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Starmer, JKR, what's most important to most women 2?

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PupInAPram · 22/06/2024 20:15

@pleasehelpwi3 said it best.

Starmer, JKR, what's most important to most women 2?
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DrNickedMaCorpus · 22/06/2024 22:24

FOJN · 22/06/2024 22:19

I'm assuming you've made that point because you think female representation in politics matters.

How would you feel if 50% of the shadow cabinet were transwomen and 50% were men? Do you still think that would represent equality for female representation in politics? The Labour Party (and the Libdems) do.

Lily Madigan was elected as women's officer in a constituency Labour Party even though he is male. Lily then proceeded to smear and bully women of the executive committee in an adjacent constituency when they raised objections to a man being able to stand as a women's officer.

Not heard any more from Madigan since the sexual assault allegations.

EasternStandard · 22/06/2024 22:26

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:22

Yes treating something with nuance definitely means trying to resolve all factors in a mumsnet post 🤦🏻‍♀️

Ok emoji hour. Can you say anything about what you want?

You’ve posted many times on the two threads castigating women but you haven’t actually put anything forward. With all the posts this could have been some of that

If you give an example of how this nuance works maybe we can see what you mean

Or is it an impossibility in reality hence the avoidance plus emoji

illinivich · 22/06/2024 22:26

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:15

Puberty blockers have been used safely for years on children reaching puberty at an early age to delay it. No one seemed to mind when the “normal” kids needed them.

You are wrong. There was lots of concern about their use. Some women who were prescribed PB as children have faced long term medical problems. Doctors talk about this with parents.

But when used for PP, the conditions is clear, and not self diagnosed, and the children are on the drugs for the shortest term possible, often only till the age of 8 or so. Their puberty is genuinely paused for a short while, not an attempt to stop completely.

DrNickedMaCorpus · 22/06/2024 22:27

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:12

ok.
Doesn’t make them right. Doesn’t make any of this right.

The attitudes on this thread are disgusting.

What's disgusting? Honestly, this is baffling. Can you point to what has been said that's 'disgusting'?

Underthinker · 22/06/2024 22:28

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:23

Do men say it? I’ve never seen or heard a man say that.

Not all transwomen.

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:28

Lovelyview · 22/06/2024 22:22

Trans identified men are men. A higher proportion of trans identified men are sexual predators than average (based on conviction stats for UK prisons). This is nothing to do with gay men.

trans men or trans women?

it has everything to do with gay men when we are literally replicating the propaganda of 1980s about a new set of vulnerability people

RufustheFactualReindeer · 22/06/2024 22:28

Underthinker · 22/06/2024 22:28

Not all transwomen.

😀

SnakesAndArrows · 22/06/2024 22:30

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:15

Puberty blockers have been used safely for years on children reaching puberty at an early age to delay it. No one seemed to mind when the “normal” kids needed them.

Well, firstly this is a licensed use, which use as a puberty blocker is not. And secondly there is some considerable concern about the long term effects even of this relatively short duration of licensed use.

Whothefuckdoesthat · 22/06/2024 22:31

PupInAPram · 22/06/2024 21:17

I am listening and I have not insulted anyone. I am just saying that through my job I see literally hundreds of women and girls and the concerns they discuss day to day are never about trans women. They are about difficulties getting gp appointments, or worrying about running out of money for food, or feeling unsupported with babies and toddlers. Trans women literally just don't come up in the list of top concerns of real women and girls I speak to.

Oh dear. You’re not skint, are you?

Out of interest, are these women you’re dealing with poor and/or working class? If so, are you seeing any connections between their circumstances, the concerns that they voice to you and the lack of any significant trans/non binary presence in their community?

It sounds like you’re taking their apparent lack of concern about women’s rights and single sex spaces as evidence that they don’t think it’s at all important, when these women are more concerned with getting through the week. Feeding their kids takes priority. They haven’t got time to be pontificating over gender identities, they’re more worried about paying the gas bill. But if you think they don’t care about single sex spaces when they need to, take them into that world (a middle class university campus, for instance) and watch what happens.

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:32

Runor · 22/06/2024 22:19

Dawkins, you say the attitudes on this thread are disgusting, while not being able to provide counter arguments to demonstrate this. I wonder why?!

I’ve said plenty actually, but really it comes down to the fact that trans women are still people and this thread and the previous one is full of horrible bullying attitudes and sweeping statements and judgements. How long can one argue against fear and ignorance?

Lovelyview · 22/06/2024 22:33

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:28

trans men or trans women?

it has everything to do with gay men when we are literally replicating the propaganda of 1980s about a new set of vulnerability people

Trans identified men are men who identify as transgender. You are calling them trans women.

TheKeatingFive · 22/06/2024 22:34

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:32

I’ve said plenty actually, but really it comes down to the fact that trans women are still people and this thread and the previous one is full of horrible bullying attitudes and sweeping statements and judgements. How long can one argue against fear and ignorance?

Absolutely no one is saying that TW aren't people

They arent women however. I know that, they know that, you know that. It's basic biological fact. I wonder why you're denying this? Why lie?

DrNickedMaCorpus · 22/06/2024 22:34

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:32

I’ve said plenty actually, but really it comes down to the fact that trans women are still people and this thread and the previous one is full of horrible bullying attitudes and sweeping statements and judgements. How long can one argue against fear and ignorance?

What sweeping statements? What attitudes?

FOJN · 22/06/2024 22:35

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:15

Puberty blockers have been used safely for years on children reaching puberty at an early age to delay it. No one seemed to mind when the “normal” kids needed them.

The use of puberty blockers in children with precocious puberty is carefully balanced against the risks. We have always known it's affects bone density. It is used for a relatively short period of time, rarely more than two years. It is stopped when a child reaches an appropriate age for normal puberty.

For gender questioning children it is started at the age of normal puberty and may continue to be taken for 5 years or more. We have no idea if there is a window in which normal puberty can occur. There are a small number of cases where young adults have stopped puberty blockers at 18 and puberty has still not started 2 years later. The numbers are small because the vast majority of children (99% according to Tavistock data) who take puberty blockers go on to take cross sex hormones. Those children will be sterile and unable to have children of their own.

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:35

Ereshkigalangcleg · 22/06/2024 22:21

Trans women are not predators any more than gay men are.

And again, gay men aren't expecting to use women's spaces.

Oh god pay attention the gay men reference is to do with the way we USED TO think. Not now. Gay men were put in prison!! They weren’t allowed in any spaces let alone women’s.
And hopefully we will all be sorry for being so incredibly awful to trans women one day. As we now know gay men aren’t all predators and one day we will know trans women aren’t either.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 22/06/2024 22:39

And hopefully we will all be sorry for being so incredibly awful to trans women one day.

Not wanting any men at all in my spaces isn't "incredibly awful" to men as a sex, is it?

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:39

Runor · 22/06/2024 22:24

OK, to add on the bit I assumed was well known…. But puberty blockers cause a great deal of harm when their use is continued through puberty, because then puberty never properly happens. This means that full adult bone density is never achieved, full sexual development is never achieved, and parts of the brain never fully develop. This is not what I would want for any child.

Alternatively they can be traumatised from puberty and die by suicide. Would you prefer that.

No one is forcing this on children. No one. It’s incredibly hard to get access to gender affirming care.

TheKeatingFive · 22/06/2024 22:39

And hopefully we will all be sorry for being so incredibly awful to trans women one day.

Why would we be sorry for treating men like other men? That makes zero sense.

The trans issue is the exact opposite of the gay rights issue.

The gay rights issue is about accepting people for who they are.

The trans issue is about being compelled to affirm people in what they are not.

Gay rights acknowledges the reality and legitimacy of same sex attraction. TRA ideology attempts to dismantle this by replacing sex with gender.

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:40

Ereshkigalangcleg · 22/06/2024 22:39

And hopefully we will all be sorry for being so incredibly awful to trans women one day.

Not wanting any men at all in my spaces isn't "incredibly awful" to men as a sex, is it?

Referring to trans women as men is awful

Whothefuckdoesthat · 22/06/2024 22:40

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 21:53

That’s not entirely true. Many women’s sports were set up because men wouldn’t allow women to play. It’s not to protect women, it’s to protect men’s egos.

Why are men never told to be kind? Great question. Why are women told to carry keys, cover their drinks, don’t walk alone. Because we refuse to deal with the real issue which is men’s attitudes to women. We are busy in-fighting instead. It’s easier to gloss over the societal problem of MEN and get angry at a minority group.

A minority group who are men attempting to force their way into women’s spaces, assisted by short sighted members of the ‘be kind’ brigade.

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:40

Trans women are women

TheKeatingFive · 22/06/2024 22:40

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:40

Trans women are women

That's a lie. Why do you keep repeating it?

DrNickedMaCorpus · 22/06/2024 22:41

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:40

Referring to trans women as men is awful

Well, how would you describe a transwoman?

It's not awful, it's an undeniable fact.

DrNickedMaCorpus · 22/06/2024 22:41

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:40

Trans women are women

Nope.

TheKeatingFive · 22/06/2024 22:41

SergeantDawkins · 22/06/2024 22:40

Referring to trans women as men is awful

It's fact. If you have an issue with that you need to take it up with Mother Nature instead of shooting us messangers.