To stalk a stranger in A&E

[TheRozzers]

Witnessed a nasty accident today. An elderly lady had a fall in the street and was bleeding badly. I was coming back from the gym and had a towel with me so used it to help stem the bleeding and stayed with her until the paramedics arrived. Others helped too.

We were talking to her and trying to reassure her as she was very distressed and in a lot of pain. I'm pretty sure she's broken a bone.

I asked if there was anyone we could call. Partner, children, friends. She said she had nobody.

I can't stop wondering how she is, she's probably in the hospital A&E corridor and will be for the next week knowing the state of the NHS.

I have tried to call the hospital to enquire after her but no answer.

Would it be really weird and stalker like to go to the hospital and check up on her? Maybe take her something to eat and drink? I know her full name and date of birth so assume I could track her down?

Or would that be an invasion of her privacy?

It's also quite late now.

I would have been there to be with her and provide support. But that’s me. Maybe others would think me stalkerish? But for me it’s normal. I’m part i of a society and I look after others as the norm

Lovely thread- good on you OP.

I’ve only read your posts, not the whole thread but I just wanted to say I think you’re wonderful. This has actually set me off in tears.

There have been a few situations in life where I wished that I had done more like this to help someone but didn’t for some reason. You’re doing the things I wish I’d done, and hopefully next time I’ll remember this and be encouraged to step out of my own bubble and try and make a difference to someone. I imagine this lady felt a little bit less alone in the world last night. Thank you

This is such a heartwarming post. What a lovely person you are, OP!

This is so heartwarming to read. I’m so glad you went. The poor lady being stuck in a&e all that time. The hospital may have a support at home discharge team, worth a Google. They arrange social care to support people at home to clear beds.

This thread has restored my faith in humans. I’m so glad there are people like you in the world. And I am so grateful you updated us as I was worried about her.

I know loads of people have said it already, but what a lovely thing to do and what a lovely person you are, OP.

What a lovely thread to read. Well done OP.
You might find Age Concern helpful for advice moving forward. 😀

I think that would be a really nice thing to do. I would be really touched if this were me

Yay! This is lovely :)

Well it was you lot on this thread that encouraged me to go. I probably would've talked myself out of it otherwise. So thank you for giving me the push to do it ❤️

Lovely to read the stories on this thread about the kindness of strangers.

I won't be able to get to the hospital until this evening so hopefully Pauline (not her real name) will be on a ward by then. If not she will at least have a pillow and some new underwear.

OP you are an angel, I am so glad you went to see her and give her some basic comforts. I can't believe she was still in a&e, so sad.

I know she doesn't have much family but does she have any neighbours who might need to be informed? If they are a caring bunch they might knock her door down in a welfare call if they've not seen her in a few days!

Wow OP, what a tremendously kind thing to do.

Yes, apparently she'd left her door unlocked and windows open as she was only nipping out to the shops but the warden has been able to secure it. She lives in sheltered accommodation.

And it's time like these we realise that not all human decency is lost. Well done op you have done the right thing. Hoping your new friend makes a full recovery

It's so rare I am really moved on MN, but your kindness has done it.
How lovely you are. Your mother is beyond proud of you wherever she is.
I cannot imagine how daunting A&E would be without someone to check in on you.
Bless you and your own family.

You are amazing well done 👏 if we had more kind people like you the world would be a better place x

What a lovely thing to say. Thank you 🥹

My DM died in Covid times so there were many times I wasn't allowed to see her. I'm still really sad that the last few months of her life were so lonely and she had to see her children and grandchildren on a screen.

Maybe I'm trying to make up for that somehow.

I think it’s lovely.

I wouldn’t say it’s stalkerish. To have no1 to care must be awful. It makes me feel so sad.

You’re a love to even think this way. Good on you. Please see her, (if you can) I think she’ll be made up to know someone cares for her.

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OP you are lovely

I'm so sorry about you loss. My Dad also passed in hospital in covid. Thank you so much for your kindness and I'm really glad you did this. Looking forward to your updates

Oh love, I'm so sorry for your loss, that must be so hard. I completely get trying to make up for that. Thank you for making the time to visit Pauline, you will have lifted her spirits so much. It's people like you that restore my faith in humanity.

I think you've earned a Friday glass of wine OP 🍷 - nice work

What a lovely person you are. Hats off to you. Nice to read a positive thread on here, too!