service. Was everything ok with your meal or some equivalent to ensure that the food is up to standard. Surely you’ve eaten out before and this has happened?

So much angst about nothing! I have problems with eating following cancer treatment and often have to leave food, especially if I haven’t chosen the dish.
There are often questions along the lines of ‘was everything ok?’ I just reply ‘It was delicious, thank you’. Nothing more needed. No one has ever questioned furthet.

I assume she was trying to be helpful and offer to bring something else in case you were hungry but didn’t like what you had chosen.
I do wonder what some people on MN talk about, their conversation must be so limited trying not to offend anyone.

Sounds like it triggered you, sent you back in time. Did you feel like a child?

That's your stuff, not hers.

I can relate as colleagues always comment on each others lunches, "that looks nice" or my personal favourite "I can smell..." and we all work out whose lunch it is. I hate it, makes me feel self-conscious but they're being friendly. It's my shit.

The vast majority of this thread just see this as small chat/talk. It’s literally conversational. You’re eating is the focal point at that moment in time. I don’t think anyone is saying this to embarrass you. I don’t see it in anyway negative at all.

If you have an issue with food I can appreciate why you’d be sensitive/upset. However if you don’t, you really need to work on your small talk and take things a little less personally.

You certainly can't explain things very well, that's why people are misunderstanding what you're trying to say.

If you didn't want anybody to comment on the food you'd left then you should have ate it all

Or

When the person commented on the amount of food you'd left you should have simply said "Don't be so nosy. Fuck off"

No need for you to come on here looking for attention over something so ridiculous. Stop getting annoyed at people here who are trying to give you advice. Ungrateful you seem.