Is this school mum trying to intimidate me??

[WayUpHigh1]

This sounds really weird but I’ve had a few encounters with this school mum now and every time I’ve seen him it happens. Few times outside the school gates and one time in a shop near the school. She seems to be quite loud and ‘out there’. Anyway, she will just be walking normally and then when she sees me she will purposefully come towards me and into my path and block me walking and I have to go around and then she said ‘oh sorry’ with a laugh in her voice. First time it happened I just thought nothing of it but it keeps happening.

She sounds unhinged to me and probably bored. Maybe these encounters liven up her day, who knows.
You can either completely blank her, or ask her in a pointed tone, if she's got a problem. She'll back off then.

Is there any reason why you’re drawn to me like a magnet? No, fuck off then!

Just stop where you are and brace for impact, I do it quite a bit if people are being pig ignorant or not looking where they're going.

We used to call it being ‘boyed off’.
it was definitely a thing so no reason for it not to be 10-15 years later 🤷‍♀️

Preempt her and do it back to her and if she says something say ‘oh I thought that’s what we did now, randomly walk across someone for no apparent reason!’

If it happens again, I’d say to her that it’s happened several times and is she okay? (In a fake pleasant, ever so slightly sarcastic tone.) Show her you’re aware and look her straight in the eye with a “don’t start dishing me your bs” look! Maybe her DH has made a favourable comment about you and it’s prickled her!

She sounds like a prick and one of those loud mouth school mums. I’d walk into her next time.

Find out her name if not already aware, assume she has a mental health condition or eyesight problem, report her to the police or DVLA on the presumption that it affects her ability to drive. If you believe that she has a car licence.

Do you stand out or appear different or unusual, or vulnerable, in any way OP?

This above!
Try not to give her too much thought if you can.

You can be strong in yourself without being confrontational and feeding in to her unhealthy behaviour repetition.

Also it’s good to keep your body language relaxed but confident.

out of sight out of mind helps you both if it’s practical and doable.

It’s always good to play save with unknowns and not fall into unhealthy behaviour yourself.

You don’t want a stranger having some emotionally negative impact over your day, she’s not important but might want you to make her feel so by soliciting a response at her creation.
Some individuals fall into looking for that feel of cause and effect to feel something they need.

Try not to fall into wondering about her motives, or making assumptions about her, just focus on yourself and your goal of staying calm, focused and relaxed if it happens again, a simple internal mantra like a happy “f*ck it” might help, you choose what helps.

Remember OP:
You are important in this world and do a lot of good I’m sure without even realising it. Don’t let this incident distract you from feeling good about yourself. Life is challenging enough right now without superfluous distractions. That’s all she is, an unhealthy superfluous distraction if that helps?

Good luck OP

This must be comment of year right ?? 🤣🤣🤣

I think this would work well. I'm a coward, but I think even i could pull this off.

That's horrific. What the hell is wrong with some people?

I'm no coward and am well able to handle confrontation if it comes to it, but people like this are a liability. The idea of being embroiled in a street brawl, irrespective of circumstances, is mortifying. And no matter how unfair this may seem, what people will see is two women brawling, not who is the perpetrator and who the victim.This was a serious assault @Lisajane47 and I don't in any way blame you for hitting back in self-defence: I'd likely do the same, but would be as devastated as you sound that someone had managed to make me descend to this sort of level.

As to OP's situation, much as I'd hate someone to feel they've intimidated me, this isn't about who wins the stand-off. If at all possible this is someone to avoid like the plague. Rather than waiting until she's at a distance where she can barge into you, it's best to remain aware of where she is and keep as great a distance between you as possible. Ensure you can see her coming from a mile away and that you can get away before she can close the gap. Or change your route: anything not to have to encounter this loony. If she escalates, I'd seek non-emergency police advice about harrassment.

I know how tiresome it will be to have to keep a constant awareness of someone's presence merely to maintain your personal space and boundaries. But people like this tend to have the nasty capability of really ruining someone's day.

Sorry you've had to experience this.

I would simply ask if she's been to Specsavers lately as she clearly needs it seeing as it's not the first time!

My first thoughts are as others have said.

But, my second thoughts want to know if she could be neuro diverse and trying to ‘bump into you’ to make a friend.

you need to work out if it comes from a place of maliciousness, or wanting a sense of belonging.

I will admit that I'm just done with those games. I'd most probably look her in the eye, and say, "No you aren't. You do this every time you see me. Now, move out of my way."

Actually, you'd be surprised what some women are like. I have been on the receiving end of hatred from a few women, for absolutely no reason whatsoever. They knew absolutely nothing about me, yet went out of their way to cause me as much gruef as possible!

😂😂😂

She sounds unhinged. Don't engage with her whatsoever. She will get bored and move on.

Go carefully - I am sorry to give you another thing to worry about but my Dad "told off" a school mum over something when I was a kid and that Mum then encouraged her daughter to bully me - see if you can spot from a distance which child (ren) she picks up, are any of them in your childs class ? These things can sometimes start with something innocent our child has done like sat down at their childs lunch spot or started playing with their childs best friend - I feel for you, hope you can thaw her out somehow

I’d stop walking and stand in front of her until she walks round. And look at her deadpan as she walks round. You’re not playing her game and she’ll know it

Honestly? Walk directly into her. So not move round her. She wants to play silly games she'll win a silly prize.

@WayUpHigh1 did you have an encounter with her this week?

That's very intimidating. Have you spoken to other mothers about this. Maybe speak to head of school to see if they have a problem. You could report her to the police. They may make a visit to her and give her a warning. You must feel very uncomfortable. I hope things improve for you.

Get her a white stick. Obviously has problems seeing large objects right in front of her.