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Waitrose incident.

698 replies

SensitiveSallySue · 23/06/2024 13:56

I am not sure if I am being sensitive or if I should complain.

Every Sunday morning I go out for a coffee and read my book, then do the weekly shop without the children. I like to be back before midday so I can spend the rest of the time with my children, including 9 month old baby. We have every supermarket local to us, Sainsbury’s, Waitrose, M&S, Asda, Tesco, and I always use the ‘scan and shop’ to make the shopping as quick and easy as possible. I’ve never had an issue until today in Waitrose. I’ve only used it a couple of times in Waitrose and never for a big shop.

After scanning my entire shop, strategically packing it so it’s easy to unload at home, I went to pay. When I beeped the scanner, it flagged up as needing to be checked. I thought that was fair enough, it happens sometimes, and I haven’t done a weekly shop in Waitrose before using the ‘scan and shop’ option. The worker came over and said she needed to rescan 30/58 items. I thought that was ridiculous, in every other shop they scan a random selection of a few items, not over half your shop. It seemed pointless to me to have even used the option in the first place, but I didn’t say anything and the worker started to empty shopping bags full to rescan items. This was taking ages, but I just stood patiently waiting for her to finish.

Then, she came across one that I apparently hadn’t scanned. I know I did, but it was a yellow sticker packet so I can only assume that it hadn’t registered properly. She repeatedly asked me if I had scanned it, and I repeatedly told her I had but it clearly hadn’t registered.

She told me she would need to rescan my entire shopping trolley, then took me over to a till, and I stood on the end whilst she unpacked every single one of my bags and scanned every item individually. It was completely unsubtle, in front of all of the other customers, and obvious that they were rescanning the entire shop in case I was attempting to steal things. I felt like an idiot and a thief. To make matters worse, I am a small business owner working with children, and had already bumped into several of my clients in the shop. I was absolutely mortified thinking that they may think I am a thief.

I was thoroughly embarrassed and teary eyed, and hastily shoved everything back into bags whilst the Waitrose worker apologised. Half of my shopping is crushed as I was shoving things back into the bags indiscriminately. I promptly paid and left but it has really upset me. By that point, I’d spent around 20 minutes having everything rescanned.

AIBU to think that if Waitrose are going to have a system that is open to abuse, they need to have a solution that doesn’t involve treating customers like thieves? I have never had an experience like this in any other store and whilst I realise they have to protect themselves from theft, surely this is not the correct way to go about. It’s not the Waitrose workers fault, it just seems like a very poor system and they shouldn’t offer ‘scan and shop’ if this is the way they treat customers.

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BallaiLuimni · 23/06/2024 15:07

TeaPleaseX · 23/06/2024 15:04

Jesus Christ. It happens it's done at random. Try doing your Christmas shopping for £450 and having the whole shop re scanned then having to pack it all again back in to 2 trolleys.

It's hardly something to get upset about! No one died 😂.

You went to business to spend £450, the offered you a 'convenient' service that supposedly would save you time, then they required you to unpack everything and go through the full scanning process and you're defending that???
What on earth?

Do people just have zero expectations around customer service these days?

GalileoHumpkins · 23/06/2024 15:07

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LittleMonks11 · 23/06/2024 15:07

RosesAndHellebores · 23/06/2024 14:50

Oh I understand OP. It's the way they do it.

I had a similar thing in Sainsbury. Chap said they needed to randomly check 6 items. Which he did and when he scanned a bottle of tonic looked up really slyly and said "well, this hasn't been scanned so you'll have to have everything put through the till".

I was then frog marched to a till and a manager was called as an escort. The bill after scanning was £89.10p. The bill at the till was £89.10p. I asked for a print out from the scanner as I clearly had not failed to scan an 89p bottle of tonic. I was told "that's not possible because the scanner clearance automatically".

When I asked why I had been pretty much accused of theft, the manager rolled her eyes and told me there was no point getting her up.

The attitude was shocking. A quick check of my nectar card would have indicated that I usually spent £800+ pcm.

The tonic clearly was scanned and the assistant's accusatory attitude was a) bang out of order b) wasted 20 minutes of my time and c) was insolent and unwarranted.

I eventually, after much correspondence, received an apology from the store manager. I have never shopped at Sainsbury again and never shall. They have permanently lost my business and that amounts to approximately £10,000 per annum. I had shopped with Sainsbury for 40 years and clearly my custom was not valued. Notwithstanding the fact that if I was going to steal something, what twitter would take the risk for 89p.

If supermarkets want the public to self scan and offer incentives to do so they need to treat people with a little more dignity.

I no longer self scan, I'd rather queue at the till. Waitrose are buggers for not having tills open but I always insist they open one.

Like the op, the incident really upset me.

This is what happened to me. They said they couldn't bring up what I scanned (I wanted to show that I did tap all the apples through to save the waste of a rescan) because it reset or something. Sainsbury's getting so expensive now. I might start going to start trying Lidl/Aldi for everyday basics and stick to Waitrose and M&S for treats.

TableTabler · 23/06/2024 15:13

Why is the fact you have a baby relevant?

MonsteraMama · 23/06/2024 15:14

Christ what a tremendous overreaction. Crying and crushing all your shopping? You do realise you're only the main character in your story, to everyone else you're an NPC and not a single person probably thought anything much more than "oh hard luck" when they saw you having everything rescanned. I promise you no one gives as much of a shit about your life as you do, and most people in a supermarket are on autopilot anyway.

I've had this happen when I forgot to scan eggs. I chalked it up to a mild annoyance and carried on with my day. No one cared, no one else who was present remembers me having all my shopping rescanned, no one thought I was a thief.

Ya need to chill my friend. Don't sweat the small things as they say.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 23/06/2024 15:15

Another thing to remember with these is different varieties of the same item have different barcodes so you may well have scanned 4 pots of jam but if 3 were strawberry and 1 raspberry if the unscanned raspberry is checked then it will be a full rescan if the assistant chooses to scan the raspberry.

FredtheCatsMum · 23/06/2024 15:16

You are being very reasonable. These companies like to save money by getting customers to do the work and them putting the onus on the customer if something goes wrong. It's why I wouldn't use it, and try to go to a cashier

JenniferBooth · 23/06/2024 15:17

BallaiLuimni · 23/06/2024 14:45

@SensitiveSallySue I don't think you're being in the least bit dramatic. I think if you'd described your experience to someone from the 80s they'd have struggled to believe it - at this point we've become so inured to horrifically bad service that people actually tell each other to suck it up and stop complaining.

It's not the 'system' that decides these things, it's human beings, btw.

THIS! There must be a lot of "ladies who lunch" on this thread with plenty of time on their hands if they are willing to go through this time consuming bollocks. I only use self scan if i have two or three items. Never use it for a trolley full. Im already paying for the shopping with my money. Which should be enough Im not paying with my time as well!

SplendidUtterly · 23/06/2024 15:19

Just use self scan if you only have a few items of shopping (basket) and not a large shop.
It will save you all this stress in the future Op.

Bournetilly · 23/06/2024 15:25

YABU none of your clients are going to think you are a thief because of this and you could have just taken your time to re pack it. It’s very annoying but only because it’s an inconvenience.

IWantThisSoMuch · 23/06/2024 15:26

Pinknotpurple · 23/06/2024 13:59

Horrible experience for you but if I saw someone I know having their shopping rescanned I wouldn't assume they were stealing

This, I would assume the system makes say every 20th person have a full rescan.

northernerinthesouth2000 · 23/06/2024 15:26

JenniferBooth · 23/06/2024 15:17

THIS! There must be a lot of "ladies who lunch" on this thread with plenty of time on their hands if they are willing to go through this time consuming bollocks. I only use self scan if i have two or three items. Never use it for a trolley full. Im already paying for the shopping with my money. Which should be enough Im not paying with my time as well!

No working... just use internet shopping and get my shopping delivered as too busy with children and a full time job.

Booksandwine80 · 23/06/2024 15:27

How traumatic 🙄

ShinyPebble32 · 23/06/2024 15:27

Sounds awful, but don’t blame the supermarket - waitrose is the only supermarket I use now because it’s the only one that DOESN’T make me feel like a criminal.
I’ll never use sainsburys again after several occasions basically being followed around the shop by overzealous security guards, making me feel nervous and guilty when I’ve never stolen anything in my life!
Morrisons too - the way they profile people is disgusting, I used to go there near on daily and never had a problem in my professional workwear, but after having DC and starting to WFH, walking around the shop in casual clothing or with a pram - I always had a staff member hanging over my shoulder. They even don’t try to do it subtly. If you ever fancy stealing something, just pop on a business suit and full face of makeup, and you’ll be fine!

TeenLifeMum · 23/06/2024 15:28

The fact you hadn’t scanned an item (I always check it's registered) means they were right to check or you’d have been a thief. You missing scanning an item just means the rest of us will probably have more checks as the more thieving they find the more checks they have to do!

theGooHasGone · 23/06/2024 15:28

YABU, they have a procedure and they followed it. Nobody cares that you were having your shopping rescanned but you.

BallaiLuimni · 23/06/2024 15:30

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Another really nasty response.

ChrisPPancake · 23/06/2024 15:33

WalkingonWheels · 23/06/2024 13:59

My goodness, how dramatic. You crushed your shopping and cried because the worker was doing their job?

First post nails it.

BallaiLuimni · 23/06/2024 15:33

I must say though it's really great for supermarkets that customers are willing to berate each other into accepting shit service, it helps them a lot.

ChedderGorgeous · 23/06/2024 15:33

SensitiveSallySue · 23/06/2024 14:35

I did scan the item, there system didn’t register it because it was yellow sticker.

If you cried because waitrose rescanned your shopping i'm not sure you should risk self scanning again. What was with all that backstory about liking a Sunday morning coffee ? I don't this can be made into a full feature film with the current plot.

MasterBeth · 23/06/2024 15:34

SensitiveSallySue · 23/06/2024 14:12

I don’t blame the staff at all!!

It was obvious they were rescanning my shopping as a suspected thief, as they didn’t take me back through the checkout in a traditional way. I stood at the side of till whilst she manually took every item out of my bags and rescanned it.

My issue is, there should be a system whereby they can check the shopping without making the person feel embarrassed or look a thief. Why not just take a customer back through the traditional till rather than making them stand there whilst the worker manually unpacks each item and rescans it? It’s system I am complaining about.

It was not obvious they were rescanning my shopping as a suspected thief. It was obvious they were rescanning your shopping as someone who hadn't scanned their shopping accurately.

No different to being pulled to one side at airport security. If the buzzer goes when I go through, they're checking why there's a discrepancy, like I've left toiletries in my bag or a key in my pocket. Even if they have to treat me for the slim possibility I might be a terrorist, they will be pretty sure I'm not and I know 100% I'm not.

ChedderGorgeous · 23/06/2024 15:34

ChrisPPancake · 23/06/2024 15:33

First post nails it.

First (past the) post theory correct again

Toddlerteaplease · 23/06/2024 15:35

Dowhatyouwanttodo · 23/06/2024 14:02

So you failed to scan an item but then got upset because they had to recheck all your shopping. You need to pay more attention to what you’re doing.

This. Cant see why it was an issue.

BallaiLuimni · 23/06/2024 15:36

Toddlerteaplease · 23/06/2024 15:35

This. Cant see why it was an issue.

Yes I agree. If she can't do the store's job for them well enough then they have every right to stop her and inconvenience her. How dare she be human! SHE MUST DO AS SHE IS REQUIRED.

greencartbluecart · 23/06/2024 15:37

Op

What do you call someone who leaves the shop with things they haven't paid for ?

But the staff didn't phone the police or yell stop thief or call all members of security to surround you or set the dogs on you