Is this school mum trying to intimidate me??

[WayUpHigh1]

This sounds really weird but I’ve had a few encounters with this school mum now and every time I’ve seen him it happens. Few times outside the school gates and one time in a shop near the school. She seems to be quite loud and ‘out there’. Anyway, she will just be walking normally and then when she sees me she will purposefully come towards me and into my path and block me walking and I have to go around and then she said ‘oh sorry’ with a laugh in her voice. First time it happened I just thought nothing of it but it keeps happening.

Just stop - look at your phone - and wait till she goes round you

Stop dead - look at her "Oh good morning. Did you need something?"

She sounds mentally unwell.
i wouldn’t engage AT ALL.

if I saw her again I’d stop walking ( ie be completely stationary not moving at all) At the side of the pavement and turn slightly away.

get your phone out and appear engrossed in it.

dont register her presence and let her walk around you.

hold on to your phone in case she bumps you!
If she does give minimum reaction.

Alternatively I’d cross the road.

I would under no circumstances feed the crazy.

@HeapsOfStuff s advice is probably what she is DYING for you to do. So I wouldn’t play into that at all.

I also wouldn't do a clever comeback on case she escalates. But you should walk straight into her.

Stop, and chat- pretend you’ve assumed she did this because she is wanting to catch up. Smile, be really friendly and say hi how are you?? What are you up to? Lovely weather, have you plans for summer? I haven’t booked that far ahead but I do love the local walks .. with expectant pauses for her to reply.

She’s a bully looking for a fight. If she barges into you and you don’t move she’ll turn it around and accuse you of bumping into her.
Avoid her and talk to the school or police. Have it on record that she’s been intimidating you.

Avoid her, this may not be the worst of it.

Walk round her, ignore her, it's her problem not yours, she sounds vile and looking for a reaction. Pretend to be on your phone, don't even look up, chat and laugh on your phone and let her look the stupid one. She's absolutely not worth it. Totally understand why it feeling intimidated, you've got this.

You could try it this way: " next time you do this deliberately I will put you on your arse" and carry on with your day

When some idiot does this to me I stop completely and let them walk around me.
A Billy big balls type [wanker] did this once in a B&Q car park and stood in front of me I was wheeling a large, heavy trolley loaded with cement bags and wood.
We stood facing each other for a few moments until he had to back down. He walked past muttering " Bitch." I ignored him, I don't give a shit anyway.

Terrible advice! Move out of the way, so the bully can carry on with the intimidation? Hell no!

You’re just going to have to be direct. Next time, just ask
her, “Why do you keep
doing that?”
Call her out. Embarrass her.

Goes old are you all? I honestly couldn't imagine this scenario.

“Is it because you want to be my friend but you don’t know how?”

I don’t think I’d even bother taking her on, chances are it’s unintentional for whatever reason, poor spatial awareness, social skills etc.. If on the other hand she’s crazy, or a bit rough and looking for some drama, you’re still better off just ignoring.
Maybe try walking with purpose, or being engaged in your phone so she has to move if you must, but can you really be bothered with trying to get one up on a potential loon with a chip on her shoulder.

*WiseBiscuit" 21/06/2024 11:27

Don’t move and say loudly “are you drunk?” Preferably loud enough so all the other parents hear.

"Are you drunk AGAIN?"

As soon as you see her move into 'your lane' on the path, stop still and fold your arms while staring at her as assertively as you can. If necessary "Lady, you need to learn to walk in a straight line. People will start thinking you're drunk".

Only do this if you have the intention and the ability to carry it out. Never make empty threats.

Stand your ground. Don’t be flustered and dodge at last minute, just do it. See what happens. If she walks right up to you and stands there like a lemon can guarantee she won’t do it again.

I think she is looking for confrontation, I wouldn't give her the pleasure. you could disarm her by saying "Hi, it's you again, we must stop meeting like this. I had no idea you were so keen to get to know me". All said with a friendly smile.
I had a road rage incident on a country lane recently. The other young female driver was pissed off that I didn't reverse, even though she was the one 2 yards from a passing place. As she pulled past me she wound her window down and started f'ing and blinding, asking did I want to come and have a go. After I got over the shock, I just smiled and said "Lovely to meet you, I hope you find peace". Her jaw dropped and she drove off!

There’s a cunt like this at my sons school op I believe you

Everytime she would try to take the piss either at the school or in the shop I would just ignore it the fucker will soon get the hint. I can’t say anything because I know my son still has to go to the school and I don’t want it to let it know it bothers me. It’s a trash bag and trash behaviour

50 now, was 40, almost 41 when it happened. My Mum had just died and I had been dealing with this woman's shit for years by then. I was deep in grief and really not able to take crap from anyone (yes she knew my Mum had just died). Was it an overreaction? Yes. She barged into me, and it knocked me over and I wailed like a child. It wasn't planned, it happened and I reacted and she fucked off and left me alone from then on.

Social disapproval is a very strong emotion - having loads of people rush over to help me (who also knew my Mum had just died) and tell her to be more careful in future was probably way more effective in getting her to leave me alone than my throwing a punch at her face would have been. Nobody likes the disapproval of their peers and "tribe" - that's why banishment is such a feared punishment and why so many women on here write posts about how hurt they are to be excluded from group activities or that friends have turned on them and they're now no longer part of the gang.

There. You admit you don't have any imagination so there's the full story in black and white.

Really? Threatening her on the school run?

The only way this works out well is if the other mum is both a) scared to get into a physical fight with OP and b) puts importance on "not being a grass".

Otherwise you end up with OP fighting this woman while parents, children and probably staff look on, or OP getting a phone call from the school/police after the other mum tells them a version of the story where she hasn't been purposely trying to start something.

If I was going to say anything to this woman, I'd find her on SM and message her asking if she wanted to talk, seeing as she kept stopping and looking at me when we bump into each other. Don't be shy, I'm friendly and would love to make mum friends!🥰

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