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Just found out I’m pregnant I must be over 30 weeks I am scared!

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Goldflamingo · 23/06/2024 13:20

Hi posting here as this thread seems to get the most traction.

I found out I was pregnant this morning. I haven’t had periods for 2 years as I’ve been on the pill and they’ve stopped them. I had no symptoms until recently. My belly is tiny, I’ve lost weight. I have been feeling so sick and dizzy, Saturday I went to a theme park with my daughter, I fainted and was sick everywhere. The medic came over and asked if there was any chance I could be pregnant and I laughed it off. I recovered and we went home.

Today I thought oh I will just take a test to rule it out. I was going shopping anyway so I didn’t specifically set out to buy a test, I just grabbed one with my shopping. I fully expected it to say negative, I was just doing it to humour myself. I knew there was an extremely slim chance but I was 99.99% sure it would be negative. I didn’t even look for 20 minutes as I was adamant it was a waste of time and would be negative. But no, two lines appeared. Because I left it so long I thought a possible false positive so I went out and got 6 more including a digi. All were dark positive and the digi said pregnant.

I went in to panic mode. I have not had sex in 30 weeks, the last time I had sex was November the 24th. I was dating somebody and things broke up after a few months as he moved abroad. I have not had sex or even dated since.

I called EPU, I explained the whole situation and they’ve said as I’m over 16 weeks, they can not take me under their care and I need to do an online referral for a midwife and urge the importance of the situation in my online referral. I have done an online referral and stressed they contact me asap. I can not find a direct number for the midwife’s, only the number for antenatal day Assesment unit. I don’t know what I should do, do I just go to a&e. Do I wait until the midwife’s have got back to me?

I am so scared. For all I know there’s more than one baby, the baby could be sick, the placenta could have developed incorrectly, the baby could be deformed, the baby could have a disability. Anything; because I haven’t been checked! So now I’m worrying!

I also drink a bottle of wine most weekends.

I am terrified something would have gone wrong but I’m in limbo until the midwife’s contact me back after they’ve received my referral. I don’t know what to do, do I go to A&E?? Am I going to be in trouble for not knowing until now?

I feel so uncomfortable sat here doing nothing about it until they’ve got back to me when I’m anywhere from 30-36 weeks pregnant. My other daughter was born at 33 weeks so I’m worrying!!!

please what do I do??? Do I go to a&e???

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LizzieBennett73 · 23/06/2024 16:15

My DD is a Midwife. There is very very little that shocks or surprises them, OP. Hope you get seen soon.

ToBeOrNotToBee · 23/06/2024 16:15

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NotARealWookiie · 23/06/2024 16:16

I’m glad you rang triage and that your sis and bil are helping

Looolaaa · 23/06/2024 16:16

Jeezo what a shock!!!

IDontLoveTheWayYouLie · 23/06/2024 16:17

What a shock!!

Hope everything goes okay and you manage to see someone asap

Sausagedog101 · 23/06/2024 16:17

@Exactlab I have no words! Reported.

HornyHornersPinger · 23/06/2024 16:17

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Where has the OP mentioned alcohol, at all?? That's quite an assumption you've made there.

Wingingit11 · 23/06/2024 16:18

OP I hope it all goes well for you. What a shock

Hello38 · 23/06/2024 16:18

I imagine the drinking alcohol must now be a worry . As a bottle a week when pregnant is a lot , though I appreciate you didn’t no . Hope you get some real life support soon

madameparis · 23/06/2024 16:19

MoonQuartz · 23/06/2024 15:19

No weight gain at all? How is that possible?

Easily possible. Every pregnancy can be totally different, even in the same woman.

My first pregnancy: I put on 10lbs (very small bump)
My second pregnancy: I put on 3lbs (tiny bump, barely looked pregnant)
My third pregnancy: I put on 20lbs and my bump looked full-term by about 3 months!

HighOnMaiden · 23/06/2024 16:19

HornyHornersPinger · 23/06/2024 16:17

Where has the OP mentioned alcohol, at all?? That's quite an assumption you've made there.

It's literally in her OP.

I also drink a bottle of wine most weekends.

TheWonderhorse · 23/06/2024 16:19

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Absolutely batshit post, go and show it to a doctor and get yourself some help.

Jesus wept...

Hello38 · 23/06/2024 16:19

HornyHornersPinger · 23/06/2024 16:17

Where has the OP mentioned alcohol, at all?? That's quite an assumption you've made there.

She mentions drinking a bottle of wine at weekends each week

Variolia · 23/06/2024 16:21

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what an absolute load of bollocks.

DragonFly98 · 23/06/2024 16:23

Hope you are ok op

madameparis · 23/06/2024 16:23

HornyHornersPinger · 23/06/2024 16:17

Where has the OP mentioned alcohol, at all?? That's quite an assumption you've made there.

“I also drink a bottle of wine most weekends.”

= 4 glasses of wine per week

= Yes not ideal when pregnant, but you didn’t know @Goldflamingo so don’t beat yourself up about it. 4 glasses of wine per week does not equate to fetal alcohol syndrome!!!

TheWonderhorse · 23/06/2024 16:24

OP we're here for hand holding, this is a lot to get your head around.

You've done the right thing and there's no shame in not having pregnancy symptoms. I hope you get your mind put at rest soon. You need to make yourself space from here to process this, get signed off work and just let your head catch up with your body.

HornyHornersPinger · 23/06/2024 16:24

Hello38 · 23/06/2024 16:19

She mentions drinking a bottle of wine at weekends each week

Ok, I did ask where OP had mentioned alcohol.
It's still quite a leap from 'a bottle of wine/few units' over a weekend to the OPs an alcoholic so baby will be too!!

TealDog · 23/06/2024 16:26

What a huge shock! I hope everything goes well for you.

LunaTheCat · 23/06/2024 16:27

Thinking of you OP…don’t feel bad… being unaware late pregnancy is surprisingly common.
I am glad that you have support in person and a plan.
Very best wishes.💐

ScrollingLeaves · 23/06/2024 16:27

Stripeysocks1981 · 23/06/2024 13:36

Don’t bother with a walk in centre, they won’t be able to do anything unfortunately. You need a hospital where there are obstetricians and midwives.

In my experience a walk in centre can arrange things with the hospital directly.

Illstartexercisingtomorrow · 23/06/2024 16:28

My mind is boggling at how any woman can not have a massive belly in her third trimester.

I was showing in my first trimester 🙄
Not saying I don’t believe OP I just cannot fathom it.
How is it physically possible to fit a baby in there and not have a bump?

Mnk711 · 23/06/2024 16:28

Good luck, and try not to worry. It seems unbelievable to you but the medical staff see unbelievable things on a regular basis so they won't judge you, fingers crossed. Here's hoping for either a big misunderstanding for some innocuous reason (though seems unlikely!) or a happy, healthy baby.

MoonQuartz · 23/06/2024 16:29

Illstartexercisingtomorrow · 23/06/2024 16:28

My mind is boggling at how any woman can not have a massive belly in her third trimester.

I was showing in my first trimester 🙄
Not saying I don’t believe OP I just cannot fathom it.
How is it physically possible to fit a baby in there and not have a bump?

My thoughts too. Unless OP is obese?

Mnk711 · 23/06/2024 16:30

PPS my extremely slim friend when 30 weeks pregnant still looked slim - no bump at all. It was insane! But baby was all good.

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