To stalk a stranger in A&E

[TheRozzers]

Witnessed a nasty accident today. An elderly lady had a fall in the street and was bleeding badly. I was coming back from the gym and had a towel with me so used it to help stem the bleeding and stayed with her until the paramedics arrived. Others helped too.

We were talking to her and trying to reassure her as she was very distressed and in a lot of pain. I'm pretty sure she's broken a bone.

I asked if there was anyone we could call. Partner, children, friends. She said she had nobody.

I can't stop wondering how she is, she's probably in the hospital A&E corridor and will be for the next week knowing the state of the NHS.

I have tried to call the hospital to enquire after her but no answer.

Would it be really weird and stalker like to go to the hospital and check up on her? Maybe take her something to eat and drink? I know her full name and date of birth so assume I could track her down?

Or would that be an invasion of her privacy?

It's also quite late now.

That is a very kind thing to do OP. The hospital might not tell you where she is but you could ask if they can pass on the items to her if she's there, and stick your phone number in for her to call if she does want you to visit.

Wonderful kindness OP. I was just chatting to a friend at work the other day about how difficult it is for elderly people in hospital with no-one to advocate for them. The lady in the bed opposite her mum wasn't being fed as according to the IT system she wasn't on the ward and the nurses came and went, no regular staff it seemed to notice the pattern/error. Friend intervened as she noticed no food was arriving, and went to chase it up.

The kindness of strangers goes a long way.

I know. I have been that someone ill and alone (and 400 miles away from home). New Year 2000. A very kind young man called Dwight literally picked me up off the floor (others had stepped over me, assuming I was a drug addict, I wasn't, unbeknownst to me I actually had amoebic dysentry and had almost passed out on the way back from the toilet block). He immediately ordered transport, took me to a doctor, paid for that and the pills, found me a private room in a local house where I could sleep and recover in peace (was in a dorm), and visited everyday with bottled water and oranges until I got back on my own two feet. He never wanted anything in return and I don't think I even got his address in the USA. I felt like he was my guardian angel. I actually don't know what would have happened had he not stopped to take care of me in my hour of need.

The world needs more @TheRozzers and Dwights.

You totally rock.

OP - you're what the world needs more of! I do hope you manage to locate her and all is well.

You sound lovely and kind. I’m sure she would appreciate a visit from you.

Great to hear there are still some lovely kind people like you around. Keep us posted as we'd all like to know she's ok

Please don't do this

Be honest

If you claim to be her niece, you may find security chasing you out, especially if she's told hospital staff that she has no family

Really lovely thing to do and I'm sure it will mean the world to her. Please update.

Someone did this for my aunty who had a fall. She lives far away from family so we couldn't visit her on the day. She was really pleased.

I think you're lovely, the posts on here sometimes blow my mind, you'll already know based on your empathy whether she's uncomfortable when you're there & if so by all means leave but a "quick pop in to see how she's doing" sounds exactly what I'd do

Op you are a beautiful human being inside and out x ❤️

OP I am sure she would love to see you. I fainted in a shop recently and a lady in there was so kind like you. When I got out of hospital the first thing I did was go back to the shop and track her down with flowers etc. She really was brilliant and made me feel safe when I was convinced I was having a heart attack! I'm sure your lady won't have forgotten how kind you were and will want to see you. Good luck! X

This post has restored my faith in humanity. Thank you for being decent and kind person.

What a lovely person you are ❤️

People like you make me realise the world isn’t a bad place. You’re a good human.

I don't think it's stalkerish at all. It's extending care and concern for a fellow human. She might appreciate it and if she doesn't she can tell you to go away.

What a lovely human you are, if I get old there will be nobody there for me no relatives no children I would be very grateful for someone like you x

I think you’re a very good person.More people should have your attitude.

This is SO kind. I was in hospital earlier this week for 2 days and I desperately wanted a toothbrush and to wash my face. I would have been so grateful. I’m lucky I have a support network who brought me those things but while I spent 8 hours on a trolley, all I wanted was to brush my teeth!!!

I hope you find her. The people who say you're overstepping or after something are the same ones who hide behind the sofa when someone knocks the door.

Thank you for acting on your impulse to show kindness to a stranger OP.

Really lovely thing to do I think.

This is so lovely OP. The thought you’ve put into your gift, as well as your efforts to track down the lady 🌷

Hope you manage to find her!!

Probably not over the phone but they don't check who you are when you go to visit.

Out local hopsital will tell you what ward someone is on.

Given her age this kind of community kindness will be something she was used to when young. I’m sure she’ll be delighted. You could always ask a nurse to say you’re there and ask if she’s happy to have a visitor anyway that gives her the option to say no if you’re worried.