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Just found out I’m pregnant I must be over 30 weeks I am scared!

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Goldflamingo · 23/06/2024 13:20

Hi posting here as this thread seems to get the most traction.

I found out I was pregnant this morning. I haven’t had periods for 2 years as I’ve been on the pill and they’ve stopped them. I had no symptoms until recently. My belly is tiny, I’ve lost weight. I have been feeling so sick and dizzy, Saturday I went to a theme park with my daughter, I fainted and was sick everywhere. The medic came over and asked if there was any chance I could be pregnant and I laughed it off. I recovered and we went home.

Today I thought oh I will just take a test to rule it out. I was going shopping anyway so I didn’t specifically set out to buy a test, I just grabbed one with my shopping. I fully expected it to say negative, I was just doing it to humour myself. I knew there was an extremely slim chance but I was 99.99% sure it would be negative. I didn’t even look for 20 minutes as I was adamant it was a waste of time and would be negative. But no, two lines appeared. Because I left it so long I thought a possible false positive so I went out and got 6 more including a digi. All were dark positive and the digi said pregnant.

I went in to panic mode. I have not had sex in 30 weeks, the last time I had sex was November the 24th. I was dating somebody and things broke up after a few months as he moved abroad. I have not had sex or even dated since.

I called EPU, I explained the whole situation and they’ve said as I’m over 16 weeks, they can not take me under their care and I need to do an online referral for a midwife and urge the importance of the situation in my online referral. I have done an online referral and stressed they contact me asap. I can not find a direct number for the midwife’s, only the number for antenatal day Assesment unit. I don’t know what I should do, do I just go to a&e. Do I wait until the midwife’s have got back to me?

I am so scared. For all I know there’s more than one baby, the baby could be sick, the placenta could have developed incorrectly, the baby could be deformed, the baby could have a disability. Anything; because I haven’t been checked! So now I’m worrying!

I also drink a bottle of wine most weekends.

I am terrified something would have gone wrong but I’m in limbo until the midwife’s contact me back after they’ve received my referral. I don’t know what to do, do I go to A&E?? Am I going to be in trouble for not knowing until now?

I feel so uncomfortable sat here doing nothing about it until they’ve got back to me when I’m anywhere from 30-36 weeks pregnant. My other daughter was born at 33 weeks so I’m worrying!!!

please what do I do??? Do I go to a&e???

OP posts:
FrenchFancie · 23/06/2024 19:57

Gosh OP what a shock you’ve had. Hoping baby choses to stay nice and tucked up for now and gives you at least a couple of weeks to get your head around everything!

i really hope your test results tomorrow come back to show you’re not in danger of labour yet

CheeriosOrFrosties · 23/06/2024 19:57

Gosh OP what a shock. I hope you have a little while to get your head around the news before baby makes their arrival. Wishing you all the best.

purplepandas · 23/06/2024 20:00

Wishing you as peaceful an evening as possible in hospital @Goldflamingo ( a tall ask I know). So much for you to get your head around. I am glad to hear that you have supportive family, lean on them. Sending love to you.

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 23/06/2024 20:01

I'm impressed you managed to see a consultant on a Sunday!

What a shock it all must be for you. I hope everything is OK with you and baby

TiredCatLady · 23/06/2024 20:03

Thinking of you tonight @Goldflamingo - glad you’re being looked after.

PregnantNowScrewed · 23/06/2024 20:07

Oh my goodness…I’ve been feeling rattled as found out I was pregnant unexpectedly this week, but I’m about 4 weeks! Cannot imagine this.

Rest up and well done for going in - you’re in the right place now.

EvanDaleMum · 23/06/2024 20:08

@Goldflamingo massive hugs.

I can't imagine what you are feeling but wanted to reply.

Stay strong and look after yourself x

DramaAlpaca · 23/06/2024 20:13

My goodness, OP, what a rollercoaster of a day you've had!

ChampagneLassie · 23/06/2024 20:16

I’m 32 weeks and very pregnant! I can’t imagine suddenly finding out now! You poor love. I hope the baby is ok and of course that you are ok xxx

madameparis · 23/06/2024 20:18

Sending you lots of love and strength @Goldflamingo I hope that this baby will be an unexpected blessing to you once you get your head around it xxxxxxx

Readinstead · 23/06/2024 20:24

Glad you are being looked after Goldflamingo and I wish you a calm night and a chance to get you breath.

Deebee90 · 23/06/2024 20:26

Best wishes lovely, there’s options available when baby is born. Speak to midwife and social services . You don’t have to be forced into anything but it’s good to know any options.

Dita73 · 23/06/2024 20:49

This has all happened in one day?!!

spikeandbuffy · 23/06/2024 21:07

Dita73 · 23/06/2024 20:49

This has all happened in one day?!!

Why would it not? Test in the morning and hospital later on
Hospitals will move pretty quick if you think you're pregnant and in labour

TeaandHobnobs · 23/06/2024 21:14

You are in my thoughts @Goldflamingo - please be kind to yourself, and I’m sending you lots of mental strength for the road ahead ❤️

rainbowruthie · 23/06/2024 21:14

Sending kindest thoughts.
I can't imagine how you must be feeling Flowers

Koolsgang · 23/06/2024 21:20

You poor thing OP. At least you’re in the right place & being monitored. All you can do is take it one day at a time (or even one hour at a time!). It sounds like you’ve got good support around you.

Chocolatebunny61 · 23/06/2024 21:21

Sending love and hugs and I hope you are OK and everything turns out well.💐

RedPandaFluff · 23/06/2024 21:24

Oh my goodness @Goldflamingo - what a day you've had. I can't even begin to imagine what you're going through and the turmoil you must be in. It must feel like the universe has tilted.

I hope that the shock starts lifting soon, and that physically things are okay for you and the baby. Emotionally . . . well. This is a doozy. I hope the medical staff can provide you with some support Flowers

LunaTheCat · 23/06/2024 21:25

I am so glad that you are receiving the care you need. So glad that you have family support.
With so much happening you are amazing to come back and update.
You are a strong and courageous woman.. go well.

SlowlyForward · 23/06/2024 21:39

Well done @Goldflamingo for getting yourself to the hospital and managing all that. You've done a heroic job. I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you here and I hope you have a restful night.. Take care Xx

DonnaChang · 23/06/2024 21:40

Glad you’ve been seen and are getting medical attention.

I hope all goes well in the next few weeks for you and the baby and, despite it not being the happiest news for you now, it turns out to be a happy addition.

misscockerspaniel · 23/06/2024 21:42

This is one of those times when you just have to go with the flow. Sending you a big virtual hug. 💐

NinaPersson · 23/06/2024 21:49

Try and rest today. A big shock mentally and physically for you. I’m glad you have a supportive family xxx

Createausername1970 · 23/06/2024 21:53

Blimey. What a shock for you. That wasn't how you expected today to pan out.

I am glad you have been seen and now know the situation for sure. Try and get some sleep tonight so you can have a clear head (!) for the morning.

💐

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