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Starmer, JKR, what's most important to most women 2?

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PupInAPram · 22/06/2024 20:15

@pleasehelpwi3 said it best.

Starmer, JKR, what's most important to most women 2?
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DrNickedMaCorpus · 23/06/2024 12:47

PronounssheRa · 23/06/2024 12:33

What I don't get is why can't Labour tackle issues with public services poverty etc and uphold women's rights, single sex spaces, etc, they aren't mutually exclusive.

While I am hugely grateful for JKR speaking up, why wouldn't Labour listen to ordinary women. An 18 year old male socially transitions and gets involved with Labour student politics, and Labour MPs were hanging off every word. Female Labour supporters and decades long activists were ignored and in some cases stripped of roles in the party. Why did we need someone with JKRs clout just to be heard?

Yes, it's been so jarring.

Starmer's recent 'Tony Blair said it so well, but I won't speak to that awful Rosie Duffield when she said the exact same thing' was jawdropping.

Unfortunately the only conclusion I've been able to draw is that Labour have a deeply entrenched problem with misogyny.

TheKeatingFive · 23/06/2024 12:47

Me too. My issue with JKR wading in is the timing. It seems calculated to harm Labour, if she wanted to put pressure on to change direction there are other ways to do it.

I don't agree on this point. I think she raised it at exactly the right time. To say nothing now would embolden them as they take power. I think she's highlighted the significant issues and prevented it from between swept under the carpet.

then GC feminists can keep the pressure on via the GRA consultation once Labour are in power

This, yes. 100 %

PronounssheRa · 23/06/2024 12:47

My issue with JKR wading in is the timing. It seems calculated to harm Labour, if she wanted to put pressure on to change direction there are other ways to do it.

She has been talking about this for a few years now while others have been trying to engage with the Labour party for even longer.

Labour ignored them and their concerns, so the timing is the fault of the party and is a direct result of them ignoring women. Women are sick of being told 'after the revolution love'

TheKeatingFive · 23/06/2024 12:48

Starmer's recent 'Tony Blair said it so well, but I won't speak to that awful Rosie Duffield when she said the exact same thing' was jawdropping.

It really, really was

DrNickedMaCorpus · 23/06/2024 12:48

TheKeatingFive · 23/06/2024 12:44

In fairness, not even JKR is cutting through fully.

It wasn't until his mate Tony got involved that Starmer conceded that women's biology has relevance.

One assumes Keir is unable to hear the high pitched squeaking of women expressing their opinions, and needs old Tone to translate it into manspeak for him.

CassieMaddox · 23/06/2024 12:48

Whothefuckdoesthat · 23/06/2024 12:38

I’ve said this before, but I’ll repeat myself. I’ll even write it in bold, so that it stands out for you. I am not equating trans women carers (or trans women in any other profession, come to that) with predators or abusers or criminals of any type, shape or form. Nobody is suggesting that trans women go into the care industry in order to seek out vulnerable people to abuse. I quite agree with you that it would be scaremongering. That’s why I’m not suggesting it, or even thinking it.

I’ve done care work. I know first hand how bloody hard work it is and how shit the pay and conditions are. I also know that a lot of people who depend on carers are already handing over so much of their dignity already. The point that I’m making is that some of them don’t want men involved in their intimate care. Not because they fear being abused but because they are a different sex. And that might be a problem for them for a million different reasons, or they may not have a reason at all. But they shouldn’t have to be forced to explain themselves or justify their request for same sex care.

But they shouldn’t have to be forced to explain themselves or justify their request for same sex care

I agree with this. This can be dealt with by changing the rules around same sex care so its mandatory. My fear would be however that there aren't enough carers to enforce it (a bit like single sex wards in hospitals, where there were 44,000 breaches in a year due to resources)

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/politics/mixed-sex-wards-breach-nhs-streeting-b2534608.html

There was no need to bring "self ID" and TW into the debate. By doing that, you make it seem as though intimate care from a TW is somehow worse than intimate care from a male carer. Let's fix the issue of same sex care being a legal requirement first (which is a real problem, happening today) before diving straight into scenarios about "Sarah the transwoman providing single sex care under self ID" which is hypothetical at this point.

NHS breaks mixed-sex wards rules 44,000 times in a year with patients put at risk

Shadow health secretary Wes Streeting said patients were left feeling humiliated and at risk, adding: ‘The use of mixed sex wards has gone through the roof under the Tories’

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/politics/mixed-sex-wards-breach-nhs-streeting-b2534608.html

EasternStandard · 23/06/2024 12:50

DrNickedMaCorpus · 23/06/2024 12:48

One assumes Keir is unable to hear the high pitched squeaking of women expressing their opinions, and needs old Tone to translate it into manspeak for him.

Yep. Although Keir has been trying hard to block out women for over a year

DissidentDaughter · 23/06/2024 12:52

I think many politicians/voters underestimate just how bloody angry women are. And how well-informed we are.

Whatever the election outcome, women will not back down: “Nothing about us without us!”

BIossomtoes · 23/06/2024 12:54

EasternStandard · 23/06/2024 12:50

Yep. Although Keir has been trying hard to block out women for over a year

Of course he has. That’s why half his cabinet are women. 🙄

CassieMaddox · 23/06/2024 12:54

DrNickedMaCorpus · 23/06/2024 12:48

One assumes Keir is unable to hear the high pitched squeaking of women expressing their opinions, and needs old Tone to translate it into manspeak for him.

Yes clearly, that's why he's given the most senior shadow cabinet positions to women. And why Rayner/ Reeves/ Cooper/ Thornberry/ Phillipson are always out there stating Labour's position on various things.

That's why he made dealing with rape and getting rape victims heard one of his key priorities as DPP.

What a misogynist. 🙄

On the other hand, no problem with the Tories despite Sunak shouting aggressively at women daring to ask him questions at QT the other day and presiding over a cabinet of men, or the evidence from the covid enquiry.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/news.sky.com/story/amp/calm-takedown-of-johnsons-covid-downing-street-argues-sexist-culture-may-have-cost-lives-12998287

Breathtaking double standards, as always.

Calm takedown of Johnson's COVID Downing Street argues 'sexist' culture may have cost lives

A former deputy cabinet secretary told the COVID inquiry that Downing Street, under Boris Johnson, was "sexist", "toxic" and "awful" in a way she had never experienced in government before.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/news.sky.com/story/amp/calm-takedown-of-johnsons-covid-downing-street-argues-sexist-culture-may-have-cost-lives-12998287

CassieMaddox · 23/06/2024 12:55

BIossomtoes · 23/06/2024 12:54

Of course he has. That’s why half his cabinet are women. 🙄

Cross Post 😂

hihelenhi · 23/06/2024 12:55

I've never voted for any right wing party in my life and I'm not about to start now. However, I don't feel able to vote for Labour because I cannot trust them on this, and the Greens and Lib Dems are even worse. Which is frustrating, but I genuinely don't feel I can vote with any integrity for anyone who has gone all-in for this crap; it displays a lack of critical thinking of a level that I can't trust that they'll be capable of effectively addressing anything else or looking at facts.

I'll be voting this time for an independent in my area who happens to have been working very hard for their constituents where their focus is on local issues. Next time, we'll see. I suspect the tide will have turned big time on this by then. But it certainly won't be right wingers. I'm tired of being smeared by the perennially tribal and disingenuous who claim that any woman who doesn't agree is "far right" or motivated by beliefs she simply doesn't have. It's propaganda.

EasternStandard · 23/06/2024 12:57

Ha he still can only here old Tony on this issue

He spent so long saying no one’s talking about it.

CassieMaddox · 23/06/2024 12:57

hihelenhi · 23/06/2024 12:55

I've never voted for any right wing party in my life and I'm not about to start now. However, I don't feel able to vote for Labour because I cannot trust them on this, and the Greens and Lib Dems are even worse. Which is frustrating, but I genuinely don't feel I can vote with any integrity for anyone who has gone all-in for this crap; it displays a lack of critical thinking of a level that I can't trust that they'll be capable of effectively addressing anything else or looking at facts.

I'll be voting this time for an independent in my area who happens to have been working very hard for their constituents where their focus is on local issues. Next time, we'll see. I suspect the tide will have turned big time on this by then. But it certainly won't be right wingers. I'm tired of being smeared by the perennially tribal and disingenuous who claim that any woman who doesn't agree is "far right" or motivated by beliefs she simply doesn't have. It's propaganda.

Posters disagreeing with you isn't a smear, or disingenuous. It's women exercising their own right to an opinion. HTH.

hihelenhi · 23/06/2024 13:00

Pieceofpurplesky · 23/06/2024 12:36

I am in this position - I think JKR has forgotten she was once a single mum relying on the welfare state, and is coming from a place of privilege.

For so many women there are much bigger things that we need to survive day to day. Feeding the kids. New school shoes. The bills.

Labour are better for us, we have had 14 years of being mistreated. Any woman voting for the Tory party are not voting for all women. None of the parties can tell you what a woman is, but some treat them much worse.

I'm unclear where your evidence is that she's "forgotten", given how many years she's spent donating money and talking about exactly these causes. You appear to have "forgotten" quite a bit yourself. How convenient for you.

It seems some of you are determined to demonise her whatever she does. Highly disingenuous. And once again, imbuing her with motivations she clearly doesn't have. You've been had.

DissidentDaughter · 23/06/2024 13:02

As ever, some people’s comprehension skills are lacking 😬

Thelnebriati · 23/06/2024 13:02

So many women exercising the opinion that none of us should have certain rights or safeguarding because you don't care about them.

This is how we know this is not a human rights campaign.

NoWordForFluffy · 23/06/2024 13:03

Women can also be misogynists, don't forget.

I think this was perfect timing by JKR. Labour can't now say that they weren't aware that this is a huge issue post-election, or believe that everybody voting for them is giving them a green light to go gung ho on wrecking women's rights. It's good that they've seen the groundswell now. Hopefully it gives them pause for thought as to the strength of feeling.

The aim was to get Keir and co to think about what they're doing. Given the 'super majority' being predicted by some Labour supporters, I'm not sure why they're worried about the timing. After all, we're told on MN all the time (even within this thread) that barely anybody cares about it. If that's the case, what does it matter what JKR said? Or are people worried that actually it is a huge concern for many, and it could influence the result? It can't be both!

hihelenhi · 23/06/2024 13:04

CassieMaddox · 23/06/2024 12:57

Posters disagreeing with you isn't a smear, or disingenuous. It's women exercising their own right to an opinion. HTH.

If you're claiming women who aren't "right wing" are right wing, then yes, you are smearing and yes, it is disingenuous. It has been a common tactic among transactivists, that those of us who've been paying attention have been seeing for YEARS now.

Sorry, but this isn't about you "disagreeing". This is about you actively claiming other people have motivations and beliefs and political affiliations they simply don't have. It's a deliberate smear, and it's based on ignorance. You don't get to rewrite people's history for them and make untrue claims about their affiliations. It's propagandist. Which I'm sure you know really, but please, do carry on telling women who disagree with YOU that they have beliefs they don't.

HTH too, by the way.

EasternStandard · 23/06/2024 13:05

NoWordForFluffy · 23/06/2024 13:03

Women can also be misogynists, don't forget.

I think this was perfect timing by JKR. Labour can't now say that they weren't aware that this is a huge issue post-election, or believe that everybody voting for them is giving them a green light to go gung ho on wrecking women's rights. It's good that they've seen the groundswell now. Hopefully it gives them pause for thought as to the strength of feeling.

The aim was to get Keir and co to think about what they're doing. Given the 'super majority' being predicted by some Labour supporters, I'm not sure why they're worried about the timing. After all, we're told on MN all the time (even within this thread) that barely anybody cares about it. If that's the case, what does it matter what JKR said? Or are people worried that actually it is a huge concern for many, and it could influence the result? It can't be both!

Yes it’s great timing, she got the headlines too

And agree of course women can be anti women’s sex based rights, some Labour MPs included but generally

CassieMaddox · 23/06/2024 13:05

I'm worried that it will be like Brexit and Labour won't get a majority, yes. Because either we will end up with a left coalition and then there really will be a threat from self ID.
Or we will end up with more Tories which will fuck us all over.

I think all the talk about "super majorities" has made JKR complacent about the potential consequences of her intervention. Hopefully I'm wrong.

Whothefuckdoesthat · 23/06/2024 13:06

There was no need to bring "self ID" and TW into the debate. By doing that, you make it seem as though intimate care from a TW is somehow worse than intimate care from a male carer. Let's fix the issue of same sex care being a legal requirement first (which is a real problem, happening today) before diving straight into scenarios about "Sarah the transwoman providing single sex care under self ID" which is hypothetical at this point

@CassieMaddox There is absolutely a need to bring self id and TW into the debate about intimate care because the women who rely on help for their intimate care are being gaslighted and abused because they’re putting men and trans women into the same category; male.

Have a look at this thread from last year, discussing an NHS report that appeared in the telegraph. Read that and tell me if you still can’t see what the issue is. https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/4823723-telegraph-patients-may-be-guilty-of-discrimination-if-they-refuse-care-of-transgender-medic-nhs-bosses-told#:~:text=The%2520report%2520goes%2520on%2520to,may%2520result%2520to%2520the%2520patient.%E2%80%9D

Telegraph: Patients may be guilty of discrimination if they refuse care of transgender medic, NHS bosses told | Mumsnet

A report by the NHS confederation is in today's Telegraph. A good example of how a hierarchy of EDI seems to have been cultivated, with disabled...

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/4823723-telegraph-patients-may-be-guilty-of-discrimination-if-they-refuse-care-of-transgender-medic-nhs-bosses-told#:~:text=The%2520report%2520goes%2520on%2520to,may%2520result%2520to%2520the%2520patient.%E2%80%9D

CassieMaddox · 23/06/2024 13:09

hihelenhi · 23/06/2024 13:04

If you're claiming women who aren't "right wing" are right wing, then yes, you are smearing and yes, it is disingenuous. It has been a common tactic among transactivists, that those of us who've been paying attention have been seeing for YEARS now.

Sorry, but this isn't about you "disagreeing". This is about you actively claiming other people have motivations and beliefs and political affiliations they simply don't have. It's a deliberate smear, and it's based on ignorance. You don't get to rewrite people's history for them and make untrue claims about their affiliations. It's propagandist. Which I'm sure you know really, but please, do carry on telling women who disagree with YOU that they have beliefs they don't.

HTH too, by the way.

Why are you shouting at me?
The only people I claim are right wing are people doing and saying right wing things. Actions speak louder than words. And it's usually about GC activists, not posters on here.

it's based on ignorance. You don't get to rewrite people's history for them and make untrue claims about their affiliations. It's propagandist.

This is more of a smear and attack than anything Ive written. I'm as entitled to my opinion as anyone else. If that makes you angry or defensive, that's a you problem.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/06/2024 13:10

I've never voted for any right wing party in my life and I'm not about to start now. However, I don't feel able to vote for Labour because I cannot trust them on this, and the Greens and Lib Dems are even worse. Which is frustrating, but I genuinely don't feel I can vote with any integrity for anyone who has gone all-in for this crap; it displays a lack of critical thinking of a level that I can't trust that they'll be capable of effectively addressing anything else or looking at facts.

Exactly this.

CassieMaddox · 23/06/2024 13:10

Whothefuckdoesthat · 23/06/2024 13:06

There was no need to bring "self ID" and TW into the debate. By doing that, you make it seem as though intimate care from a TW is somehow worse than intimate care from a male carer. Let's fix the issue of same sex care being a legal requirement first (which is a real problem, happening today) before diving straight into scenarios about "Sarah the transwoman providing single sex care under self ID" which is hypothetical at this point

@CassieMaddox There is absolutely a need to bring self id and TW into the debate about intimate care because the women who rely on help for their intimate care are being gaslighted and abused because they’re putting men and trans women into the same category; male.

Have a look at this thread from last year, discussing an NHS report that appeared in the telegraph. Read that and tell me if you still can’t see what the issue is. https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/4823723-telegraph-patients-may-be-guilty-of-discrimination-if-they-refuse-care-of-transgender-medic-nhs-bosses-told#:~:text=The%2520report%2520goes%2520on%2520to,may%2520result%2520to%2520the%2520patient.%E2%80%9D

Do you have a link to the actual report?

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