To think that owning your own home doesn't give you the right to be rude and entitled?

[k2493]

AIBU to think that owning your own home doesn't give you the right to be rude and entitled?

We have been having issues with our neighbours and how entitled they appear to be for years now. i.e please stop allowing your guests to park where they block our driveway.

We have asked the agent but we keep getting told try to have a discussion.

Well I finally had enough and politely asked must you constantly allow your guests to block our driveway? It's making our life very difficult. The response straight away was Do you own your property? Nope. Well we do.

What the actual? I am genuinely confused. Does it really matter in this day and age whether you rent or own? DH says he's a twat because it should have nothing to do with money but if he wants to play that game, we pay 1.5 times more in rent than he does for his mortgage so he needs to get a life.

Also I appreciate there have been some bad tenants in the past but there's a lot of us good ones and I appreciate not all home owners are this bias but surely this is bang out of order lording it over and thinking it's there god given right because they own and we don't. I work with clients needing housing all the time so I know how severe the housing shortage is at the moment. Surely anyone who is keeping a roof over there head at the moment is doing a great job mortgage, tenant or otherwise. Why do we deserve less respect because we are renting.

Maybe he means by it that he doesn’t have the option to move but you do?

I'm not saying that it's a conclusive correlation in all cases; just that the kind of people who dedicate their lives to starting petty squabbles and throwing their weight around trying to find any 'reason' to 'prove' that they are somehow better than everybody else - they own and you 'only' rent; they've lived here for 40 years and you've 'only' been here 20 years; they have a fancy expensive new car and you 'only' have an older modest model etc. - are frequently the exact kind who will also go with the same stupid, nasty mindset that they 'must be better than you' because, erm, they happen to have skin that's a different colour from yours.

I don't think it is silly, actually; or at least no sillier than the ideas that the homeowner idiots have already begun.

This kind of homeowner (and it isn't the majority of us who happen to have been fortunate enough to get our feet on the property ladder - it's only a minority) usually base their imagined 'superiority' on the 'fact' that they are more prosperous and pay more for and have invested more in their homes and are therefore worthier than somebody who pays a 'little' monthly fee to be allowed to 'bunk' there temporarily.

In fact, there are loads of people (including us) who wouldn't have a hope of being able to afford the much higher market rent for their homes, if they hadn't been lucky enough for things to fall into place in the past so that they now have their names on the title deeds, instead of a landlord owning it.

Totally agree with this (and I am a homeowner)

It's revolting that some people think they are better than someone else just because they had to good fortune to get on the housing ladder at the right time

I agree that there is no end to the justification of the entitled knob! Nowt to do with reality in the Land Of Meeee

Not really the point of the thread though either way.

Eh? How does it affect the value of a house - and the surrounding houses - if X owns and lives in it or if X owns it and then Y pays them to live in it instead?

I can understand if it's council/social housing in a place where a few antisocial nightmare families have been placed, who then get a reputation that is grossly unfairly extended to the whole social-housing development/area; but that's very unlikely to be the case with private rentals.

There will be parking enforcement with the council. Call them when they block you in again. The ones in our area come within 15 mins. It's probably a bit of an earner for the council. Wouldn't even bother discussing with the neighbour. Owner of the car will get a ticket. We did this on a few occasions with our neighbours. They have been more mindful of how they park their cars since then.

I once part owned and part rented a property on a scheme, some boys broke a football net in the park at my front garden and I asked them nicely to get their parents.
The mum screamed in my face that was I nothing more than a renter and my sort weren't welcome round here.
Next week we put the house on the market and moved within the year. I was visibly pregnant at the time and I didn't want my child seeing that type of abuse at her front door

Yet, ironically, HE is the one who is giving cause to the neighbours to want to move away from him!

It's funny how many smug owners will be aghast at renters being antisocial/unpleasant neighbours - yet they then go on to behave exactly as they are assuming that the (usually perfectly decent) renters will!

No one has any more or less rights in this case irrespective of whether they own outright, pay a mortgage or pay rent and irrespective of who pays the most…..it’s not a competition.

If your neighbour is blocking your drive and in so doing on the land which you rent then point this out to him.

They just sound like bigots who need to make themselves feel superior somehow - if not home ownership it would be something else.

When we bought our house the next-door neighbours (shared wall) were very outspoken about where they thought we should put our TV, how often they think we should have visitors, etc. Always watching what we're up to and commenting. Truthfully I was surprised when I found out they rent their house. But they're just busybodies. Renting vs owning makes no difference to anything.

Do you have a dropped kerb ? If so start getting the cars towed or ticketed they will soon stop