I've gone for a walk

[longdistanceclaraclara]

I've walked out of the house. Kids have been annoying ( making food for lunch yesterday that they didn't take to school, opening cans of Diet Coke they don't drink, making drinks with ice that they don't drink, etc) husband is fighting with them
So I've removed myself from the situation. It's a beautiful evening, I'm in the park and wondering when they'll all notice dinner isn't appearing at the usual time.

I'm totally fucked off with all of them.

Do you think they'll notice?!

Enjoy your time . Sometimes you just need that head space.

We all need some time to our selfs.
I dont blame you go to the chippy.

Good! You now need tea out. You absolutely do not go back and cook. Your DH can crack on with it.

Has DH messaged you to ask where you are?

He can make dinner for all of you.

Go to a pub, have a few gins - order some bar snacks and watch the football

Tomorrow, do a dinner rota so you're not responsible every night. The kids can cook fucking pizza a couple of nights a week. The point is that you need less mental load

Enjoy x

Good stuff. If it's still sunny where you are I'd find a beer garden.

(Unless you mean dh and dc are physically fighting in which case I'd think you were a tad irresponsible to leave).

Time for them to learn you’re not a slave op. I would stay out for as long as you want and make your own plans for tomorrow too, maybe also Sunday. They’ll be more appreciative when you aren’t around as much for them to take for granted.

I think you might be my new hero. This should definitely be a thing when the household is being bellendrical - we just quietly walk out for a break. Love it.

Are you ok?

Nothing to add other than

1. i hope you are enjoying the peace
2. I loved long distance Clara!

Please stay out long enough for your family to have a good think about why you did this and their role in your distress, otherwise you'll soon be in the same situation again

I know a vicar's wife who did this years ago . . . it was a Sunday evening and she had been at everyone's beck & call all day and was reaching breaking point. It really made her husband think about how much she was doing and that he was taking her for granted

Hope you've got a nice place to go to for a while 💐

Sending sympathy and solidarity - mum of 12yo twins (13 in August) and a 16 yo. All girls. I love them, they’re great, but then sometimes they’re dicks. (Dd1 is actually very lovely 99% off the time)

Surely your husband will make food for everyone?

I’ll add, I’ve never walked out but I have gone up to bed and pulled the covers over my head. I think they thought they’d broken me and went and tidied their rooms before apologising. That was a success.

Good for you! Enjoy 😍

Is there a nice pub with a beer garden nearby??? Xxx

I did this, with my husband, took off on a Friday evening for a hotel, hubby wanted to go back on Saturday and I said they will hardly notice we’ve gone, being in bed until noon as teenagers etc. So we stayed until Sunday, worked a treat. Did it again the following summer when they were being brats again.

You go enjoy yourself and don’t even think about them. No communication is best.

Mum did this once...We were in a car on Holiday heading back to England...I think we were squabbling in the back seat {Me and Brother} and Mum and Dad were having an argument in the front seat over directions...I think.

Anyway, mum demanded that Dad stop the car, and she ran off in the rain.

We were 😯😯😯

Seeing Mum's retreating form through the rain.

We just waited there....

Us kids thought she might have gone for good.

Eventually she came back, still crying.

We were very relieved.

Years later she said ''I had nowhere to go to..and it was raining''.

We all remembered it as it was so unusual for her to have done something like that.

She could well have been pregnant with our 2nd Brother at the time...she could be very tearful, and cry for hours on end.

I have teens so feel your pain. I did something similar but different because it was when mine were very young. Now-ex-DH had been away for work for a week, leaving me alone with a 6 month old baby and a 2 year old (and we lived rurally so no help or family nearby, toddler not in nursery yet), and when he got back of course I was completely exhausted and frazzled by constant demands of breastfeeding baby and typical challenging needy toddler. He was so fucking clueless that instead of taking over and taking care of me, he thought I would want to have sex that evening and was all miffed when I said no. FUCK THAT! I just walked out the door and went for a long walk to calm down, on my own.

I’m so tempted to do this. What a brilliant idea.

What? You weren't there to greet him in your Basque and suspenders, with dinner on the table, after his Lordships' absence?

Well done @longdistanceclaraclara I hope you are still away from home and treating yourself to a nice meal!!

sounds like you (and they!) need this.
don't go back before dark too early
enjoy!

@Caerulea bellendrical! 😂😂😂