To think this nurse shouldn't have laughed / scoffed at me for asking for a room?

[supertrainers]

Last night at 3 am I had to take my DD to a and e as she was struggling with her breathing.

Unfortunately this coincided with me having been up all night already vomiting. Second night in a row. It's not a stomach bug, before anyone says I shouldn't have taken my child to the hospital.

I was feeling absolutely rotten. Two nights of no sleep, worry for my DD. Pain, nausea. Everything.

I'm familiar with the hospital as I have found myself many times in there with one of my children in the middle of the night.

Most of the time, we get offered a room, once we've been triaged. Not always, but more often than not. The room has a bed in it and we just stay in there and the doctors come in and out.

I said to the triage nurse last night that I was also feeling extremely unwell and are there any rooms we could possibly wait in. I said I'm sorry for asking and I wouldn't ask unless I really needed to.

She did a scoff / laugh at me for even asking. 9 times out of 10 we have a room and you scoff at me ? I was taken aback by it and in my horrible state for her to just laugh / scoff at me was super rude. I told her, I understand but I really don't appreciate you laughing at me for even asking. I'm really unwell and I wouldn't ask you. It's not very nice that you laughed.

She denied laughing at me. I left it at that and went and sat on the plastic chairs for 6 hours.

24/365? Right.

TG I only have ever had to take a child to A&E twice, out of my three, and it was the same one both times. They're all grown up now.

@Runnerinthenight or entitlement

Don't be so rude.

Private rooms in A & E, and available 9 out of 10 times? That is laughable. Are you in the UK? Is this a dream?

What "entitlement"?

I'm taking the OP on face value with no other information available. Poster says she has had the use of a room in 9/10 times. While I'm surprised, there's nothing to suggest she's making it up?

I work in an A&E. I was working today. At one point today we had 48 patients waiting to be seen…we have 20 cubicles….most of which had patients in who had been seen but were waiting for a bed on the ward. Generally if you’re able to stand/walk you’re not getting a cubicle. Having said that I have been an A&E nurse long enough that I remember the times when the majority of patients did get a cubicle to wait in unfortunately the numbers of people we get visiting A&E these days means that’s no longer a possibility.

Your children are grown up? You can't compare their childhood to 2024.
Yes, it is 24/7 madness and understaffing now at NHS.

Suggesting a 6 hour wait in a&e isn’t due to it being very busy is ridiculous and it isn’t rude to point that out.

im not sure which a&e you are going too where 9 times out of 10 you get a room! i wish you would share it with the rest of us on MN so we can go there. whats wrong with you sitting with all the other ill people in the main waiting room?

i wonder if you are the type of person who rocks up to a&e, making so much fuss and noise and being so entitiled you've forced them into giving you a room rather than just waiting with the masses like everyone else

Addressing someone in the manner you did is bloody rude.

I disagree

I agree with pp who reckon that she was laughing at the state of the NHS rather than at you. Not because it's funny, but more "if you don't laugh you'll cry" kind of way.

It's rubbish for staff not to be able to give the care they want to.

9/10 I get a separate room but there is a medical reason

It wasn't a walk in the park then either as I recall.

Well then you are even more and ignorant.

@spikeandbuffy er thanks... clearly you have a medical need! the OP stated that they did not?

Never been but looking back it was.

Disagreeing isn’t rude, however calling somebody ignorant is.

😂😂😂

Without wishing to sound nasty, you said you are often in the hospital and 9 times out of 10 they give you a room! I wonder if they think you are attention seeking and recognised you?

@supertrainers , 9 out of 10 times you go to Accident and Emergency you get given a room of your own!
WOW! Not only at the amazing treatment you have until now received but also at the dreadful situation you find yourself in with so many accidents and emergencies. 😱
Im so sorry that so many people might think that you are terribly entitled and horribly and irresponsibly misusing precious services. They just don’t understand how incredibly important you are.

If you had told us you were unwell and vomiting, we'd have asked you to get some e else to be with your daughter and sent you straight home. Don't want a vomiting parent spreading bugs around the ward. We've had it happen before

The fact that it’s a children’s A&E is irrelevant. All the people in there are children.

You have been lucky in the past. It’s definitely not standard to have a room.

I directed you to the answer, you couldn't be arsed to read it but thought your personal and very different circumstances were in some way relevant to the post I was responding to.

Also why on earth have you been there 10 plus times?!