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I've gone for a walk

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longdistanceclaraclara · 21/06/2024 18:30

I've walked out of the house. Kids have been annoying ( making food for lunch yesterday that they didn't take to school, opening cans of Diet Coke they don't drink, making drinks with ice that they don't drink, etc) husband is fighting with them
So I've removed myself from the situation. It's a beautiful evening, I'm in the park and wondering when they'll all notice dinner isn't appearing at the usual time.

I'm totally fucked off with all of them.

Do you think they'll notice?!

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Doubledenim305 · 23/06/2024 16:54

Standrews · 23/06/2024 08:56

I think I was feeling a bit hormonal and things got a bit much for me. Put the children to bed and went and sat outside the back door. It was pouring with rain, sat for at least an hour, was not missed until DH came out to put something in the bin. Said to me what are you doing here you'll get soaked! and went back inside. I stayed for a bit longer but realised it was never going to have the desired effect which I think, hoped, would be a bit of sympathy and what's the matter, can I help? As an act of rebellion it was a total "wash-out" especially as I had had a perm the day before (kids in school and nursery) so you can imagine what I looked like after being in the rain for over an hour!!

Next time you have a rebellion, do something that will hurt them, not you. They aren't thinking about you, only themselves, so if they are to notice you have to directly impact them🤣

Meetingofminds · 23/06/2024 21:29

LaDamaDeElche · 22/06/2024 20:41

I actually agree with this. It would be considered toxic if a husband/wife did this - just walked out after a row and radio silence for a few hours. I think a text to say you’re fine, you need some space to calm down and you’ll be back at x time would be a much healthier way to approach this.

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I would never ever consider a parent, or anyone taking themselves away from an overwhelming situation to be anything other than life saving self care. Teenagers are self sufficient and are more than capable of checking with a bloody text message where the parent is ( clue: most won’t notice)

Abandonment issues stem from true abandonment- it’s deeply insulting to those that have suffered this experience to compare the two. A parent taking a breather for a few hours is not the same as parental abandonment- it’s nothing even close. Seriously you should consider your posts more carefully.

ps I work in a mental health capacity and we encourage our patients to take time out. Its extremely beneficial.

AmIEnough · 24/06/2024 08:25

SpringKitten · 21/06/2024 18:38

Well done! I have a 13 yo so I can only imagine what it’s like with two.

I think I need one of those signs in the kitchen that says “abuse of our employees will not be tolerated” like they have in the DSS offices.

Love this!! Absolutely enjoy the peace and quiet. I often remove myself from the house at the weekends when I find the noise and mess overwhelming. Enjoy the time on your own and like someone else said go and get yourself a glass of wine and something to eat somewhere as I sometimes think it’s good for you to do things that shock the family into realisation that actually their behaviour is not okay and that you are human too ! Xx

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