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What the f*ck was I actually thinking?!

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Mamabear04 · 23/06/2024 10:06

I booked a holiday abroad months ago, it's our first one with the kids. I love travelling and it's not something that I want to give up on and I want DC to get used to it. DC are 4.5 and just about to turn 2. For the past 2 weeks it just feels like non stop tantrums, the kind where you are just battered by them. I decided that it would be good for us to try and have a chilled weekend so we are rested for travelling and that we have energy to enjoy ourselves when we get there. I just tried to walk to the local shop to buy some milk and literally DS had an epic tantrum (can't calm down kid of tantrum) because we needed to pay for a banana before he ate it and DD cried all the way home because she was wearing her new sandals and stones kept going in them. WTAF was I thinking booking a holiday? I am bloody miserable and just had an epic fight with DH. I have been looking forward to going on holiday for 5 years and now it just feels like a fucking shit show and what is the point? Why is it so bloody difficult to just do life and walk to a shop? How are we supposed to get on a plane tomorrow? I am so upset!!! Please no "just don't go" or "it's stupid to travel with kids so young" comments. People do it all the time, it shouldn't be this bloody hard! We also have saved up for this holiday and I refuse to loose the money, we've worked so hard for this!

It's also worth to say I've had a bloody shit couple of years. I've had 3 friends (all under 40) pass away very suddenly, my friends baby then passed away unexpectedly (just a few months younger than mine) and I've been in hospital recovering from developing asthma out of the blue (had to abandon last years holiday because i was so unwell even though the GP said it was just a virus and to go on holiday and that i would feel better in a weeks time - another waste of money that we had worked so hard for!) I just want a fucking break and for things to go smoothly for a while but it just doesn't seem to stop and now I feel it was bloody stupid to think life might be kind for a while.

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Bobbyelvis4ever · 04/07/2024 12:58

How long till you go? Have you got time to order one of those scavenger hunt type books for the place you're going? Or an airport related one? Those really help - even my 2 year old can get distracted by looking for a particular thing.

Take fruit or yoghurt pouches for take-off and landing.

And bribe them with all the stickers / food / screen time they want. I always take a bunch of cheap little toys - crucially, these are new. They get a couple each when out for dinner on hols, and it's something to play with. Also, so many sticker books!

You might also give them a little bit of money each to spend on whatever they want whilst away. Sure, they'll need help. And sure, you'll come back with a bunch of nonsense, but they'll enjoy it,

We also tag team at the beach or pool, so we get an hour off to read / snooze / whatever. We're both still immediately there if the shit hits the fan, but if it's your hour off all the random questions and requests are the other parent's to deal with.

Finally, tell DH they don't need their shoes in the back garden, as long as that's safe. Some battles just aren't worth it!

You'll be grand, they'll nap, and you'll have a good time, at least for part of the time,

ImTheMidsomerMurderer · 04/07/2024 18:05

@Bobbyelvis4ever The op has been and is home. They had a great time😊

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