To stalk a stranger in A&E

[TheRozzers]

Witnessed a nasty accident today. An elderly lady had a fall in the street and was bleeding badly. I was coming back from the gym and had a towel with me so used it to help stem the bleeding and stayed with her until the paramedics arrived. Others helped too.

We were talking to her and trying to reassure her as she was very distressed and in a lot of pain. I'm pretty sure she's broken a bone.

I asked if there was anyone we could call. Partner, children, friends. She said she had nobody.

I can't stop wondering how she is, she's probably in the hospital A&E corridor and will be for the next week knowing the state of the NHS.

I have tried to call the hospital to enquire after her but no answer.

Would it be really weird and stalker like to go to the hospital and check up on her? Maybe take her something to eat and drink? I know her full name and date of birth so assume I could track her down?

Or would that be an invasion of her privacy?

It's also quite late now.

I truly believe that people cross our paths for a reason @TheRozzers maybe you and this lovely lady are what you both need at this time in your lives xx
Sorry for the loss of your mum, and it's nice to know there are still some kind and caring people it in the world 💐♥️

OP, she should be entitled to re-ablement team, so free home care upto 6 weeks ( I think) for dressing, getting mobile, hygiene etc. She needs to be brutally honest to the discharge team and also the people assigned and answer dependant on when its most painful to ensure correct level of care. Well done you on getting involved

OP you are a beautiful person! I’m so glad you found her! She’s obviously been storing all her talk up for someone who will listen! Xx

This thread has really moved me. I have a sister, who is very mentally and physically unwell and refuses to have any contact with family or friends and lives in total isolation, but for a couple of kind neighbours in nearby farms that check in on her. To know that there are strangers out there looking out for anyone who is alone and vulnerable is such a comforting thought.

Today's haul ready to take to the hospital. I tried to think what my DM would have appreciated if she was still around as she would be a similar age. The reason I went for the full briefs! Got a nightie in the sale and some cosy socks. Memory foam pillow for £12 (love Primark).

Looking forward to seeing Pauline again and having a natter.

Bless your heart, OP! 💝 I hope she's feeling a bit better today.

I hope she's doing ok today.

Your amazing

You're a very lovely person.. wish we had more like you OP.

@TheRozzers I have no words to express how truly special and amazing you are! I got tears in my eyes reading your posts. I admire your kindness and your altruistic soul. I think this lady was sent to you, probably you simply need each other right now. :)

I will keep following your thread. And I think it's a shame this is such an anonymous forum as I believe there would be other people willing to help with poor woman.

Thank you for all you have done for her! The world needs more people like you!

Oh this has made me cry because it’s so lovely 🥹

Bless you and well done. It's great that you've got time and capacity to help her. Hope this becomes a great friendship 😍

@TheRozzers you are an angel and this thread has made me so warm and happy tonight, thank you for what you are doing. Please send all the mumsnet love to Pauline.

Pauline was looking really well today. She's moved to a temporary ward and when I arrived she was sitting up in a chair, reading one of the magazines. Can't tell you how lovely that felt ❤️

She was really grateful for the things, she was wearing uncomfortable paper knickers and her feet are freezing in the sandals she was wearing on Wednesday so she was very happy to have new pants and socks.

We chatted for about 20 mins, I've had quite a shit day today and it cheered me up no end. We have the same silly sense of humour.

Her phone battery is low and she had arranged for someone to collect her charger - they called when I was there and she got into a conversation with whoever it was (I did mention she's a talker) and I didn't want to sit there earwigging so I waved goodbye.

She has my number so I told the nurses to pass on a message that she can call me any time and I will try and pop in over the weekend.

One of the first things she said was 'next time you come I will be in a different ward' so she's expecting me to come back and I am more than happy to do so.

Aw. This just gets better.

Lots of love to Pauline.

This is just more beautiful every time! Tell her there’s lots of people wishing her a brilliant recovery and a beautiful friendship for you both ❤️

💖💖💖 More of this & people like you in the world 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

I rarely post on MN these days (apart from when I do my Playmobil scenes, or if people ask for help with very specific requests, e.g. local area info) as it seems like it would be so easy to get your head bitten off!

But I had to post to say well done for being so caring and helpful. I'm sure that "Pauline" is really grateful for all you are doing. And speaking as someone who has worked on hospital wards, you are the sort of visitor we would love! Someone who makes our lives easier by providing some of the things we are unable to provide, and who frees us up to talk to the patients who sadly have no visitors at all.

I'm very impressed, so well done for taking the advice of all the posters who encouraged you to go and visit.

Aww ❤️ Pauline sounds like a wonderful character.
OP I think you have made a new friend, you're one in a million!

Loving this 💕

You are killing me OP🥹😁

One of the first things she said was 'next time you come I will be in a different ward' so she's expecting me to come back and I am more than happy to do so.

Aw, that's so lovely. You're very kind. I hope a great friendship has started

You're a good soul OP and I've no doubt your Mum will be very proud, watching over you!!!
As an isolated person myself (no friends) if somebody did half as much as this for me, I'd be in bits! You've made her stay 10 x more comfortable. I bet she's snuggled up in her new nightie now, feeling comfy and that's thanks to you 🩵

Ps, I really hope those who told you not to do it, will now think twice if they're ever in the same/similar situation

It def is easy to get your head bitten off these days...

On a more serious note, is there a way to sign up to be a visitor to elderly people in hospital? As I said above, I have no friends of my own and when my DC is at school, I can be quite lonely. I love history & chatting about anything & everything, so I'd prob be a good candidate! 😌

@TheRozzers you are an absolute gem. I'm sorry to hear about your mum, and am thinking about how pleased she'd be to know what you're up to.
Good to know that 'Pauline' is on the mend, too. You are just the tonic she needs.