Is this school mum trying to intimidate me??

[WayUpHigh1]

This sounds really weird but I’ve had a few encounters with this school mum now and every time I’ve seen him it happens. Few times outside the school gates and one time in a shop near the school. She seems to be quite loud and ‘out there’. Anyway, she will just be walking normally and then when she sees me she will purposefully come towards me and into my path and block me walking and I have to go around and then she said ‘oh sorry’ with a laugh in her voice. First time it happened I just thought nothing of it but it keeps happening.

When you see her coming, increase your pace and swerve around her while otherwise ignoring her. She's looking for a reaction, don't give it to her.

It's like Patriarchy Chicken but with another woman. Same principle. Just don't move.
https://www.newstatesman.com/politics/2019/02/how-play-patriarchy-chicken-why-i-refuse-move-out-way-men

Next time let her bump into you and then say loudly
Look, I’m happily married. Will you stop coming onto me. I’m not interested.

Stop in front of her and have a chat! That will call her bluff.

“Wow! Time for Specsavers, Mate! You do this every single time you see me! Something very wrong with your vision!”

Don't move around her then. Just stand there and look at her. See what happens.

She’s a bully. Probably been doing this all her life

Didn't you post about this exact thing a while ago?

A school mum bully what a nasty person she is she's trying to intimidate you
I've come across quite a few mum bully's in the school pick up drop offs it's sad really
I gave it too much thought which depressed and upset me don't let this bully do that to you you're better than that
Feel sorry for the poor children she's bringing up watching that behaviour because it won't just be you she'll act like that in all walks of life when she spots a vulnerable person

I had this even as a pedestrian. It's always the young females that won't reverse ten feet but expect me to go back twenty five yards, then start effing and blinding. Usually with small children in the car. Sorry, I have right of way over a car. Young blokes, by contrast, can't display their reversing fast enough. Both get a smile and a thank you, but it's only the women who yell effing bitch.

Shoulders back, chest out, make yourself look huge (intimidating) - then stop dead - until she moves.

Or open your arms wide, close your eyes and pucker your lips.

I've got someone who does the same. I do what @VWT5 said.

I don't move, I mean I end up looking like a bouncer but I don't care.

She thinks she's the queen bee. I just think she looks pathetic.

The earphones go in and I stand where I always stand. I'm there to collect and pick up my son not be bullied.

Actually I will be honest and say I have been practicing this successfully for a few months with some of our “European cousins” who walk in pairs holding hands and covering an entire footpath….whilst watching us Brits meekly scuttle off the pavement to let them pass.

No more - I can now identify as a tank 😁

Get/print out Specsaver leaflets and give her one each time. Stuff it in her hand/neckline or wherever you can.

It’d be awful if you were holding a cup of iced water with a very flimsy lid, as she walks into you.

Poor kid(s) of hers

European cousins?

As she changes direction towards you squat down to sort out your bag, tie your laces etc.

Goodness knows what's going on in her head! Is there any history with her that suggests it may be malicious? Perhaps it's her idea of a joke?

Anyway, you can dodge aside with a merry laugh or just stop still and see what happens. Do let us know!

She has the mental age of a school bully

I would completely blank her. Always

She's not worth the wnergy

Hard to say from a description but as you sure she isn't just wanting to say hello/chat?
If I saw someone I knew coming toward me I would move directly in front of them and stop about 5ft away....to allow everyone else to pass, then smile, say hello and ask how they are.....but if they just kept walking and went around me I would think they were rude and trying to avoid me??

I'd be (fake) friendly to her to the point it freaks her out. "hello, I've never seen you before. Are our kids in the same year? Nice t shirt. What you doing at the weekend?"

Or if you have the guts, don't move and stare her out.

I hate people like this, as if she could be bothered such a weird bully!

I don’t understand her motives but it sounds purposeful, whatever it is she’s doing.

I get why people are saying it’s best to keep ignoring and not show you’re bothered by her, but the problem with that, is she might think you’re a pushover & keep doing it.

If it was me and she did it again, I would have to say something like “ooo,we have to stop bumping into each other like this” or laugh and say “this is getting a bit weird now, isn’t it?” OR if you see her obviously heading your way, I would stop & move to the side as if to let her past, smile and say “ we keep walking into each other, so you go first”

Haha yeah the bending down at the last minute sounds funny, also just standing still too. Both of those options sound the best advice.